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How many of you m/c the 1st time & was fine the 2nd time around?

TluceyTlucey member
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I m/c the first time back in Sept at 7 wks when the u/s showed no heartbeat. I'm now almost 8 wks and have my first appt next Friday. I'm nervous and anxious...trying not too stress out...but I'm having off/on spotting, no cramping which happened last time. This would be my first child at 37 yrs old. and my doc said last time it was just 'bad luck' and there was nothing I could have done to change it and that I would be surprised how fast I would get pregnant the 2nd time around...well that is true..but I can't help to be worried...

Has anyone else gone thru this? And how do you handle the stress? 

 

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Re: How many of you m/c the 1st time & was fine the 2nd time around?

  • christina1313christina1313
    I had two miscarriages in Feb and Nov 1995, pregnant again in Jan 1996 and had my son in Nov 1996. Then had another son in 2000, now my surpise baby in 2010. Best thing I can say is to look at each pregnancy as a new beginning and not EXPECT anything to go wrong. It is very hard, especially if you have negative comments from people like I had to deal with. But look at each passing week as one step closer to your "take home baby". :)
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  • earollinsearollins
    I had a m/c in July and then got pg the 1st month I tried again. I'm now at 29 weeks and so far, so good (knock on wood). I know it's unnerving but I just tried to think positive and was extra careful with a few things--no massages at all, no mani/pedis, took it easy with exercise and no sex. I doubt any of that mattered, my doc said the same thing, it was just bad luck, etc. Week-by-week is key and then once you hit 12-13 weeks, it is so emotional! (in a good way).
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  • suzshacksuzshack

    I have.  I'm so sorry for your loss with the previous pregnancy.  I had preg. #1 at 39 and lost that baby after finding out she had the fatal chromosomal defect of Trisomy 18.  With that preg., our NT scan/screening results showed a 1 in 5 chance of a problem, and then CVS test found the trisomy and we lost her at 13 weeks.  It was really devasating, but we got the same words from the doctors that you did, that it was just bad luck & we should try again.  

    Okay, actually our situation was a bit more complicated because it took us a year to get preg. the first time, and then after the m/c we tried for 5 months without success and so we went to an R.E. to get checked out.  We ended up being diagnosed with "unexplained infertility", and did a cycle of Clomid with Injectibles and got our BFP on the first try!   

    The stress is tough to handle, but these bump boards helped me through a lot. I try to think positively & believe that things are okay, but really I couldn't commit to this pregnancy until we got through the screening tests & amnio with flying colors, and until the pregnancy got farther along than last time.   And even then, I have to say, I don't have the same sense of exhiliration that I had with that first pregnancy.  We're excited & delighted, sure, but there's a lot more worry and hesitation that we carry around as well.   

    I'm sure the spotting is extra-stressful, I had spotting with 2nd preg. (not with 1st) off and on for a few weeks around week 9-12 and I hated it.  The first spotting was red & I freaked out, went to the doctors office next morning & ultrasound showed baby was okay.  The doctor advised me that if the spotting was brown, it was probably not a big deal.  And from then on, the spotting was brown.  Still, I hated that spotting.  I hope yours stops soon!

    And I wish I had a great tip for how to handle the stress...  Walking or exercise helps, and I think just trying mentallly to keep yourself from being on too much of an emotional roller-coaster is a good idea.  Keep believing that things will work out.  That's my 2 cents.  (It didn't always work for me, but I did try to keep from getting too worked-up.before appt.s)  Maybe the "Pregnant after a Loss" board here would be helpful for you, too?

    Distractions are good too, if you can watch a movie or busy your brain with anything else at all, do that!  

    Sorry if I've rambled on too long here, but I wanted to share my story with you to say that, Yes, the 2nd time around can be totally different from the 1st!  Wishing you all the best & keeping my fingers crossed for you! 

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  • TluceyTlucey member
    Thank you all. My appt wasn't until next week, but I made a call to my dr. expressing my concern and I'm going to see her first thing in the morning tomorrow. Either way it'll be a huge relief to know what is going on...I know even after this if things are fine...I'll stress out when it's time for the CVS tests, amino and whatever else takes place during the pregnancy. This board has been truly wonderful!
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  • LyndaCarterLyndaCarter

    I carried my first without a single hiccup when I was 33. Miscarried at 35 in October and now this is my 3rd and it has had it's share of bumps, but so far baby is doing very well.

    I worry all the time and am constantly questioning twinges or cramping. It isn't easy but keeping busy has helped keep me from over-analyzing everything and getting too stressed and worried.

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  • princess_shellyprincess_shelly
    I had a m/c in Jan 2005 @ 13 weeks, there was a blood clot at the junction of the placenta & umbilical cord.  I got a BFP in Oct 2005, DS arrived June 2006, very healthy 8.5 lbs
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  • Monkey2007Monkey2007

    My first pregnancy was a missed miscarriage, but the second time, I ended up with my daughter and then had another miscarriage after that.  I'm now pregnant again and so far everything is looking good, but I find myself so anxious all the time.  I already had 2 u/s to ease my mind and I'm going to try to talk my doctor into a third before the first trimester screen.  I know that all this early screening can't stop a miscarriage, but it helps me emotionally.  

     All these pregnancies were from ages 37-40. 

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  • HeidiseanHeidisean member
    I had dd then 3 mc's and now I am pregnant again. See siggy for details. GL
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  • cheekyalicheekyali

    First pregnancy at 37 was a m/c. I did an IUI and had a D&C. Cause was a chromosome trisomy.

    This pregnancy at 38 is all good!

     Best of  luck of you

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  • Destin2BMrsCWDestin2BMrsCW

    I miscarried on my first pregnancy at 8 weeks two years ago.  The Dr. said that there wasn't a reason for it and to just try again but I put it off for a while.  I'm pregnant again now and due on July 11th.  I'm 37 and this is my first too. 

    I still hold my breath leading up to every appointment but the nervousness does lessen as you go.  You just have to trust that everything is going to be fine.

     Good luck at your appointment on Friday!

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