What to do for a coworker who miscarried?

Re: What to do for a coworker who miscarried?

• almostjennifer member

  March 2010

  Coming from someone who has had this happen...

  If you are close to her, send a card with a note expressing your condolences.  I really appreciated the people who acknowledged my loss this way.

  SAHM to DD1 (7), DS (5) and DD2 (1)

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• Tracy1011

  March 2010

  It really depends on the nature of your relationship.  A nice card to just say "thinking about you" is always nice, and just be there to support her, listen if she needs to talk. I'm sorry for her loss. It's tough.

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• firefightersgal member

  March 2010

  Send her flowers and/or a nice card.  Let her know you'll be there for her if she needs to talk.

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• ak071401

  March 2010

  When I went through this, I appreciated my co-workers who sent a simple email letting me know they were there for me if I needed anything.
  

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• hcmamm1

  March 2010

  I would just let her know that you are there if she needs to talk about it.  When it happened to me, I had one co-worker tell me that I could talk to her anytime.  She ended up helping me get through the really tough days when at work.
  

  BFP 7/6/09. M/c at 10w5d (8/14/09). Had D&C 8/19/09.

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• dale05

  March 2010

  I just had a miscarriage last week and my coworkers did the following for me. 

  - I was off for a couple of days and I had a planter basket delivered to my home. 

  - The day I got back a coworker brought me some lovely spring flowers for my desk.  This time of year that's always appreciated as it's kind of the time of year when you're sick to death of winter and ready for spring (I'm in Canada though so not sure what the climate is where you are).

  - A note or card letting her know that you're thinking of her is great and you can let her know that if she wants to talk you're there.  Just don't ask several times if she's okay, how she's doing, etc.  A lot of people ask that and sometimes it just gets to be too much.  I know they mean well, but when I'm at work I just wanted to concentrate on work and not think about it for a bit, you know?

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• firefightersgal member

  March 2010

  I'm not sure if you'll check this again, but I thought of one more thing:

  Try not to give her the 'sad face.'  I didn't want people to pretend that it didn't happen, but seeing people's sad facial expressions when talking to me made the tears come almost immediately.

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