NBR: Update on us

richardslove · March 2010

DH finally agreed to see a therapist regarding the issues that we've been dealing with since December/January. He went yesterday and said it was as bad and good as he expected it to be. The therapist really laid it out for him that what he did was poor judgement on his part, could have risked his marriage and family, and will take awhile for healing and trust to be re-gained. He said it was good to be able to talk to someone un-biased and un-aware of the situation and hear what he needs to do to repair our relationship.

I'm hopeful. I actually believe this will really help him and us in the long-run. If I can just have more good days than bad, we'll be on the right track. The anxiety and the wondering if it will happen again is still in my mind and I'm working on that through therapy as well. I suppose it will be better over time.

Thank you all for your kind words, thoughts, prayers, and being generally wonderful people and "friends".

rssnlvr · March 2010

Glad to hear the positive update and will continue sending good thoughts y'all's way.

shanwalk2 · March 2010

I'm happy for you guys, and are hopeful that the good days come flooding in... and the bad ones are few, and far between.

CollieJade · March 2010

Yes Left Hug

I'm hoping there's gonna be a salsa night in our future.

richardslove · March 2010

CollieJade:

I'm hoping there's gonna be a salsa night in our future.

K-you know it!! How about Saturday, March 20th?

Faon · March 2010

Good report. I'm rooting for you guys and hope that healing takes place and your marriage comes out stronger than ever on the other side.

Just out of curiosity, was his therapist male or female? Are you guys seeing the same person? Just curious because I went to school for that (LPC) and am wondering how the trends are going.

CollieJade · March 2010

richardslove:
CollieJade:

I'm hoping there's gonna be a salsa night in our future.

K-you know it!! How about Saturday, March 20th?

That's the weekend we're doing Ferber on Baby A. What about sometime in April?

GuavaGal · March 2010

I'm so glad to hear he's taken this postive step, and that you're feeling hopeful about the situation! I am wishing y'all the very best moving forward, and I hope there are lots of great days ahead.

richardslove · March 2010

CollieJade:
richardslove:
CollieJade:

I'm hoping there's gonna be a salsa night in our future.

K-you know it!! How about Saturday, March 20th?

That's the weekend we're doing Ferber on Baby A. What about sometime in April?

Hey, I'm up for salsa dancing anytime, March, April, May.... Big Smile

smb29 · March 2010

So glad to hear something good and hope that there are better days ahead!

richardslove · March 2010

Faon:

Just out of curiosity, was his therapist male or female? Are you guys seeing the same person? Just curious because I went to school for that (LPC) and am wondering how the trends are going.

For me, I wanted to see a male therapist. I felt like I needed that perspective, but ended up seeing a woman, which may have been a mistake (or maybe I just have found a male-bashing therapist). I can tell she's pro divorce, but attempt all efforts first kind of approach. I'm pro "give it the college try, unless there's physical/emotional abuse involved and divorce is last option to be considered".

My DH wanted to see a male.