How involved were/are you in planning your shower?

CourtneyR2N · March 2010

I have a tendancy to get obessessive about stuff that I am involved in so I really don't want to be very involved with planning my shower.

I had lunch with my aunt today that is going to throw it for me and she was wanting a lot of imput. I told her that I wanted to be surprised and be able to relax and enjoy it and not stress about details. We decided that I would pick the place to have it, and make out the guest list and that would be it.

Is that pretty standard or is the mom-to-be more involved than that?

jiffy-pop · March 2010

I haven't had a baby shower yet, but for my wedding shower I gave my input on what kind of food I wanted and the guest list. That was about it! Oh, I also helped decorate b/c I'm a control freak sometimes.

MCC1010 · March 2010

Not a whole lot - the hotess' picked the date, location, invitations, food, decorations (although I did get a sneek peak) and games. I helped a little bit with some minor stuff like the favors and giving some money. I also bought a few gifts for the games to help out financially. But I bought dtuff and handed it over to them.

CourtneyR2N · March 2010

I only have two food requests, chocolate cake with whipped cream icing and dean's french onion dip with chips *yum*.

We only had one little kink, my aunt wanted to have it at the same place that my cousin had her's. I told her that it was lovely, but I would really like to have it someplace different, I didn't want to copy what my cousin did you know.

Apparently my grandmother is micromanaging from behind the scenes. My aunt has tried to tell her that it isn't time to start planning it yet, I am only 10 weeks, but once my grandmother gets going there is no stopping her.

taagent · March 2010

I was given two options for a date and picked one. That is it!

scubaspot · March 2010

I had nothing to do with my showers. I was asked if I had a preference in food and guests and I was asked if I liked one of the locations but other than that I had no input.

BLykins16 · March 2010

taagent:
I was given two options for a date and picked one. That is it!

This. I picked a date since I have to travel for the shower.

DaniLovesPink · March 2010

With my shower for DS, I did the invitations and ordered the cake myself, because I'm anal and a control freak. However, with my bridal showers, the only thing I did with the one my mom/MIL hosted was help my mom fill out and mail the invitations, the rest was done by the hostesses. If I'm blessed with a shower(s) for this baby, I will completely stay out of it, as I realize now how fun it is to not know what to expect and be surprised.

jennygirlmt · March 2010

I had no input in my bridal showers and I really have no input on these. I provided a guest list, agreed that a co-ed would be fine and other than that nothing. I told them I didn't even want invites until after the shower (for my scrapbook) since they gave away the theme :-)

Tulips21 · March 2010

my friend is threwing a "friends" shower... and asked me for a list of friends. I know she would prefer to have it be a suprise so I said that was okay with me and she could even host it at my house if she wanted... just make arrangements with DH.

Then I gave her 2 suggestions/request... #1 was that there be no baby games... I just don't like them and #2 was that there be wine for those who aren't expecting... I always hated going to other people's baby showers and playing the games and not being able to have a glass of wine...

given there are no relatives- hopefully no one will be a stickler for traditions!

EastCoastBride · March 2010

Being involved in the date selection and the guest list is about as far as it should go. Sure, fine, throw in the location - if you were asked, no harm in expressing what you would like.

But honestly- the trend I see these days bugs me. People should NOT be involved in their own showers. It's a party FOR you - sit back and let people throw it FOR you. I see way too many "guests of honor" who want to take over.

Laursters · March 2010

all i did was make a guest list....i dont know anything else about it

LMark · March 2010

We chose the date and I provided a guest list. I also had some input on the menu since I'm watching my glucose.

MrsLadyCali · March 2010

I might as well throw it myself.. Ive done everything so far..

pinkcallalily · March 2010

I was asked for my input on food, date, & guest list, but that's it. I didn't want to be overly involved.

lolagrinnin · March 2010

I was asked for input on almost everything - and I pretty much just responded with "that sounds wonderful" about everything. I did prevent my mom from buying additional favors since that task had been given to my BFF to be in charge of and I didn't want BFF to feel like my mom thought what she was doing wasn't enough.

kochmcdiarts · March 2010

I am providing the place, guest list, and provided two dates for the shower, my SIL is picking the date out of those, and the time. I am also helping pick the games (using left overs from my sisters shower... lol) and providing some funds for the favors and prizes.

I guess I am a little bit of a control freak...

Mrs. Reckling · March 2010

I'm not really that involved. I picked out the invitations but I havent done anything other than that. My mom is doing my shower and I trust her.

lucisparents · March 2010

I just waited to be asked about certain things. I gave input when they needed it. I'm a control freak, but this has been nice knowing it's all happening and I don't have to do a thing!

funnibaby · March 2010

Guest list, answered questions about food/dessert likes and dislikes, other than that it was left up to the hostess.

asmalls86 · March 2010

Only because I am off work on short-term disability until my maternity leave.. I have helped do alot of planning. I have all the time!

MWoodside · March 2010

I didn't want to be very involved at all. I've planned enough showers in my day & I just want to enjoy mine. My mom & a friend of hers made the invites so they insisted I pick out the paper/ribbon for it so I did that. Other than that really nothing. Oh wait, I made the guestlist.

Lux_Diva · March 2010

You did the right thing. Although I was asked for a lot of input, I posted here and was flamed/advised Big Smile

to back off so I told my hosts I wanted to be surprised. So glad that I listened to that advice because it was good to walk in and be surprised a/b their choice of paperware, decorations, the cake, the favors... And my hosts did a great job all on their own and received lots of complements and referral requests.

bride2bsoon · March 2010

Just the guest list so I could give mailing addresses. I know the date, but other than that I don't want to know!

sarasek · March 2010

My mom is throwing mine, so she's getting my opinion on a lot of things. She's funding it, and hosting it, but we're having it at my house since my house is bigger and has more room for guests. She's also planning my sister's bridal shower and wedding in May, so I feel like I should help her a bit more seeing as she's pretty stressed about everything.

h2babe · March 2010

It really depends. For two of my showers--I have ZERO involvement, well except I gave them the guest list, and then they added their own guests (family members, since thrown by my mom's friends and MIL's).

For the one that this one friend offered to throw; she almost wanted me in every step of the planning. She started emailing/calling me almost every day about almost all aspects of the shower (starting when I was only 9 wks along!!!); while telling me how stressed out she was. She changed the date 3 times based on her availability--finally two other friends saw this and just asked her to step out nicely since I was getting stressed out.

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