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Let the fun begin *sarcasm*

inbetweeninbetween
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H calls at 10am this morning. Somehow I always get a funny feeling when the phone rings and get a sense that is him. At any rate he wants to talk about visitation.

We signed the divorce papers not even 3 weeks ago! He wants to know if he get can get dd at 5 on saturday and keep her until sunday night, then have her thursday the opposite week.

The divorce papers state that he is to have her 3 hours every wed. and 8 hours every sunday, with overnights starting on or after November 21st. (dd will be 18 months).

He's saying that his schedule isn't working out how he thought it would be, and with Sunday being his only day off he can't get everything done that he needs to when he has dd. Funny how I have her 24/7 and am expected to do everything! LOL He is the GM and is in control of his own schedule, he has always taken off when he wanted to, whether it be leaving the store early for no darn reason, or taking off and having someone cover him.

I really want  him to have a relationship with dd, but I don't want her staying the night with him yet. He claims to have quit drinking, but how am I supposed to know that? He moved out dec.8th and as recently as Thanksgiving night was wasted to the point of throwing up on himself.

I told him he could get dd at 5 on saturday bring her home at 8 and get her again sunday. Right now we only live 5 minutes from each other. He said that might could work, but for me to think about overnights.

What do you ladies think?

He also mentioned he saw I was getting a job on facebook. Why the hell is he still checking up on me?!

Oh and in other good news...the sheriff dropped off papers reguarding the house, so it will be interesting having a new job, and having to take off for court.

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Re: Let the fun begin *sarcasm*

  • ErinC27ErinC27
    If I were you I would stick to the CO to the T.
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  • KickFace6KickFace6
    I agree with PP. He make think he can bend your arm and get more time or other things.

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  • lnbohaclnbohac
    I agree with everyone else.  If you give him an inch, he will take a mile.  Stand up for yourself.  If he wants to see his kid and he can set his own schedule, then he can build in time to see her on the CO days.  As far as facebook, block him.  Simple.
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  • ErinC27ErinC27

    imagelnbohac:
      As far as facebook, block him.  Simple.

     I am nosey, so I  would just limit him and anyone he talks to so they can't see anything, but they stay your friends. That way you can be nosey but he can't.

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  • inbetweeninbetween

    We aren't friends anymore. I tried blocking him from my status and only letting him see pictures. The only pictures I add right now are of dd and considering he maybe has 10 of her, I don't mind that he sees them.

    I think it's funny that he still takes the time out of his day to check it, and yet he left because he wanted to. And he doesn't even try to hide the fact that he's checking it. This is the 3rd time he has made refrence to my facebook. LOL.

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  • meghan_mariemeghan_marie member

    "I really want  him to have a relationship with dd, but I don't want her staying the night with him yet."

    Tell him that. And stick with the CO

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  • achase123achase123
    Ditto, I would stick to what you agreed to.  I personally would not feel ok with DD having overnights with him, given his history of drinking.  Plus she is used to being with you and home in her own bed, I think it could be very confusing to change up her routine one day a week.  I know everyone is different but I know a few dads of DDs who don't have overnight visits.  Really, what is the point?  She is sleeping anyways and he can spend lots of quality time with her if he has her all day on Sunday.  IDK much about this because I am going to try like H3LL to have XH not get overnights due to his history of and continued use of meth.  GL!
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  • mommamelmomommamelmo member

    agree. If he wants to change the arrangement you need it to be legal.

    As for the overnights, if you aren't exclusively BF then maybe it's something to consider... I would LOVE to tell X that he cant have DD for over nights until she is 18 because he wont have the night experience with her when she comes like he has with DS

    Facebook, block him... or change your privacy settings. I have X, his friends and family pretty much blocked. I still appear on their friends page and they can see SOME of my info... But as for status updates/wall posts/ picture/etc. only what I let them see. They don't need to know my daily status updates or any of my photos but there are SOME things I share with them.

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