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Phantomgirl
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So now what?
Phantomgirl
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I posted last week that Fi had talked to BM about coming to an agreement out of court to lower CS. He told her to think about it and get back to us by today 
Needless to say we have not heard from her.
Fi has been having some medical problems lately and he has to go in to hospital in the morning for an colonoscopy. To make his appointment in the city he has to leave at 7am. As he has to go under general anesthetic I have to accompany him so this will affect visitation as we wont be able to drop SS to school. Fi called BM on Mon and Tue to work something out - she ignored his calls. He text her this morning to say he will not be collecting SS from school today and so far she has ignored him. Usually it is no problem to switch day but as it stands we will not see SS until next Wed.
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Re: So now what?
That sucks! I really don't understand how women can justify acting like that. Peope break up and have to co-exist because of children all the time...and many do it without trying to make the other miserble or trying to cause problems. Its so childish when one person feels they have a right to treat the other badly! Do you think she did it on purpose so you wouldn't see SS because she's mad about the cs thing?
Sorry she's still being difficult. Any idea what you guys are going to do about cs modification now that she never responded?
I think that she has decided that if he is going to reduce CS then she will not be accomodationg him in any way. Really we could have had SS last night or tomorrow night or whatever suits as we all live 5 mins from each other.
I think that he is going to have to file. Honestly I am not sure what the hell Fi thought we were waiting for. I do not like how he approached this at all, but I am staying out of it. He can handle it however he wants to be honest.
I hope everything works out with your FI and hs health improves.
What's the BM deal? You would think just oce in a while if a medical or some other emerency pops up she would be reasonable.
That sounds about right. This is what DH's ex does every time DH doesn't bend over backward to make her happy. It's really frustrating.
I agree that he didn't go about handling it very well. Maybe he was just trying to keep the peace or make things easier but it's time to file, let the court decide and be done with it!
This is going off on a bit of a tangent, but if you guys file to lower CS, will you also be asking for any more time with SS? I don't know if it makes a difference or if you guys are happy with the visitation as it stands. You live so close, I just assume it would be so easy for all of you to be able to come to a nicer schedule. If it works for you that's great! I was just curious.
P.S. I hope your FI's surgury goes well!
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I don't think we will Chrissy, in fact we are struggling to continue with Wed's. Fi has to collect SS at 3pm on a Wed and usually takes him back to work with him for an hour or so which SS does not really like. Also Fi drops him to school at 9am on the Thurs which is a late start for Fi.
Currently Fi has had to lay off several of his employees due to the economy so we were recently talking about the possibility of putting SS in an after school program on Wed so Fi can stay at work.
If we have kids we will have to have an after school program. Not sure it would be fair to request further visitation and leave him with a minder.
argghh, how frustrating all of this is, especially when things are so rough with your FI's business.
Truly sad if all of the goodwill efforts to maintain harmony for the sake of SS-especially all that you've done-cease to matter immediately when there's a possible financial issue that would affect SS even if he did live with his father full-time.