What boggles my mind...

vilaro · March 2010

...is why all the drive-byers would do so knowing that they're going to get flamed? You know they're reading all the other BFP posts and seeing them blow up. Why then?

Who would even want that kind of negative energy on what's a very happy moment for THEM?

That's the part that confounds me.

Done now. Thanks.

::Grabs some pinot and settles into American Idol::?

LadyXaverian · March 2010

You're assuming they pull their heads out of their arses long enough to lurk. There are 2 kinds of drive-by BFPs. Those who haven't lurked 5 minutes and those who are posting to rub it in our faces because we were previously 'mean' to them.

maleigh101 · March 2010

Lack of common sense.

Plus I am sure many lurkers feel a part of the board from reading everyone else's posts, then it slips their mind that they never participated and expect everyone to be happy for them.

mrshpark · March 2010

I have lurked for a while but only posted twice. As a newbie to posting I know better than to flaunt a BFP. The people who do this are selfish. It is depressing seeing all these BFPs today. Back to my vanilla wafers and chocolate frosting.

maleigh101 · March 2010

mrshpark:
I have lurked for a while but only posted twice. As a newbie to posting I know better than to flaunt a BFP. The people who do this are selfish. It is depressing seeing all these BFPs today. Back to my vanilla wafers and chocolate frosting.

Sounds yummy. I am contemplating something chocolate also after all of the BFPs today.

SaucySarie · March 2010

Pure idiocy...perhaps?

ColleenF1 · March 2010

I think some ladies do it b/c they are so excited and don't have anyone to tell. Plus they've never participated in a board before so they "get" the whole community idea. I'm sure some are malicious, though.

vilaro · March 2010

Yes, I suppose it hadn't occured to me to even think that someone would post on a board without first having some sense of whose on it to make it worth your while posting.

Elevated expectations of people have always been my downfall.

mrshpark · March 2010

It is well worth it. You should def. get some.

saturdaynightdoubletree · March 2010

FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.

LadyXaverian · March 2010

saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.

Ohhhhhhhh you wanted support. Got it. Here ya go.

jc51723 · March 2010

saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.

SO you never open the BFP posts of other girls and offer well wishes, yet you expect us to congratulate you?

Well that doesn't make much sense.

mchupie · March 2010

SarahL77:

saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.

Ohhhhhhhh you wanted support. Got it. Here ya go.

::dies::

jellyandcake · March 2010

saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.

wait, you never open them, but you posted your own? that doesn't make sense.

canthardlywait426 · March 2010

saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.

And you pulled the bitter card. Lovely.

itsmegin · March 2010

SarahL77:
You're assuming they pull their heads out of their arses long enough to lurk. There are 2 kinds of drive-by BFPs. Those who haven't lurked 5 minutes and those who are posting to rub it in our faces because we were previously 'mean' to them.

I get the revenge ones, but are there really women out there who POAS, get a BFP and think, "Let me find a random forum I've never participated in to share the good news!" I can't imagine why one would do this. Plus, at that point, why go to TTGP? You already are PG so you don't need advice and support for trying anymore.

jellyandcake · March 2010

jc51723:
saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.
SO you never open the BFP posts of other girls and offer well wishes, yet you expect us to congratulate you?
Well that doesn't make much sense.

great minds....

vilaro · March 2010

Oh darlin', I certainly never called you stupid. I don't know you well enough to make that assertion. Although, I don't believe you've never opened a BFP post and seen someone get flamed over it. As newbies, we are lead by example on these fronts.?

Just learn and try to cultivate a bit more sensitivity in these types of situations and I promise you, your posts wil be far better received.

Congratulations to you. It really is a beautiful thing.?

??

LadyXaverian · March 2010

flgirl79:
SarahL77:

saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.

Ohhhhhhhh you wanted support. Got it. Here ya go.

I'll throw in a pair of these too:

Flgirl.. have you been snooping in my underwear drawer?? Embarrassed

LMAO

jc51723 · March 2010

jellyandcake:
jc51723:

saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.

SO you never open the BFP posts of other girls and offer well wishes, yet you expect us to congratulate you?

Well that doesn't make much sense.

great minds....

Yes ma'am!

saturdaynightdoubletree · March 2010

jellyandcake:
saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.
wait, you never open them, but you posted your own? that doesn't make sense.

The times I've been on this board I respond to things that are interesting, I too have a question about, or that I might be able to help someone with. I have never come across BFP in a headline.

It's sad to me that you know nothing about me, except that I just found out that I'm pregnant, and I still manage to get under your skin. GL with getting what you want in life.. hope people are more supportive toward you.

ColleenF1 · March 2010

vilaro:
Yes, I suppose it hadn't occured to me to even think that someone would post on a board without first having some sense of whose on it to make it worth your while posting.
Elevated expectations of people have always been my downfall.

I never said it was right. I definitely have high expectations. I always seem to get let down, though...

ColleenF1 · March 2010

saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.

The thing is that you were flamed the last time you did a drive-by post. What were you expecting?

saturdaynightdoubletree · March 2010

SarahL77:
saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.

Ohhhhhhhh you wanted support. Got it. Here ya go.

cute... a little too much support for my liking!

canthardlywait426 · March 2010

saturdaynightdoubletree:
jellyandcake:
saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.
wait, you never open them, but you posted your own? that doesn't make sense.
The times I've been on this board I respond to things that are interesting, I too have a question about, or that I might be able to help someone with. I have never come across BFP in a headline.
It's sad to me that you know nothing about me, except that I just found out that I'm pregnant, and I still manage to get under your skin. GL with getting what you want in life.. hope people are more supportive toward you.

Wah wah wah. Were supportive to people who have been here for more than .5 seconds and don't pull a drive by with a post title that requires a masters degree in decoding to figure out.

itsmegin · March 2010

saturdaynightdoubletree:
SarahL77:
saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.

Ohhhhhhhh you wanted support. Got it. Here ya go.

cute... a little too much support for my liking!

I don't understand why you seek support here. You have a child and you're PG with a second. What type of support can a board full of women trying to conceive give you?

MaybeBaby2 · March 2010

saturdaynightdoubletree:
jellyandcake:
saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.
wait, you never open them, but you posted your own? that doesn't make sense.
The times I've been on this board I respond to things that are interesting, I too have a question about, or that I might be able to help someone with. I have never come across BFP in a headline.
It's sad to me that you know nothing about me, except that I just found out that I'm pregnant, and I still manage to get under your skin. GL with getting what you want in life.. hope people are more supportive toward you.

People are so repulsed by you because you have offered NO support to anyone on this board. You just said you didn't open up BFP posts? WTH is that about?
Because you gave nothing, you receive nothing in return.

vilaro · March 2010

saturdaynightdoubletree:
jellyandcake:
saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.
wait, you never open them, but you posted your own? ?that doesn't make sense.?
The times I've been on this board I respond to things that are interesting, I too have a question about, or that I might be able to help someone with. I have never come across BFP in a headline.
It's sad to me that you know nothing about me, except that I just found out that I'm pregnant, and I still manage to get under your skin. GL with getting what you want in life.. hope people are more supportive toward you.

Correction. YOU haven't gotten under my skin. I don't know you so that's not possible. Your unfortunate choice is what's most irritating especially on the heels of similar posts today.

PS - Try not to victimize yourself on public boards, dear. It just makes you more of a target.

LadyXaverian · March 2010

saturdaynightdoubletree:
jellyandcake:

saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.

wait, you never open them, but you posted your own? that doesn't make sense.

The times I've been on this board I respond to things that are interesting, I too have a question about, or that I might be able to help someone with. I have never come across BFP in a headline.

It's sad to me that you know nothing about me, except that I just found out that I'm pregnant, and I still manage to get under your skin. GL with getting what you want in life.. hope people are more supportive toward you.

Well we agree on one thing. Drive by BFPs are not interesting.

BTW, why are you still here? Wait. No. Don't answer that question. Just go to 1st tri or the Nov/Dec Mom's board. TTGP is not the place for you since you are not TRYING to get pregnant. Kthxbai.

jellyandcake · March 2010

saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.

see, this is where so many people have it wrong. you don't support every random stranger off the street, nobody has the emotional capacity to do that. a support group works by establishing trust, first sharing superficial information about yourself, and over time, sharing more intimate details. as you share, you gain trust in other people. many counseling support groups are CLOSED, because having strangers come in disrupts the openness and trust. so you can't compare this board to a support group and then expect to pop in and be treated the same way as people who have been around awhile, shared a lot, and SUPPORTED others.

this is a place to CONNECT with people, support comes after trust.

saturdaynight, i'm not really yelling solely at you, but all the others who whine about this being a "place for support."

Milliways · March 2010

Ladies, If we don't stop being so bitter and start being more supportive of strangers when we get PG our babies will look like this:

JennyAnne022776 · March 2010

mchupie:
SarahL77:

saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.

Ohhhhhhhh you wanted support. Got it. Here ya go.

::dies::

There you go Sarah! I've always taken you to be a good, reliable, sensible support woman. That looks like a sturdy, dependable bra.

vilaro · March 2010

jellyandcake:
saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.
see, this is where so many people have it wrong. ? you don't support every random stranger off the street, nobody has the emotional capacity to do that. ?a support group works by establishing trust, first sharing superficial information about yourself, and over time, sharing more intimate details. ?as you share, you gain trust in other people. ?many counseling support groups are CLOSED, because having strangers come in disrupts the openness and trust. ?so you can't compare this board to a support group and then expect to pop in and be treated the same way as people who have been around awhile, shared a lot, and SUPPORTED others.?
this is a place to CONNECT with people, support comes after trust.
?saturdaynight, i'm not really yelling solely at you, but all the others who whine about this being a "place for support."?

Well said!?

BabyRN2006 · March 2010

mrshpark:
Back to my vanilla wafers and chocolate frosting.

Damn you! That sounds delicious! I have both those things.... And I was doing so well on my diet today too. *must be strong*

maddiemoon43 · March 2010

saturdaynightdoubletree:
jellyandcake:

saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.

wait, you never open them, but you posted your own? that doesn't make sense.

The times I've been on this board I respond to things that are interesting, I too have a question about, or that I might be able to help someone with. I have never come across BFP in a headline.

It's sad to me that you know nothing about me, except that I just found out that I'm pregnant, and I still manage to get under your skin. GL with getting what you want in life.. hope people are more supportive toward you.

How can you miss them? There are multiple on the board right now (granted I have mine set to most recent posts/replies, but at least a handful from today alone.) I am not even interested in arguing the drive-by part or your intentions (a sincere GL and H&H, btw), but to say you've never seem the BFP headline...that I just don't buy.

LolliLately · March 2010

Milliways:

Ladies, If we don't stop being so bitter and start being more supportive of strangers when we get PG our babies will look like this:

::dies::

MrsSeli · March 2010

saturdaynightdoubletree:
jellyandcake:
saturdaynightdoubletree:
FYI this is supposed to be a site for support. Maybe lose the bitterness. Not everyone out there is selfish, or trying to piss you off. Sorry if my post tonight threw you over the edge, I guess I didn't realize it was a bad thing to post good news. Only reason I was "stupid" was because I never open BFP posts.
wait, you never open them, but you posted your own? that doesn't make sense.
The times I've been on this board I respond to things that are interesting, I too have a question about, or that I might be able to help someone with. I have never come across BFP in a headline.
It's sad to me that you know nothing about me, except that I just found out that I'm pregnant, and I still manage to get under your skin. GL with getting what you want in life.. hope people are more supportive toward you.

::butting in::

wow, you just hit the nail on the head!! they know NOTHING about you, so why should they care that you just found out you're pregnant?? THAT is exactly why drive-by posts get under people's skin...because they don't know you and aren't going to put on a happy face when a total stranger gets what they want so bad. If you were all vying for the same job, and you got it, you wouldn't likely call up all the other applicants to rub it in there faces, would you?

meanwhile, if you take the time to get to know them, and, more importantly, let them get to know you, they WILL be happy for you. trust me, I know.

::butting out::

ameliasmom · March 2010

maleigh101:
mrshpark:
I have lurked for a while but only posted twice. As a newbie to posting I know better than to flaunt a BFP. The people who do this are selfish. It is depressing seeing all these BFPs today. Back to my vanilla wafers and chocolate frosting.

Sounds yummy. I am contemplating something chocolate also after all of the BFPs today.

I am thinking cookie dough

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