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Fuming at in-laws
I finally got a night out, I was hoping to feed LO before I left, but didn't have time. I instructed in-laws to give LO 4 Oz of milk. He's 2 months old.
They gave him 5. Then I was hoping to be home to feed him for his bedtime feeding, but we weren't. They feed him again. and gave him another 5 oz, he started to whimper, so they gave him another 3.5 oz!!
He took it all, and I know some people will say that babies won't eat past the point of hungry, but my son will. He's 2 months OLD!! He doesn't eat 8.5 oz. They went through all my milk in the fridge, and then broke into my freezer stash....
Seriously!
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Re: Fuming at in-laws
TTC#2 October 2011. June 2012 diagnosed with mild PCOS and both tubes blocked.
10/1/12 miracle BFP 11/12/12 missed m/c (9w2d), baby stopped growing at 7 weeks
1/16/13 BFP, EDD 9/27/13, m/c 1/19/13
2/12/13 BFP, EDD 10/25/13 Please stick little one
A stowaway on board!
Nope-
'just "he was fussy, so we figured he was hungry"
argh....
I agree it's annoying but at least you got free babysitting with people you trust. Try calmly and nicely explaining to them that they really shouldn't feed him more than you say because he'll eat more than he needs and it could mess up your supply and his long term health if he won't nurse like he should because he's too full. It's stretching the truth a bit about his health, but that's what I told my MIL and she hasn't done it since then. The thing to remember is that a lot of people our parents' ages don't know anything about BF'ing. They don't understand that BM changes as a baby grows so they really don't ever need as much of it as they would if they were getting formula and they also don't understand about keeping your supply up.
Remember, they fed him more because they were concerned about him, not because they wanted to screw with you. As infuriating as it can be, just try talking to them nicely about it and it probably won't happen again. Once I really explained the whole supply/demand, changing BM concept to my mom and MIL they got much, much better about offering DD more than she needs. It's much better to have grandparents who understand what is going on and are on board and want to babysit.
I've dealt with this, too, and I totally agree: it's soooo frustrating. It's one thing when you've tried everything (or anything) and they aren't calm, but we had a care provider not try his paci...ever. She would just feed him again when all he needed after a feeding was to comfort suck. The only thing that solved it was me actually showing her that a paci was all he needed, not more food. I don't know what it is and I don't want to generalize about the older generation, but seriously...