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Shower timing... 32 weeks?
I just wanted to see what you ladies thought about timing of having a twins baby shower. Background: My younger sister-in-law is pregnant (5 weeks ahead of me) with a singleton. Her mother is insisting on mid June for her baby shower. My mom wants to wait at least a month after to throw mine, so family will be at both. July 4th weekend is out because of the holiday. So she wants to do my shower July 11th.
That puts me at 32 weeks (with twins) for my shower. I'm just a little worried that I'm gonna be HUGE for the shower or (God forbid, but still possible) that I can't be at my own shower if the babies come early. Are these things I should really be concerned about or do you think a shower at 32 weeks is no big deal...?
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Re: Shower timing... 32 weeks?
Way too late. All of your concerns are valid. There is no way in hell I would have been able to sit through a baby shower at 32 weeks. At 32 weeks you'll be measuring at LEAST 40 weeks (I was measuring 42) -- make sure to tell your mother this, most people just don't understand this. Furthermore, if you have to travel for the shower then I would say 32 weeks is a big big no no. Plus, you'll have absolutely no energy to wash the clothes, put things away, return items once you are 32 weeks.
I wish there was a good search feature on this board because this question is asked at least once a week and the general consensus is to do the shower around 24-28 weeks.
GL to you!
this is not necessarily true. I am currently measuring 33 weeks.
This is very doom and gloom sounding and hopefully won't happen for you.
Yes, I'm tired, but just had a shower 2 weeks ago and had a great time. It was at my house so I didn't have to go anywhere, and everyone else took care of the cleaning and whatnot.
No need to apologize, it is not your fault the bump has no search function to speak of. You can probably scroll down a few pages and find the posts, but it is a pain in the butt. The bottom line is that you have a high risk pregnancy, no matter how smoothly things are going to go for you, they can turn on a moment's notice. You will be measuring far more ahead and will be much more uncomfortable than a woman carrying a singleton. The average twin pregnancy is 35.4 weeks long, so that means 50% of twins are delivered before this time. This also means that your 3rd trimester technically begins at 24-25 weeks. These are all things that family members need to understand before they plan a shower.
I am only measuring 4 weeks ahead and honestly at 31 weeks I am still quite comfortable. Now if your shower will require travel then its not a good idea, but if its local then i think you would be fine.
If you are not comfortable having it that late, then blame it on the doctors. Tell them they said no traveling more than X time/further than X miles; mine did not want me going more than 1 hour away at 28 weeks. If it is at your house, do you think that they are going to clean before and after? If not, then all that work will fall on you. I had my shower at 32 weeks and was miserable, swelling, nothing fit, and I could care less about looking "cute" for a shower. While yes, you don't know what will happen or how you will be feeling, but I would push for an earlier shower. Like I said, blame it on the doctor, they can't argue with them and hopefully keep the drama at a minimum.
Wow robinsokj, I don't think my response was doom and gloom. I think your experience is more or less an exception. I think I'm realistic for the average twin pregnancy with average size twins and speaking for the general consensus on this board that I have seen expressed in response to posts like this.
Thanks everyone. Shower will be local. Even making it two weeks earlier would probably make me a little less nervous, but we are running a risk of "stealing someone's thunder"
(and I may have already done this "trumping her" with twins)
I'll be having mine at 31 weeks. At my house now that I told my mom were not going 1.5 hours away.
My sister in law is throwing me one and the options were at 26 weeks or 32 weeks. I nixed the 32 week one right away...
I'm only 18 weeks not but already pretty uncomfortable. I wanted to be as comfortable as I could be to really enjoy it. I am also a worst case scenario kind of gal and knew it wasn't THAT impossible for me to have delivered by then. Also, who knows, I might even have been put on bed rest or something.
Do it earlier!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We had mine planned for around 30 weeks and I was in the hospital on bedrest. It sucked to miss my own shower. I had to see the video.
If I could do it all over again, I would have scheduled it for around week 26 or 28. The twins came at week 33 for me.
32w would be way too late for my comfort. I missed my shower at 34w with my singleton pg b/c i was in the hospital - i certainly would worry about a 32w twin shower.
my "sprinkle" for the twins was at 28w.
After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
If your sister in law is having her baby shower in the middle of June, then why don't you shoot for the end of May? You would be about six months along by then. To me that sounds reasonable time for you, being with twins. I personally would feel hot and too big to have a baby shower. Unless it was in a pool, lol. I was pregnant with both of my sons (singletons) during the Summer and I was pretty uncomfortable.
At the same time, mid June would be good since you are having twins, but what can you do! Good luck!!!!!
This may be too late. I had mine around 27 weeks and I think it worked out well from a timing perspective. I was pretty big, but not huge and uncomfortable like I was at 32 weeks (I delivered my twins at 33 weeks and 4 days). If you are at all nervous about the timing, I would go with your gut and do it earlier.
I like the idea of having your shower significantly earlier than the other one rather than later. I had my shower at 28 weeks, am at 32 now, and it's like night and day. At 28 weeks I felt good, had a pretty "normal sized" belly, but I was wiped out by the end of it. At 32 weeks I'm achey, swollen, and way bigger than I would want to be as the center of attention. There is a lot of work to do after the shower (still working on it), and I would be very nervous and miserable just starting to tackle it now.
While it may cause a little drama for your family, that is simply because people don't get it. You have to be the one to inform them, and you shouldn't let stealing anyone's thunder worry you. Think how disappointed those hosting your shower would be if you were on bedrest or just visibly miserable at the shower. GL!