Registry - WWYD?

kayteatrudeau · March 2010

We have about 8 things on our registry including a stroller/car seat combo and a 4 in 1 Crib. Is it rude for me to put these on the registry? I feel really strange about asking for these but we need them?

DH's cousin is throwing me a shower on May 2 so I had to put something together. Other then whats listed we pretty much have everything we could possibly need.

The whole shower thing feels awkward.

starlight8323 · March 2010

I saw this advice in another thread, and I think it was great:

Try thinking of it as a list for yourself, to remember what you still need. Plus, most stores offer you a discount for things still listed on the registry after the shower.

If one of your friends can't afford anything on the registry, they'll find something else to get, like a cute outfit.

tbone_bride · March 2010

I agree! I was feeling guilty that I have so much on my registry (1st baby), but I will get a discount for anything left on it after the shower. Plus I think others appreciate a variety of gifts to choose from.

EuroChick · March 2010

I think putting pricy items on a registry is fine BUT I would try to balance it out with less expensive things. Especially since you can return the small stuff so as to get bigger items. Do you by any chance have a list of what your already have? Perhaps some of us 2nd time moms can suggest a few things to add? Also it is always good to put smaller items which you will need later in the first year on your registry for example toddler cutlery and plates, a potty, etc. those items really add up later on.

LauraF76 · March 2010

Me personally, no, my husband I did not put the major purchases. My parents offered to buy the crib the second we told them I was pregnant but for the other big things, strollers, PNP, swing, exersaucer, I just did not feel ok asking people for that stuff. We bought all the big stuff on our own and put the onesies, diapers, bottles, etc on the registry. I didn't even put bedding because my grandfather bought the bedding pretty much the second my mom told him I was pregnant. He got off the phone and went to BRU. = )

metzy144 · March 2010

Eaglefoot23:

I saw this advice in another thread, and I think it was great:

Try thinking of it as a list for yourself, to remember what you still need. Plus, most stores offer you a discount for things still listed on the registry after the shower.

If one of your friends can't afford anything on the registry, they'll find something else to get, like a cute outfit.

This. We put items like that on our registry so we could get a discount on them.

scottienme · March 2010

Where did you guys register that discounted the items after your shower or birthing date?

Aloe0l · March 2010

I think its fine to have it on a registry. Several times I've pitched in for large ticket items like strollers for friends or coworkers. You never know what people are going to want to get you, and you may get a group of people like your coworkers go in on a large item.

jenick · March 2010

So you have a registry with only 8 things on it total? I'm going on the assumption this is true.... if I were a guest coming to your shower, I would be totally put off. It's fine to have the more expensive items on the list, but you need to have plenty of price points on there for your guests with plenty of options for things people can choose from. You may feel awkward about a shower, but think what it will be like for your guests.

KathrynBurkart · March 2010

I would add them. But if you still feel odd, you could just like two of them. Then see if they get bought and then add the others. I plan on doing that with some expensive stuff. I don't want to put a ton of expensive stuff on. But I do plan on adding any expensive stuff that I still need the night before my shower so I can get them with the completion coupon. I know it's being sneaky.

shareleann · March 2010

I agree, think of your registry as a list for yourself. I put absolutely EVERYTHING that I want or need on my registry. The prices vary from dirt cheap to hella expensive. I don't expect anyone to get me the super expensive things, I put them on there so that I would remember (ya know, preggo brain & all, I can't remember anything!). This is my 3rd child, so I feel a little weird about having a baby shower & showing my friends my regisrty, but it has been 10 years since my last one, so I am basically starting over.

I also agree that you really should have more than 8 things on there. Throw on some baby towels, diapers, pacifiers, little stuff like that to give people more of a choice.

kimtritz · March 2010

I hope you have more than 8 things on there. If you really have only *8* things, I think that's tacky and you need to find a scanner. If I looked up a registry and that person literally had 8 "big ticket" items on it, I'd be put off and probably get something like onesies and a car seat toy.

I'm not sure if you meant 80 or 8, or what.. but: we made our registry like a shopping list b/c I got overwhelmed with a million things to choose from. We included the "big ticket" items, but at the request of my mom & SIL so they could remember which changing table, crib, mattress, stroller, carseat & pack n play we wanted. By the time our registry is "public" (we opted to make it private for now, b/c my friends are snoopers and i change my mind daily) those things won't even be available. Not like anyone will not know who got them. Our list has about 100 things on it and prices range from a few bucks to 80$, Most things being under 40$.

kimtritz · March 2010

And I just re-read the OP... if you have everything you need, as in, you have everything you'd have registered for if you had nothing to start off with (i'm assuming you got things at a previous shower, or you just have them), then have a onesie shower, or a diaper shower, or a book shower, not a shower to get 8 big ticket items.

CrystalD528 · March 2010

I would say that it is up to you, as you know your friends and family, since thoughts on this sort of thing seem to vary between regions.

I, personally, like to have some larger things on registries, so then people can get together and buy something bigger. I would sometimes rather have my money go towards a big item purchase than I know the mom/bride really needs, rather than something small that they are going to get several of. This has been what we have done in my office and in my group of friends for the last few showers we have all gone to. Again, it's all based on your preference.

Also, the discount afterwards is nice too!

Deltadawn8 · March 2010

Eaglefoot23:
I saw this advice in another thread, and I think it was great:

Try thinking of it as a list for yourself, to remember what you still need. Plus, most stores offer you a discount for things still listed on the registry after the shower.

If one of your friends can't afford anything on the registry, they'll find something else to get, like a cute outfit.

Great advice..... This is what we are doing, since BFF is determined to throw a baby shower for baby boy. I 'heart' my BFF.

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