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Dh and I attempted...

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to have sex this morning.  And god, it was awful!

First, any position just wasn't working.  And when we found something that was ok....I got a HUGE cramp in my leg.  So much I had to stop.  I had to get up and walk it off.  He did "finish" but the feeling for me was faar from"orgasmic".  I kinds just sucked it up to make DH happy.  I have a feeling it's going to be that way until LO is born.  Sucks.

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  • CodyAnnCodyAnn

    I have had some fails too - but mostly I just try different things until something works.

     I have def. been there with the leg cramp too - that's so miserable!!!

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  • Alyssa102Alyssa102 member
    lol!  We had to stop recently too.  It hurts so bad!  DH is scared he'll send me into pre-term labour.
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  • QuinnsarasQuinnsaras
    Keep trying! We went through about three weeks where it was awful for me but recently were able to get back to it and it's great! Don't give up!
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  • anabell0920anabell0920 member

    imageAlyssa102:
    lol!  We had to stop recently too.  It hurts so bad!  DH is scared he'll send me into pre-term labour.

    Sex will not cause labor unless your body is ready for it.

     We still have sex a few times a week and I enjoy it. I would suggest lots of lube and taking your time and getting worked up so you can relax and enjoy it. 

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  • CashewsMommyCashewsMommy member

    DH and I are kind of in a fight about sex. In his defence, he needs surgery to get his gallbladder removed. We're still not sure when this is going to be scheduled for various stupid reasons.

    A few weeks ago, I was really in the mood on 3 different days. I tried to get things started but he had a slight pain in his stomach and just wasn't into it. This really ticked me off because there have been MANY times in our relationship where I have not felt good, or not felt like it, and did it anyways to make DH happy. Like you said, i sucked it up to make him happy. He couldn't suck it up to make me happy?! Not once out of those 3 different days.

    So I finally said that we were not to have sex until he was fully healed from his surgery. Well, he hasn't had a pain in a little while from his gallbladder and wants to have sex. But i keep sticking to my guns and saying no.

    I have a feeling it wont last much longer though.


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  • loveyoubeanloveyoubean
    My vajayjay hurts from an especially intense pevlic exam on Thursday and we are done with the deed until my LO arrives... I don't feel well, I am huge, and there is just nothing sexy about "down there" right now unless you are into jungle themed sex sessions.
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  • AlisonLynnAlisonLynn
    Ugh sex...DH and I did it Friday night for the first time in months. Literally it was at least before Christmas since the last time. It was awful and I yelled at DH the whole time. He stopped and said he was done. Then I felt bad so I MADE him do it. It hurt so bad...I think labor will be easier! We're pretty much done with sex for a while...sorry DH!
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  • hoshicathoshicat member

    We had a period where we couldn't because my hips were in so much pain, but I realized the pressure was in my hips and not in my lady bits, so we still have fun if I can find a good position.

    As for cramping, our major fail last time with that was when SO got a leg cramp as he was finishing... it was very very awkward... hahaha

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  • LeighAnne1941LeighAnne1941
    We had sex last night for the first time in a few months and while the sex was good today was not.  Every time I walk or change positions on the couch it feels like my pelvis is be split apart.  UGH.  We may have to try a few different positions to find one that works better.
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  • carichancarichan
    My friend is a Passion Party consultant so I have attended at least a dozen of these type of parties.  DH and I are still currently able to figure SOMETHING out when we attempt sex, but I did buy a "Gigi" and some lube for him in case I'm not able to in the coming weeks, or for after LO is born.  My DH says it definitely is a decent alternative, and you can help or he can go solo. ;)  I can give y'all the name of my friend if you're interested and she can hook you up!
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