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sleepingbeauty825
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Anyone have labor regrets?
sleepingbeauty825
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I was induced two weeks early and while I was way excited at the time to get the baby out, looking back I feel sort of sad. I feel like I missed out on the, "Holy cow, I'm in labor!!" feeling and the excitement of rushing to the hospital. I was miserable because I was still working FT, but if I hadn't been I would regret going two weeks early (especially since I ended in c-section anyway). Do other induced mommies feel this way? What do you regret about your L&D experience?
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Re: Anyone have labor regrets?
I had the mirror and got to see his head but every time I went to push it was easier to close my eyes and push so I didnt see him finally come out...it's all a blur now anyways!
That was my thought at the time, because I kept closing my eyes as I was pushing. Thanks for making me feel a bit better about it!
This, As well as sticking to my birth plan. My biggest thing was that i only wanted DH and I in the room as well as our photographer, and I ended up having my mom, sister, and others in the room during labor, and my mom and sister during delivery, but i think if i would have had less people coming in and out while i was in labor, i would have been more focused as well as DH, he was so busy talking to everyone in the room to have anything to do with me, but i did not want to be a B!tch so i did not say anything. Looking back I wish i had, but still happy with the outcome!
Just with DH was a little more "in tune" with my needs and not dealing with everyone else.
Oh, and I SO regret not asking/telling DH to put LO against my face. The first time I got to touch my baby was about 45 minutes after he was taken out of my tummy.
And I regret not taking more photos of him the first day. I was exhausted, drugged and nauseous, but I still wish I had sucked it up for 5 minutes and had someone pass me my camera... :-/
My only labor goal was to get the baby out, so I have no regrets! I wasn't interested in the experience of it. It was just a means to an end.
There was nothing to be done for it, and I am certainly glad to be here alive, as well as have a live baby, but I wish I'd been able to experience "giving birth". I didn't. What I did I don't think you can even call a labor experience. I was asleep for the whole thing..missed them pulling him out, missed having him put on my chest, missed seeing him as they took him out of the room...
I think, if I had it to do over, I'd do it the same way, since it was the safest and most realistic way... but I feel like I didn't even have a baby. And since he still isn't home, that feeling is pretty much perpetuated every day.
They said that Jack's retractive lungs would likely have been an issue no matter when he was born, but he is off of the CPAP now and breathing on his own. Mostly they are keeping him now because, 1) he is jaundiced, and 2) he hasn't learned to eat yet. So, we are teaching him to take a bottle, and hopefully he'll get to come home this week!
For those that don't know: retractive lungs essentially means he was breathing, but his lungs wouldn't expand, so he wasn't drawing in enough oxygen to survive. With the help of the CPAP machine, the muscles in his chest developed over the course of a few days, so his lungs now fully expand. At this point, his only breathing issues occur when he gets too excited; he forgets to breathe in deeply.
Not really a regret, but something I missed. There was a small sign of pooping when my water broke. When he was born I seen him for a few seconds and then off he was to get checked. Him being checked was the best thing in this situation. I just wished that I had that direct contact after. DH actually got him before I did and they did not let me have him till after I was all fixed.
A few minutes later DH's and my family stormed in the room. I'm not kidding. They wanted to see him and I let him go. I just wish I could have been a little more selfish.
I went into the ER thinking I had gallstones or something. Turns out I had developed severe preeclampsia all of the sudden. I didn't even have a camera, so our first pictures are from the day after he was born! One of the nursery nurses took a few pictures of him for us so we have a few I guess! I just wish I had brought our bag with us, even if I didn't think it was baby related.
I regret that my 3rd and final baby was a c/s. Obviously there was nothing I could to to change the outcome any more than I did (Frank Breech), but I still regret not having that final labor and delivery. Don't get me wrong. I am glad everyone is here safe and sound and that the final outcome is what matters.
I have had the "honey, I think it is time to go" labor and it was great. I just wanted it again.
My OB did make a joke of saying that I have had every labor/delivery story now.
1. Induction with Pitocin/Vacuum.
2. Natural labor and delivery
3. Breech baby with ECV (external cephalic version) and c-section.
I wish my c-section was video taped. DH was able to take 1 super personal still photo. It's not something I'd really show people, but I absolutely love that photo.
I don't know if it's a regret though. DH was by my head and super supportive the entire time. He wouldn't have been able to manage that and a video camera.
In hindsight, I would have asked for pitocin when I first got to the hospital to progress my labor.
My water broke at 38w 3d at 4:30am on 2/9 and I did not deliver my daughter until 2:07pm on 2/10, 33.5 hours later. Needless to say, I developed an infection in my placenta (chorioamnionitis) and pushing her out became emergent. My fever was out of control topping at 104.5F and my baby and I both had to have antibiotics. We are both fine, but the whole thing could have been prevented if I would have been given something to progress my cervix faster.