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Bummed Out Vent and Dust Request (long)
I'm pretty sure a month or so ago I posted that my MIL was having some testing done on her left breast because of bleeding and discharge coming from her nipple. Well, she has had a few different tests done, that have found 4 masses in her left breast. My MIL has a history of breast cancer in her family, her mother and grandmother both died of it in their 40s. She is having a surgery scheduled for the very end of March to have the masses removed and then tested. Thankfully, this is only in her left breast.
I'm upset that DH is going to get to fly up to Colorado Springs to be there with her during and for a few days afterwards to help her out and make her feel comfortable. (DH's parents are divorced, so MIL is on her own.) I know it is his mom, but I am very close to my MIL and consider her my second mom. I don't have the leave at work to go up with DH and it makes me so upset. I've used some leave this past month because I have felt so miserable so far during this pregnancy and we have a Colorado trip planned for the middle of June that I really need to have 40 hours of leave for. It just sucks that I can't go and help her. She was down here the weekend of the Super Bowl, which was when I first started feeling really lousy, and she did everything she could to make me feel better and comfortable. She cleaned my entire house too. I just wish I could give that back when she needed it.
I'm also a tad nervous about DH flying alone. I've always been deathly afraid of flying, I've never been able to get over that fear. I know it is just my anxiety, but I'll be a nervous wreck while he is up in the air on his own.
Thanks for listening to me vent and act silly about DH flying. Any extra dust you can send my MIL's way would be wonderful... I know how powerful that stuff can be. 
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Re: Bummed Out Vent and Dust Request (long)
Hope the surgery goes well & they're able to get it all out. Those symptoms are how my mom found her breast cancer as well (and she'd recently had a mammogram where nothing was found) - so ladies, pay attention to what's coming out of your boobs!
I can imagine how sad it would be to not be able to go up to support your MIL with your husband. Is she going to end up doing any chemo? If so, it may be that when your trip comes this summer, she'll appreciate having y'all around again to help out.
I totally get your fear. I am also terrified about flying. I am a nervous wreck when my loved ones are flying. I have actually been asked to never fly Southwest because of an "episode" I had on a flight a few years ago
I'm sorry your family is having to go through this. I agree with smb29; send her a note! On top of that, maybe you could send her a care basket with all of her favorite goodies. That way you can show her how much you care even though you can't be there with her.
Hopefully, June will be here before you know it!
I'm sorry to hear about your MIL. I'm sure the PG hormones isn't making this news any easier for you to deal with. I like the suggestion from another post that you send a note up there with your DH telling her how much you wish you could be there to help her. My thoughts will bewith you and your family. Sending negative test results dust your MIL's way.