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It shocks me...

preppynewlywedpreppynewlywed member
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how many people think baby showers are a right, and it is okay to ASK someone to throw one for you.

I know not everyone loves Emily Post, but doesn't a little alarm go off in these girls' heads screaming "TACKY!"

I feel like they may also be the girls that invited themselves over to play with others' Barbies when they were 5.

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  • jCamsquaredjCamsquared

    I confess, I asked my MIL to throw me one. HOWEVER she and my mom were already going to throw one big one, but I really didn't want a big huge shower (hated that with my bridal shower). So now instead of paying to rent a room they are each throwing an intimate shower in their homes.

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    imagejCamsquared:

    I confess, I asked my MIL to throw me one. HOWEVER she and my mom were already going to throw one big one, but I really didn't want a big huge shower (hated that with my bridal shower). So now instead of paying to rent a room they are each throwing an intimate shower in their homes.

    This is different than "No one is throwing me a shower, and I am entitled to free baby stuff, dammit!"

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  • blondie42107blondie42107 member

    Where I live, well I guess the families Dh and I have, a bridal and baby shower are pretty much a sure thing.  My sister wanted to help with some of the planning of her baby shower but she's creative and loves event planning as it's part of her job.

    I would NEVER tell/ask someone to throw me a shower.


     
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  • bancbevbancbev member
    I'm not having a shower.  I knew no one in my group would offer, my mom is dead and my inlaws all live out of state.  It honestly doesn't bother me one bit.
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    imagejCamsquared:

    I confess, I asked my MIL to throw me one. HOWEVER she and my mom were already going to throw one big one, but I really didn't want a big huge shower (hated that with my bridal shower). So now instead of paying to rent a room they are each throwing an intimate shower in their homes.

    I see nothing wrong with this.  I'm hoping the same will be done for me.  My sister had two showers.  I prefer smaller gatherings.


     
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    imagejCamsquared:

    I confess, I asked my MIL to throw me one. HOWEVER she and my mom were already going to throw one big one, but I really didn't want a big huge shower (hated that with my bridal shower). So now instead of paying to rent a room they are each throwing an intimate shower in their homes.

    This is different than "No one is throwing me a shower, and I am entitled to free baby stuff, dammit!"

    I know, but it still felt wrong to ask since they didn't volunteer to do it that way. Stupid, I know haha.

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  • preppynewlywedpreppynewlywed member

    imagebancbev:
    I'm not having a shower.  I knew no one in my group would offer, my mom is dead and my inlaws all live out of state.  It honestly doesn't bother me one bit.

    I didn't think I was having one either.

    Since I don't live close to either family, I just never planned on it.  It just so happened that my sister called and said she wanted to have one at the end of March.

    Either way I didn't really care.  I'm more excited to fly home and see my family than I am for the actual shower.  I only get to see my parents and siblings maybe twice a year if I am lucky.

    I told her she could just invite people over for coffee.  No shower necessary.  I'm not sure what she decided.

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  • two-pink-shoestwo-pink-shoes
    I completely agree with you.  I also think that if someone does offer to throw you a shower you shouldn't be a brat about the details.  My mom's best friends are throwing mine and I haven't been involved beyond telling them what dates I was available and sending the invitation list.  They asked my mom if I had preferences but I don't feel like it's my perogative to tell them what to do.  They're doing a really nice thing and I'll take what I get and be thankful for it.
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  • akaluttsakalutts member

    Here is my confession. Our management team Always has a shower for it's team members, whether it's the husband or wife who is part of the team, and even for 2nd, 3rd children.

    As part of the team, having participated in all these baby showers, if they were to not throw me one, I would be offended. Not enough to say anything, or act butt hurt over it, but enough to not participate anymore.

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    imageakalutts:

    Here is my confession. Our management team Always has a shower for it's team members, whether it's the husband or wife who is part of the team, and even for 2nd, 3rd children.

    As part of the team, having participated in all these baby showers, if they were to not throw me one, I would be offended. Not enough to say anything, or act butt hurt over it, but enough to not participate anymore.

    It think this would bother me too.  I know my office throws showers for people but it's been a while since anyone has been pregnant.  I'm just not getting my hopes up. 


     
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  • *LuckyMermaid**LuckyMermaid*
    it is tacky to ask. It should be thrown as a favor not a "I want my free stuff" type thing.
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