Is 4 kids a lot of kids?

la79al · March 2010

DH and I have #2 together on the way. He already has 2 kids from marriage #1. He says he is done after this one because '4 kids is a lot of kids'. We were watching Dog the Bounty Hunter last night and they said that they have 12 kids and I looked at DH and told him 'no, 12 kids is a lot. 4 still fit in the minivan.' So, is 4 kids a lot of kids?

Erin5849 · March 2010

To some it is a lot, to others maybe not.

I rhyme!

ougrad1 · March 2010

For us it would be but, for someone else maybe not.

TheNewMrs.H · March 2010

I don't think so. I'm one of 4 and my husband is also one of 4. I would love to have 4 kids someday.

RaphSandra2005 · March 2010

I don't think so, but there are plenty of people who do. Depends on the person/family/circumstances.

Gina418 · March 2010

For me it is. I have a friend who just had #4 in December and is talking about #5 - so for her, 4 isn't a lot! Depends on the who you're asking.

violetvirgo · March 2010

meh i think "too many" is relative.

dh and i plan on 4 - my mom (who had 4) thinks i'm out of my ever-loving mind. dh's parents (only 2 kids) think it's the best idea EVAR.

i guess it depends.

102503Natalie · March 2010

For me? Yes. For other people? No. My boss has four children and is a wonderful father. He does a great job balancing family and work life.

emiliemadison · March 2010

Financially, 4 kids is probably "a lot" for most people. Especially if you're paying child support for two of them.

ElizC · March 2010

For Dh and I yes. DH nor I want to require a special type of vehicle to transport our family in. 4 kids would require a 3rd row so it is no go for us. We both come from big families and 4 doesn't seem like a lot to me, but it is more than I want. DH is 1 of 8 and I have a crap load of step and half siblings.

Lucky_Dragonfly · March 2010

i thinkits getting to the larger family size but I don;t think its also. My G-ma had 8 kids and their neighbors had 9.

MegGary · March 2010

Somedays one is a lot. lol J/K If I had more money & more help other than DH I'd be all over it. 2 will be my limit.

mary5198 · March 2010

For me, yes - financially mostly. I always say I'd have a dozen if I could guarantee they'd be just like Michael and someone gave me enough money to support them

But to each his own.

FolanMama · March 2010

I don't think we should be using Dog the Bounty Hunter as a barometer of good decisions...

And to answer, for me, yes 4 is a lot of kids. I'm a fan of replacing yourself in this overpopulated world. Not said with snark, but that is just one of my belief systems.

LynnJones · March 2010

I agree with it being relative. 4 for us would be a lot. I mean if they were all easy kids, then probably not, but 4 is still a lot to deal with, at least to me it is.

pixiedustie · March 2010

It would be a big family to me, something I always wanted. My DH thinks 4 is to many though Sad

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mrsjenni · March 2010

Although we want 3 kids, I think 4 is a good amount. I don't think it's "a lot" until it's like 6 or more!

goodtobethelarkster · March 2010

Four kids is more than average... I think the average American family has 2.5 kids or something, right? So I guess technically four kids is a lot... but I don't four is like a "Holy Crap!!!! That's BSC!!!!" number of kids.

And apparently for some families 19 kids isn't enough kids so whatever works, kwim? Though I think if I were Michelle Duggar's lady parts I'd flip her off and go on strike until menopause.

michellibell · March 2010

I'm expecting my 4th any day now... so no Wink 4 is not too many for me.

But 5 is Indifferent ha ha

violetvirgo · March 2010

FolanMama:
I don't think we should be using Dog the Bounty Hunter as a barometer of good decisions...
And to answer, for me, yes 4 is a lot of kids. I'm a fan of replacing yourself in this overpopulated world. Not said with snark, but that is just one of my belief systems.

DH and I are very much believers of this too. we're having 2 bio kids and adopting 2. glad there's others out there that recognize the insane overpopulation going on!

sunnyday016 · March 2010

Right now, 4 would be "a lot" for us, but we hope to one day have that many. I don't really think it's anyone's judgment call on how much is too much for anyone else. 4 (or 19) may be too many kids for you, but not for someone else. No one's business but your own.

Rubygirl · March 2010

To me, yes. Four kids would kill me. But DH's stepsis has four - two who are 18+, a 6 yo, and a 3 yo. Maybe if they were spread out like that it wouldn't be too bad.

Mrs.Momma · March 2010

I don't think so, but then again I want at least four, so I'm a little biased.

missfire · March 2010

I don't know if it's my socio-economic bracket or where I live or what, but NOBODY I know has very many kids. It was that way when I was a kid and still is among my family and friends now:

-- 90% of the people I know have either 1 or 2 kids.

-- The people who have 3 were just making one last shot at getting the boy or girl they didn't get in the first 2, if they were the same gender.

-- Those with 4 or more are religious, anti-birth-control nuts, or have combined multiple families after divorce/remarriage.

Not to be offensive to people making other choices. I like the idea of larger families, but never seriously entertained the possibility of having one myself. It just doesn't seem like The Thing To Do here.

PhilsWife07 · March 2010

IMO, 4 kids is just a big family. 5+ is a lot of kids.

skittles_123 · March 2010

Depends on the situation. For us, yes, it is a lot and too many for us. My dh would love to have one more, but I am done with the two we have. My older son is autistic and he keeps us as busy as two kids.

Quiksilver620 · March 2010

I think more than 1 is alot

MandC17 · March 2010

To me, 4 is a lot, but we're of the 'one and done' mindset, so 2 is a lot to me. Haha

Buckets of Moonbeams · March 2010

I would give my eye teeth to have 4 babies. But since we seem to only have babies with heart defects, we're done with 2. It really depresses me when I think about it.

htomeo · March 2010

We have 4...

2 are DH's, 1 is their half sister (same mom) that we have full custody of, and Willis.

I am constantly teasing DH that there is one more seat left in the minivan.

Echowysp · March 2010

It's all relative. I think we're done at this one, which will be 3. If we were younger, I think 4 might have been in the cards.

Weirdly enough, I think if all 3 were "mine", as in I carried them and had to deal with the baby years, I think we'd be so done at 3. But since this is only my second pregnancy, it doesn't seem as many. Does that make sense?

MissMoochie · March 2010

I don't think that it's too many. I was one of 4 kids and I always had someone to play with/talk to. If you have 3, it seems like someone would be left out.

WestCoastMommy · March 2010

To us, YES! But both DH's and my parents had 4 kids, we think they were nuts too lol

darci04 · March 2010

I always thought 3 was a lot, but now I have 3. 4 seems like too much for me though: )

Monkeybuttwhat · March 2010

We have two from DH's first marriage and and our second on the way. I think we are done after this one. 4 is a lot lol. At least I think so. Plus I mean if we have more than 4 what are we going to get...a conversion van lol?

LuLu38 · March 2010

If you can afford it, no, it is not. If you can provide emotionally, no, it is not. Otherwise, think again. Way too many people who procreate and end up screwing the kids.

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