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My DS is hitting alot

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Oh vey!  When he doesn't get his way, he hits me or my DH.  We tell him calmly not to hit and if it persists, he gets a time out.  I just feel like the incidents are increasing.  I need some advice.  HELP!
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  • BrewtowngrlBrewtowngrl member
    We have taught DS "nice touches"  if he hits he has to give a nice touch, and say I am sorry.  If he is really out of hand he goes straight to time out. 
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  • neverblushedneverblushed member

    See if you can catch him in the "wind up" phase. 

    I used to watch my son like a hawk when he was going through a hitting phase (at about the same age, BTW) and say, "Hey -- I see you're thinking about hitting me because you're unhappy!  Think about that!  Do you really want to hit?"

    If he managed to stop himself, I would praise him for being such a big boy.  Learning to control impulses is the biggest job of a child who's around 2.5.

    I would also encourage him to hit a pillow or to yell, "I'm MAD at you!" instead of hitting. 

    In my experience, if you stay on top of it, the phase doesn't last long.

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  • MrsT1209MrsT1209 member
    imageneverblushed:

    See if you can catch him in the "wind up" phase. 

    I used to watch my son like a hawk when he was going through a hitting phase (at about the same age, BTW) and say, "Hey -- I see you're thinking about hitting me because you're unhappy!  Think about that!  Do you really want to hit?"

    If he managed to stop himself, I would praise him for being such a big boy.  Learning to control impulses is the biggest job of a child who's around 2.5.

    I would also encourage him to hit a pillow or to yell, "I'm MAD at you!" instead of hitting. 

    In my experience, if you stay on top of it, the phase doesn't last long.

    Definitely. DD catches herself now before she follows through with it and will still apologize for almost hitting. 

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  • addison_clarkaddison_clark
    Ugh, the hitting "stage" was the WORST!  My son was the playgroup bully always hitting kids, it was embarrassing and time outs, explaining, yelling did not work.  It got to the point that I had to be a helicopter parent whenever he was around other kids to prevent him hitting.  And like the other posters said, catch him before he hits.  And ALWAYS follow through with whatever discipline you choose if you don't catch him in time bc hitting is not ok.  Eventually he learned to stop himself (it is actually really funny to watch him catch himself!)  Before playgroups or gym daycare we still always review that we don't hit our friends- we play with our friends gently.  And help your LO use their words, my son has a speech delay and I think that leads to a lot of his aggression.  Now that he can say "share please"  or "stop" that sstops a lot of fights right there!
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  • JillAlyJillAly member
    I start to "pretend" cry.  DS comes over, says he's sorry and gives me a hug.  It stops the hitting for a little while.  It makes him understand the consequences of hitting and how it hurts other people.  Now if it could stop it permanently!
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