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My son hates me...

laurel_howethlaurel_howeth
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He screams constently when I hold him. When DH holds him he is fine... it takes me forever to get him down for a nap. Ugh I finally just broke down and cried with him today. He just stopped and stared at me. I don't know what I am doing wrong. :/
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  • mistywhite400mistywhite400 member
    I'm sorry!  Maybe he's sensing your tension.  My Lo did this kinda...She only wanted me to soothe her & then at like 6 weeks she wanted DH to soothe her.  I hope it gets better for you!!! And he doenst hate you....your his mommy!!! Big Smile
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  • seanandcallieseanandcallie member
    take a deep breath mommy. he doesn't hate you, but i'm sure he can feel your tension as you wait for him to cry. also, i see you ebf. does he cry when you are nursing?
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  • alyssa7alyssa7
    I thought my son hated me too. I read somewhere that sometimes they can calm down just by having a quick change of scenery, example: having someone else hold them. He would be so upset for awhile, I'd hand him to DH and DS would be fine. DH is also more calm around him - I think he would sense that I was tense/trying to calm him down. It will get better!
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  • Temp937723687505543Temp937723687505543 member
    He doesn't hate you!  There is nobody more important to him than you- that's why he knows he can fuss to you and you'll still love him.  Whatever the reason for the crying, IT'S NOT YOU!
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  • grapeape73grapeape73 member

     LO 's  can sense the stress.  Try to relax.  There is no way he hates you.  You are the meal ticket.  If anything he loves you more than anyone else. 

    If you are nervous or stressed LO can sense that you are uncomfortable.  Try to walk around with him a bit, and then settle down to feed him when you are all quiet and relaxed.  

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  • laurel_howethlaurel_howeth

    Thank you ladies so much. I needed those encouraging words more than you know. I have just been sitting here crying since I finally got him to lay down for a little bit.

     I have had a hard week with DH going back to work and LO is just fussy/screaming all day. He naps for a little to just wake up and scream again. To answer a question, no he doesn't fuss or scream when it's time to eat. Also he is eating like every 1.5 hrs to 2 hrs instead of the 3-4 he was eating... could this be a growth spurt and can a growth spurt make them more fussy? Aw I love him so much and it hurts when he acts like there is nothing I can do for him. I knew this was going to be a rough transition just didn't know it would be this rough.

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  • CTri17CTri17 member
    imagelaurel_howeth:

    Thank you ladies so much. I needed those encouraging words more than you know. I have just been sitting here crying since I finally got him to lay down for a little bit.

     I have had a hard week with DH going back to work and LO is just fussy/screaming all day. He naps for a little to just wake up and scream again. To answer a question, no he doesn't fuss or scream when it's time to eat. Also he is eating like every 1.5 hrs to 2 hrs instead of the 3-4 he was eating... could this be a growth spurt and can a growth spurt make them more fussy? Aw I love him so much and it hurts when he acts like there is nothing I can do for him. I knew this was going to be a rough transition just didn't know it would be this rough.

    YES! this could be Jack's 3 week growth spurt. Don't worry he loves you very much, when Lucy has cried and I can't calm her and I end up crying she stops too, I think it freaks her out that mommy is crying too

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  • laurel_howethlaurel_howeth
    imageCTri17:
    imagelaurel_howeth:

    Thank you ladies so much. I needed those encouraging words more than you know. I have just been sitting here crying since I finally got him to lay down for a little bit.

     I have had a hard week with DH going back to work and LO is just fussy/screaming all day. He naps for a little to just wake up and scream again. To answer a question, no he doesn't fuss or scream when it's time to eat. Also he is eating like every 1.5 hrs to 2 hrs instead of the 3-4 he was eating... could this be a growth spurt and can a growth spurt make them more fussy? Aw I love him so much and it hurts when he acts like there is nothing I can do for him. I knew this was going to be a rough transition just didn't know it would be this rough.

    YES! this could be Jack's 3 week growth spurt. Don't worry he loves you very much, when Lucy has cried and I can't calm her and I end up crying she stops too, I think it freaks her out that mommy is crying too

    Ok good. I'm not nuts. BTW I love the name Lucy! I am trying to convince DH if we have a little girl next we should name her that.

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  • bakermommy10bakermommy10
    My DS much rather be in his swing or in the car than have me hold him.  I understand how much it makes you feel hated though.  I've cried over it too, but I've just come to realize as long as he's happy that's what matters.  This will probably pass...
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  • MarthaP18MarthaP18 member
    It's not you! DS does the same thing on occasion. Sometimes he just needs a "personnel change" and that's all it takes. It works both ways. If DH was with him most of the time, then you taking him would have the same effect. It's NOT YOU.
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