I'm so bummed out today...

EliStar · March 2010

So, my day started with a BFN at 12 DPO. Not the worst news in the world since we are only on month 3 of trying, but I've pretty much given up hope for this cycle.

Then MH showed up at the house this morning (when he was supposed to be at work) and announced that they changed his schedule again, so he's going to be working nights for the next month. Now that reeally depressed me because I had been getting used to having him home at night, and now I'm going to have to adjust to having him only two nights a week again. While I try to keep myself busy when he's working, it just sucks to not have him home. It's tough to be married to a chef. Not to mention that it's going to be hard to TTC when we hardly see each other.

On the bright side, it is *supposed* to only be for March. So hopefully in April his schedule will go back to morning shifts.

So I'm pretty down in the dumps today. I know these are petty things to complain about, since I'm leading a very blessed life, but I'm ready for April to be here already.

YapYap0813 · March 2010

((((hugs)))) I hope your day gets better for you! My husband works nights too and it sucks!

cocojack10 · March 2010

Oh hun, April will be here before you know it, and he'll be *hopefully* no longer working weekends.

Chin up! Grab some chocolate and enjoy this Hump Day! Maybe go out for lunch... gorgeous day out.

EliStar · March 2010

cocojack10:

Oh hun, April will be here before you know it, and he'll be *hopefully* no longer working weekends.

Chin up! Grab some chocolate and enjoy this Hump Day! Maybe go out for lunch... gorgeous day out.

yeah, that's the plan. I work with one of my best friends and she's trying to cheer me up with food. lol.

MrsJOSEnADRI · March 2010

Oh, Eli! I'm sorry to see you so sad and it's okay to vent. It must be really tough to have different schedules and not see each other as often as you'd like. I think you're staying positive by thinking that it's only a month. It'll be hard, but then in April he'll be all yours again! As for the BFN, just hang in there and don't put so much pressure on yourself. It might still be too early for a home pregnancy to detect. But, even if AF arrives later, 3 months really isn't a long time. As cliche as it sounds, it WILL happen and it'll happen when you least expect it.

If you need to keep busy in March, we can hang out anytime!

MrsLeanna · March 2010

{{hugs}} I'm sorry.

I agree with Jackie, maybe some fresh air will help cheer you up a little.

UMwife · March 2010

((hugs)) I'm sorry about the bad news. But April will be here before you know it and then you'll have your hubby back all to yourself. I know how much it sucks when they're not home all the time

cocojack10 · March 2010

Eli - I got the solution to cheer you up... look at C's picture! Always makes me smile. Oh, and Alexis' carefree spirit in Leanna's siggy is adorable too!

EliStar · March 2010

cocojack10:
Eli - I got the solution to cheer you up... look at C's picture! Always makes me smile. Oh, and Alexis' carefree spirit in Leanna's siggy is adorable too!

Yes, these gorgeous LOs do always make me feel better!

And Adri, we do need to gtg soon! It would be great to grab lunch or dinner one of these days or maybe I can come by and see the house when you guys are all moved in

chunky777 · March 2010

Aww Eli!! I'm sorry you're going through this. DH & I had a rough February (he worked the ENTIRE month...I think he had 1 day off) and the only time we spent together was for 2 hours a day. So I get it...but look on the brightside, it should be only for March. Think of that!! And the little time you have together....make it xtra special. ((big hugs))

mjz · March 2010

((HUGS)) I'm sorry you're bummed and having to deal with two kinds of bad news today. I hope you have a better day!

MrsJOSEnADRI · March 2010

EliStar:

And Adri, we do need to gtg soon! It would be great to grab lunch or dinner one of these days or maybe I can come by and see the house when you guys are all moved in

SheyandBeau · March 2010

I'm sorry you're down today. Try to stay positive about the cycle. Like someone else said your time will come when you least expect it. I'm not sure how stressed you get over it but I will tell you it doesn't help. I was told I couldn't have kids and that stressed me out so bad and I was determined to have a baby no matter what those docs said, and I stressed every month about it. I wanted to be a mommy so bad and every month it was BFN that I got to the point that I felt maybe the doctors were right. I did get pregnant a few times and they ended up in miscarriages. Then I kind of gave up hope. The month that I didn't stress over it and I just left it in Gods hands I got my BFP. So just try and relax your time will definitely come.

As far as your DH's schedule. I know it's hard, it sucks! Try and keep yourself busy and just spend as much time as you could when you are together. My husband works crazy hours, sometimes nights and most weekends. I feel like I never see him, but since we're on one income we have to do it. Hopefully your DH's schedule does change in April and you'll be able to spend more time together. Go to lunch with your friend, food always cheers me up! Big Smile

MrsJOSEnADRI · March 2010

Weird, I meant to add to that quote, that DEFINITELY! We wanted to do a gtg at the house for our bdays, but that didn't work out. We hope to be moved in in about 2 weeks, so I'll keep you posted. If you want to hang out before that, let me know.

MellyMelB · March 2010

<<hugs>>

Ugh, I hate getting so much crappy news in one day. Chin up!!! It will get better.

EliStar · March 2010

SheyandBeau:

I'm sorry you're down today. Try to stay positive about the cycle. Like someone else said your time will come when you least expect it. I'm not sure how stressed you get over it but I will tell you it doesn't help. I was told I couldn't have kids and that stressed me out so bad and I was determined to have a baby no matter what those docs said, and I stressed every month about it. I wanted to be a mommy so bad and every month it was BFN that I got to the point that I felt maybe the doctors were right. I did get pregnant a few times and they ended up in miscarriages. Then I kind of gave up hope. The month that I didn't stress over it and I just left it in Gods hands I got my BFP. So just try and relax your time will definitely come.

Yeah, I'm not really stressing about it. God's plans are perfect, so unless we go a lot longer without any success, I'm not going to worry. It's just a little disappointing, of course, feeling so hopeful and then seeing the negative result. I was much more bummed about MH's schedule change.

I can't believe the doctors told you you couldn't have children That's awful. I'm so glad you were able to prove them all wrong!

SheyandBeau · March 2010

That's good that you have that positive attitude. Yeah the schedule change is tough. My DH had to go out of town all of Decemeber for work, talk about being bummed. They allowed him to come on Christmas eve and leave the day after Christmas, but it sucked not having him around and me being alone with the baby.

I should rephrase what I wrote. They didn't say I couldn't have children, they said that because of my immune system disorder that chances are I wouldn't be able to but there was that slight chance I could. They made it seem like it would take a miracle. So because I had that 1% chance I didn't give up and yeap now I have what we call my little miracle baby.

MrsVictoriaB · March 2010

I'm sorry you are bummed *hugs* I hope you get your BFP and hubby home for good in April!

southmiamiwifejen · March 2010

I'm so sorry, Eli. That is definitely tough

I hope that this month goes by quickly for you so that you can have Anthony back to yourself and have new cycle to try for your BFP. hugs!!!

sandye · March 2010

I'm so sorry to hear that Eli. I imagine how bummed out you are. But who know's maybe April is going to be YOUR month. You know what they say everything happens for a reason. Keeping my fingers crossed for great news in April.

Now turn that frown Sad upside down Big Smile

Albah · March 2010

Oh no! So sorry today has not been exactly a good day. I hope that BFN turns into a BFP really soon! And like you said, it's no fun not to have hubby around much, but at least it's only for 1 months! ake advantage of the time you are together and have fun!