go ahead, flame me, i dont care... UGH (RANT)

sevenonesix · March 2010

My best friend in the entire world just told me she knows what I"m going through. That the month she was due, was SO hard for her. Except she chose to end her child's life. She chose to lose her child. SHE CHOSE THE LIFE SHE HAS, CHILDLESS.

I. DID. NOT. CHOOSE. THIS!!!!!

SO, NO you do NOT know what I'm fuckkking going through!!!! DO NOT TELL ME YOU KNOW HOW I FEEL. OR THAT WE ARE IN THE SAME BOAT.

*side note* I don't not judge her for her choice... in fact i know that it was the best choice for her..... but it is NOT the same. and I'm SO sick of her telling me she understands. Maybe she does, to a point.

But its just not the same.

*sigh*

bbhalphen · March 2010

I'm so sorry. It's NOT the same!

happyhoopla · March 2010

I'm so sorry and you're definitely right in that it's not the same. Shame on her for even suggesting that. People seem to forget that we're not only mourning the loss of a child, we're now forced to deal with the reality that our futures as parents are uncertain. *big hugs*

kazpin · March 2010

No Flame here.... I agree with you.... Sorry you have to go through it

TravelinMama · March 2010

I am SO sorry. You're most certainly right. That is NOT the same thing at all and I would have told her as much.

applebride40 · March 2010

(((Hugs))) I have a friend who is the same exact way and told me the same things right after I lost the baby. On some weird level I think they are trying to sympathize. It is a massive fail. You have every right to be effing annoyed by it.

mrsseguin · March 2010

I'm sorry. It's not the same.

mdm2137 · March 2010

I'm sorry. That's definitely not the same.

hutch0830 · March 2010

I totally agree with you. They are two completely different things!

candylies · March 2010

I understand the decision to have an abortion is a hard one that effects your life forever but it is so not the same!! so sorry she tried to empathize with you like that.

pepomntpat · March 2010

It is definitely not the same. {{hugs}}

EmKo0210 · March 2010

((HUGS)) You're right. It's definitely ot the same thing.

ikissedthecook · March 2010

No, you are right. It's not the same. My best friend that moved in with DH and I tends to do the same. So I just avoid the subject with her out of fear of telling her off. (((hugs)))

mkoelker · March 2010

Your right, It is not the same at all. I'm so sorry you have to hear that. Hugs to you!

ksyknelvr73 · March 2010

As someone who has personally been through both kinds of losses (yes, I chose to end my first pregnancy-it was many years ago), it is not the same. Yes, the decision to have an abortion is hard and it follows you/haunts you forever. I don't doubt that your friend has dealt with some personal suffering or grieving of her own. But honestly, that is more guilt than anything...it's not the same as losing a baby that you wanted. Now that I have also had a m/c that was out of my control and it was a pregnancy I wanted, I have to face a totally different kind of pain. I know she was trying to help and maybe show you she can sympathize with you, but it's really just not the same thing.

denise_m · March 2010

I am really sorry

It is not the same and it's unfair of her to say it is. I know how rough that feeling is and how hard it is to restrain yourself from kicking her in the teeth.

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