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lmpdjc
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Vent~ My shower & my Mother
lmpdjc
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My BFF is throwing my shower this weekend, without any help or even the offer of help from my Mom. Fine, whatever. But, today, my Mom called my BFF to RSVP for one of her friends that wasn't even invited! My Mom knows I don't like this friend of hers, even said to BFF "I know she's not Laurie's favorite person, but she's been my friend for 27 years!'
I don't care. She's not my friend andmy Mom isn't paying a dime for this shower (where there is a per person charge at the restaurant), I didn't put her on the list or send her an invitation and I think it is totally rude of my Mom to do this! THEN, my Mom told BFF NOT to tell me, that she would tell me herself. This woman crashed my rehearsal dinner and wedding (other events my Mom was NOT paying for) with no invite, and caused grief with DH and I , since I was trying to keep the rehearsal dinner "wedding party only" so excluded his cousins.
Ugh! I am SO angry right now. Thanks for letting me vent!
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Re: Vent~ My shower & my Mother
Ugh! Super rude, I'd be upset too! I guess this woman has no shame, attending events she's not formally invited too, but I wonder why this woman means so much to your mom that she's willing to damage your relationship over it?
I'd have a heartfelt with mom and calmly discuss why you don't want her there. It might not help, but I'd want to get it off my chest. it would bother me that my mom was being so callous of my wishes.
You can tell your mother that if she insist of inviting her friend then she needs to pay for her -UPFRONT. Otherwise her friend is not allowed. Or you can just say no and be prepared to deal with the woman showing up anyway.
How annoying! I am irritated for you.
That REALLY sucks. How freakin rude. Can you call your mom and explain about the per person charge and that your friend can't fork over extra $$ for someone you don't even like? I think you need to try and nip this in the bud, or this lady might be at your kids birthday's and graduation party. Yikes!!
Good Luck!!
This. It is not like your BFF is having a buffet at her house and there will be plenty of food. It is at restaurant and more than likely a decent chunk of change per head. You need to call your mom and say this friend is not welcome. If she shows up, don't feed her or give her a seat.
It's not this lady's fault. It's your moms fault.
She needs to be bluntly told that you do not want her friend to attend.
I guess you can tell a tiny fib and say that the guest occupancy is maxed out?
Hope it works out for your benefit, its for you!!
This is so evil but just in case you don't think you'll get out of it you should have BFF put name cards on all the seats and leave no room for the unwanted guest.
I would tell your mom that your friend budgeted for a specific amount of people and that unless she is prepared to pay for the friend then the friend cannot come.
I feel for this friend as she probably doesn't even know what is going on.
This is what BFF said, too.
lol That would be funny, I'd never do it IRL, but the idea made me giggle! The problem is my Mom, though, because I'm sure her friend doesn't even know I don't want her there. (although lack of an invitation should of told her that much!)