I found out yesterday that I'm pregnant but we still want to move forward with the adoption process. As you can see from my siggy below this is my 6th pregnancy (with one going up to 17 weeks) but no children so I don't want to stop the process in case something happens with this pregnancy . We have our PRIDE courses scheduled for March, with 1, possibly 2 more home visits. Our 2nd home visit last Thursday we were told we would probably be approved late March/early April.
Also, our agency does not have a policy that we couldn't ttc while going through the adoption process. I don't want to lie but I'm just afraid we will be put on the back burner because of this.
Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
Re: When should I tell our adoption counselor? (pregnancy mentioned)
Exactly what I was going to say.
I would not tell unless you are close to actually getting a placement and/or after the first trimester. We told ours right away, but that was because we were close to a potential match and didn't want to go into that on false pretenses. Both the pregnancy and match fell through.
You know I am so excited for you and I hope this is your sticky baby! {{hugs}}
I've thought about what would happen if we got a surprise BFP during our adoption process. I'm pretty sure I would also wait until I was out of the first trimester before I told them unless I knew my profile was being shown.
I hope this baby is the one you get to take home and that your adoption proceeds as you'd like also!!
Our agency requires us to tell them of a pregnancy once it is confirmed.... meaning once a doctor has confirmed it, you have to tell them.
We got a surprise BFP just as we were about to start our in-home visits for our homestudy. Once we had confirmation via bloodwork and a heartbeat, we told our SW. They immediately put our file on hold.
We ended up losing the pregnancy at 7 weeks, but we were able to start right back up where we had left off as soon as we felt ready to.
Congrats on the pregnancy!! Sending you lots of sticky thoughts!!!
Hi! I'm glad I came across your post because I'm in a similar situation. We're currently waiting for a referral for adoption in Japan. Two weeks ago, I found out that I was 6 weeks pregnant. I wasn't sure when to tell our agency. We decided to wait until after the first trimester and until we found out that everything was ok with the baby. After reading the replies to your post, I feel like I've made the right decision.
Congratulations and best wishes to you!
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