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babyshower of 40 guest
what was your budget?
anyway I do it, I keep coming up with around $600.00
My husband and I are throwing our own shower for our first child because we don't have our mom's around and my sister is 10 years old and he doesn't have any...
we need to plan it now but aren't having it for a while...
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Re: babyshower of 40 guest
Don't be surprised if you get flamed for this, for many people think it's super tacky to throw yourself a shower (gift-grubbing is what it might be called).
Budget totally depends on where it is and how crazy you go. You can't tell without those details how much it will be.
I agree with PP. If you are planning on spending $600.00 on a shower, why don't you just spend that money on the things you are going to need?
Have a sprinkle or whatever they're called later.
this? What about aunts/cousins/friends that might be able to host a shower for you so you didnt have to do it yourself?
I don't think it's gift grabby and I personally get annoyed by people who do. If you are spending $600 on a baby shower, it's more of a party than anything. If you were in desperate need of things you would spend money on that as opposed to throwing a party. These occasions are meant to be celebrated with people that matter to you and not everyone has the luxury of having people close by who have the money to throw it for them.
It would depend on where the money is going as far as cost. How much is going to food, decorations, etc. I always look on craigslist for stuff, and I know this may be a long shot, but one woman was selling TONS of decorations for a boy baby shower for $5, like over $100 worth of stuff.
Good luck and I hope all goes well!
THIS!!!
This. Throwing your own shower is a no-no. You could do a "meet the baby" GTG after your LO is born...that would be the only acceptable option IMO.
This. A shower is not a necessity or a right, it's a gift people give you. It's weird to give one for yourself. I'd just use the money to buy stuff for LO. If people want to give you gifts they will anyway regardless of whether or not you have a shower.
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exactly, I want to have the fun of having games and making keepsakes for everyone to take home.
it's not about gifts for me it's about the celebration of a baby.
this is our first and we want to make it special and my husband has been so great at wanting everything to be perfect.
Thanks for the feedback everyone, but I don't think it's tacky. Like I said the last 4 or 5 babyshowers I went to were all thrown by the mom's to be.
It's a new age
Hope everyone enjoys the rest of their week.
I say go for it. After all the flames if you feel insecure about it, just call it something else...
I think it's funny that some people think it's tacky to host your own but they think it's completely okay for you to ask someone to host it for you??? hmmm, doesn't make much sense to me.
For my first shower, with my hosts permission, I included other people on the invite list. So I basically invited them myself. Is this tacky too? Who cares... We got together and had a blast! And the most important thing is that we celebrated something so special.
Well, in that case, it doesn't sounds like what you want is a shower. I think it would be a wonderful idea to host a dinner or luncheon to celebrate the impending arrival of your LO. You could still play games and have favors, but no one would feel obligated to bring a gift.
So what makes you think they can afford to buy you a gift? Have a celebration, but seriously, don't call it a shower.
But by having a "shower" you're expecting them to make a financial contribution in giving gifts for LO. And a gift is exptected at a shower.
I don't blame you for wanting a party, but I wouldn't call it a shower and I wouldn't put the registry on the invite - especially if so many friends are having a hard time. You could also do a Meet the Baby party after, which a lot of people do. Either way, it'll be a big expense on you that you will not recoup in gifts, which is fine if you're prepared for that (and it sounds like you are).
This.
Ummmm, it's kind of obvious that buying a $30 - $40 gift and throwing a $600 shower is just a little bit less expensive.
then throw a meet and great after the baby is born not before.
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Yeah, good point. Why don't you just do this?
No shiit, it's also kind of obvious that $30 or $40 shouldn't be spent on gifts when you're out of work in this economy.
OP, I think calling it a celebration of life is a good idea.
Asking someone to host a party for you is inappropriate too.
THIS. Then you can get exactly what you want and not rely on what people want to buy you. It's a win-win.
I don't think there's anything wrong with throwing your own shower; you're celebrating the birth of your first child with the people who are close to you! Yes, gifts are usually customary, but maybe to avoid "gift grabbing" say that gifts are not required; you just want the pleasure of everyone's company. I'm sure even if you specify that you'll still get plenty of clothes/gifts for the baby.
My sister is hosting my shower, but I'm doing a lot of the planning with her. It might be considered tacky, but we're having a lot of fun working on a project like this together.
As far as budget, we're getting a crazy good deal on the location because my sister knows someone who is an event coordinator at a golf course, so he's letting us use the restaurant for free, and heavily discounting food and drinks.
If your house is big enough, you might consider having it there to save a little bit of money, and having a mid-afternoon party so you provide snacks, but not a full meal. GL!
I agree with this. And to be honest, I had so many people ask me when I was having a shower and no one offerring to host one, that I told my mom I was just going to do it myself (since people were asking to come to one anyway) but she offered instead. There are going to be about 60 people to mine and she's spending about $2000 on the shower, not including the $3500 or so she's already spent on gifts for LO.
Honestly, if you're going to spend $600, why don't you just nix the shower and put the money toward the baby? If people are really your friends they would probably just give you a gift on their own time.
I don't care if people throw themselves a shower or not, but it's one of those things that is considered pretty tacky. You may want to consider a meet the baby party after LO comes instead.
I'm trying to picture logistically how this would work. If you're hosting, would you be leading all the games and stuff? It just seems strange for the mommy or daddy to be (the one's who should be getting showered) to organize all of this and do all the work. It kind of defeats the purpose.
Okay, for one- I don't think it's terrible to do your own shower. I have a friend doing mine, but I took charge and did the invites myself and am having it at my place. You may want to ask a friend or two to host during the event tho or to ask a few people to bring something.
You have way more guests then I do and I have a friend hosting- I'm helping with stuff behind the scenes - is there nobody that wants to help you?
Make the budget what you want. You don't have to serve a meal- could make veggie, meat, cheese, fruit trays... and have lemonade, tea, etc. Since you are inviting so many you may want rsvps- or write "send regrets to: and have your e-mail address on the invites" that way you know ahead of time if someone can't make it.
Good luck and do worry about comments because others don't understand. It's sometimes hard for people to imagine when they has so many showers being thrown for them to imagine someone not getting one if they don't initiate it.
If this is what you are comfortable go for it.
I had accepted the fact that my frinds and family live on the other side of the country and I wasnt going to have a shower. My co-workers surprised me and are throwing me a small shower this weekend. So, of course Im very grateful and pleasntly surprised.
This is a personal choice - you can do it and call it whatever you want.
Good luck!
Then have fun and good luck. Especially since you're friends have done this too, they're not going to think bad. Enjoy the time celebrating with your friends !!!