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I need hugs or help or something
I am ready to run away. Cara does not sleep and all she does is cry. I just don't know what else to do. I am a sleep training nazi so I am doing everything "right" and have since day 1 and her sleep/naps are getting worse instead of better.
And it's not like if I held her, slept with her, etc. she would sleep better. That makes no difference at all. She doesn't even sleep in the car half the time. She just cries.
I've seriously been looking into daycares for her because I'm starting not to care when she's crying. Because she does it all the time.
Ian never slept and Lila always wanted to be held, but they didn't cry like this.
Oh and she spits up constantly all day long.
I told the pedi about all of this at her 2 month check and he basically said "babies cry and spit up, it will get better". Her 4 month check is next week so I guess I'll bring it up again.
I had a full out breakdown in front of my cleaning lady today. That was fantastic.
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Re: I need hugs or help or something
Oh hugs, Amanda. I'm so sorry she is crying all the time!
I would really push the pedi to see about reflux. Is it possible she has a sensitivity to dairy or soy?
Jackson really was a rough baby until about 6-7 weeks when we figured out he had reflux (lots of spit up) and a dairy/soy sensitivity. I know you BF, so could you try an elimination diet (at least dairy) and see about Prilosec or something like that for her?
That sounds like a baby who is unhappy - all Jackson did when he was unmedicated and not on hypo-allergenic formula was cry. He was so unhappy.
ETA: I had to kind of push for Jackson's diagnosis, but my doctor agreed to try the meds so we could see if it made a difference. He still spit up but wasn't in pain. Does she arch her back or fuss while eating? The meds + formula change made a HUGE difference w/in 1-2 weeks. He was like a different baby.
Sounds like maybe sge has a reflux issue that could actually be bothering her more than just spit up?
{{hugs!}}
Have you considered taking her to a chiropractor? I personally think that some chiropractors are quacks, but I have also had a VERY good experience with one in the last couple of years and I took Cohen there when he was about 2 months old because he would scream every night for 4-5 hours non-stop. It was insane. He also had spit up issues, although he never seemed to be in pain while spitting, so I wasn't as worried about that. He saw the chiropractor twice and was a completely changed baby. I truly believe in it, as my entire family has benefitted from chiropractic. I could add more, but I'll leave it at that.
I'm so sorry you're having a rough time.
=( I'm sorry.
Is her pooping regular (for her age)? Is she happier when upright or anything like that? I know some babies cry for seemingly no reason other than "colic", but honestly, I'd want my pedi to be looking into more potential reasons in your situation.
I'm sorry, you must be so stressed. And tired.
She doesn't cry or arch her back when she eats, she's actually happy when she's eating.
Her pedi was pretty adamant that she doesn't have reflux and wouldn't put her on any meds. Maybe he'll feel differently now that it's still going on?
Possibly - but another sign of reflux is that they almost "overeat" and would be happy eating because initially it "helps" with the pain. I doubt she's overeating, but that could be why she's happy eating and then fussy afterward.
The thing is, it can't hurt to try the meds if she is spitting up a lot. I mean, the likelihood she is a happy spitter w/ that much spit up + fussiness seems almost impossible.
Alex (11/14/06) and Nate (5/25/10)
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Oh Amanda, I'm sorry! S was such a difficult newborn so I can relate to what you are up against. I pray your pedi can shed some light! for me, the newborn stage is torture and as much as I'm looking forward to a new addition....I am so not looking forward to having a newborn. I don't know if that even makes sense.....anyway---I hope you girls turn a corner soon!
I had to giggle a little at the thought of your breakdown in front of the cleaning lady! remember--some day you'll look back at it and laugh! xo
I've wondered about the overeating thing actually. She spits up so much but she's still gaining weight. And at bedtime she gets a bottle of pumped milk--according to the calculator on kellymom she should eat 3-5 oz from a bottle and she always eats 5-6 oz and would keep eating if the bottle wasn't empty.
Jackson was also still gaining weight when we had his reflux diagnosed. He also ate a lot, and then spit up a lot. It's worth trying, at the very least. I just think if she's spitting up all the time and is unhappy, it's really unlikely that she's just spitting up like babies do and is a happy spitter.
Sorry you're going through this! Hugs!
My DS was like this. He had severe reflux and it was the most difficult thing I have ever been through. They started him on Zantac at about that age. It helped but not as much as I had hoped. It really took for him to grow out of it at around 9 months before I got much sleep. Is she projectile vomiting? Does she want to eat a lot? I would try proping her up with a reflux wedge or in a swing/bouncy.
ETA: DS gained plenty of weight while he had reflux. He ate all.the.time. I think it soothed his throat. He was actually really content while eating. My doc said it is a vicious cycle- eat, spit up, eat to feel better, overeat, spit up more, etc.
HUGS to you. It nearly drove me insane and I didn't have other kids to contend with. If this pedi won't see you about it, I would be looking for another.
Both of my food allergies babies were like that. Actually C didn't spit up but my little girl was like the exorcist. I had to eliminate dairy, soy, egg and coffee for her. But it worked 100%. My son was just dairy/soy.
She does not sound well to me - I would go to a different pedi if this one won't help you. Hang in there!
eta: is she rashy? dark circles under her eyes? red ring around the anus? gassy?
This was just like my DD. The process of eating was soothing so she'd overeat and just throw up a lot.
Yes!!!!! All of those. She has a rash on her neck, but I just thought it was from wet bibs/spit up and the dr said the red on her bottom was diaper rash from watery BF poop, but it appeared at the same time that she started all of the crying.
And I swear my pedi is really good even though this post isn't making him sound like it!!
((hugs))
That sounds so hard to deal with day in and day out. I know your DH is gone a lot and that you're doing a lot of this alone. I hope your pedi listens to you at your next visit and that you can find a working solution soon.
Both my boys were like that, but Andersen especially. It turned out that they both had silent reflux in the beginning and it progressed to the projectile-vomiting-type. They both overate (is that even a word? It looks really strange). Andersen would have nursed 24 hours a day if I let him. Andersen was also later diagnosed with mulitple food allergies (milk, soy, eggs, peanuts, tree nuts and oats).
I'd try cutting out dairy and push for some meds to see if they help.
((hugs)) Sorry you and Cara are having a rough time.
Hugs, definitely been there!
Will she sleep in the swing? Do what you need to do. DD2 wouldn't nap well except in the swing. I was so determined to get her to sleep better than #1 so I was trying not to use it, but finally I just had to, for my sanity. She will take 2 hour naps now, so it didn't harm her at all.
Also, for her evening fussies, the only thing that would stop the crying was the swing. I felt bad just putting her in there, but she would stop immediately. No walking, strolling or bouncing was helping.
Hope it gets better soon!
Sounds like colic and reflux.
{{{hugs}}}
Sounds like we had the same baby! Sydney was like this. And OH MY GOD was it awful. Even now, at 15 months, she's still a cry baby.
I would like to tell you that it gets better. I guess for me, it didn't really get better until she could walk, and even then, she still wants to be picked up all the time.
The car thing got better once I turned her. I know it's breaking a nest rule, but I did it when she was 13 months and almost 24lbs. It saved our sanity in the car.
She's still not that great of a sleeper, and I sleep trained her too. She just had a way different personality than what I was used to. And both of my girls are pukers. I'd say maybe take her to a different pedi and get another opinion on that. Maybe she's got reflux and it's hurting her, so that's why she's crying and not sleeping. I wish mine had it, so then I could've called it something besides being a cry baby!
Good luck. I know how rough it is. HUGS!!!
A lot of doctors just aren't on their game with this! I saw one who muttered 'never heard of that' and gave me an eyebrow raise when I mentioned it. I'm like - whatever. You don't have to believe me!
I'm vegetarian too btw (well, I eat fish). There is a ton of things you can eat! All fruit, veg, grains, legumes, pulses. It's actually a really healthy diet. IDK why I always stop it when my kids outgrow it. I feel way, way healthier when I eat that way!
sounds like my sean, and a lot of others pp suggested with the acid reflux.
for his discomfort (he did arch and scream after eating). he was tongue tied and had latch issues and gas/spit up issues. sean was put on axid and soy, and with that and a few months of growing out of it too (the axid at least) he cried less.
and the 5 Ss in conjunction they soothed him. heck they soothed me. with matt? i had to maybe do one or two of them (maybe suck and sway) with sean is was all five at once. that he liked, and his crying would stop.