DH at first appt?

lalax · March 2010

I have my first appointment tomorrow (woo hoo) and DH is coming along. Clearly I want him there to hear everything the Dr has to say, as well as the fact I'm nervous for the whole thing. He's uneasy that men don't come to these appts and he will be out of place. Did or will DH come to your appointments - first appt or other ones?

ValentineBB · March 2010

My first appointment is next week and DH is going. He wants to come to all of them and I want him there.

madhatter2003 · March 2010

My DH came to them all.

The first is a good one since all the health history questions apply to both parents, and I had no clue about his family history on some things.

JhawkCE · March 2010

My husband comes to all of them, but he's usually at the hospital across the parking lot anyway.

They will probably be doing the works on you this time (pap). If you want him to step out until that's over let him and the nurse know.

Most of them after your first one are pretty boring.

Weight, pee in a cup, blood pressure, heart beat then out the door. I'm guessing after my next one (u/s) his interest will taper off esp. when I start going every other or every week.

bxrlvr2x · March 2010

My DH was at the first one & plans on trying to attend as many as he can. It's great time for them to learn what's going on with our bodies & ask questions if they feel like it.

lmkelker1 · March 2010

Seriously! Husbands need to come to doc appts. It's important that they know what to expect, see the baby and know how to support you.

Jodi2008 · March 2010

DH will probably only come to the appts. with ultrasounds. He didn't come to my first, it was just a basic confirmation appt., nothing exciting.

mrs.raz · March 2010

My DH wants to come to the majority, if not all, of my appointments. He said he would be able to be more a part of this pregancy. Plus it will help me not having to repeat everything the doctor said.

Greg also has a pretty weak stomach when it comes to medical things. I'm hoping by coming to more appointments, it will help him when the big day arrives.

Mesassa · March 2010

My DH went with me to my first appt. My second one is today and he can't make it, but I see men in there all the time with their SO. It was nice having him there for the first appt since the doctor goes through all the questions about family history/genetics/etc.

Tell him it's fine and perfectly normal. Good luck!

nosoup4u · March 2010

My DH came with to my first appt when I was pregnant with DS - I was about 11 weeks, and we got to hear his heartbeat on the doppler, so it was really nice DH was there for that. He didn't really come to other appts, though, except for ultrasounds. This time around, I've been going to prenatal appts on my own - the second time's less exciting, heh heh (and also, DH has a jobby-job as opposed to being in grad school like he was when I was pg with DS).

Anyhoo, it's totally not unusual to see women with their husbands/partners - I bet at least half the women who go to prenatals have them with.

LCB34 · March 2010

My appointments were kind of strange since I was working with a fertility specialist. My DH didn't come to any of my appointments at the fertility clinic once I was pregnant.

He did come to my first appointment with my high risk doctor - I thought it was very beneficial for him to take time off for that one as we went over more details vs the quick check up my fertility specialist did.

CourtneyR2N · March 2010

DH says that he will come to as many as I want him too. Right now we are saying the u/s appointments for sure, maybe more towards the end, we are just going to see how it goes.

I see men in the waiting room and ultrasound area all the time at my doctors office.

DiAnne82 · March 2010

My DH came to a majority of my appointments last time. I have a feeling this time around he won't come to as many just because it will be easier for all of us if he is watching DD rather than all of us sitting in the doctor's office.

IslandbabySept10 · March 2010

My DH will be at every appt he can make it to.

missesru · March 2010

DH will definitely be at our first appointment. It will be 13w3d though, so I'm certain we'll be hearing the h/b for the first time. I can't imagine him missing that one.

skyejo · March 2010

Yep, DH came to mine. I explained exactly what would happen to him beforehand so that his eyes would bug out of his head when the doctor did the pap, haha!

Lisa602 · March 2010

When booking my appointment I asked if DH wanted to be there....he said of course. So excited, its tonight after work.

NMDA · March 2010

With my first child, DH came to every appointment. With my second, he came to most, but not all of them. With THIS baby, who knows, LOL!! Of course he will be there for US's and important appt.'s, but if he is not there for every single one, I don't mind. I have my orientation tomorrow morning (the hospital I am using has an orientation for new moms), and he isn't going. I told him he probably wouldn't want to. It will just be a bunch of women sitting around talking about Doctors and other info. But he will probably go to my first REAL appt. : )

GreysGirl · March 2010

My husband has come to all my appointments and ultrasounds. It's nice having him there and then I don't have to repeat everything the doctor said.

beachbaby117 · March 2010

My hubby came to the first appt and will try to make all the other appts when there is an ultrasound.

Mrs.Wright · March 2010

DH came to my first one and will be at every appointment from here on out - barring some crisis with work.

JuneDream · March 2010

My husband came to mine and will go to each of them with me. It was a good thing he went to the first one too! They ended up doing and ultrasound and we saw our baby, I would have been sooo sad if he missed it!

sarahandeddiejune212008 · March 2010

So far we've had 5 appointments and DH has been there for all of them. He plans to come to everything he possibly can. And there are lots of dads-to-be in the waiting room at my office, so he shouldn't feel weird.

veebug22 · March 2010

My DH only came to the 1st u/s appt, and I might ask if he wants to come to the next appt since I think we're going to hear the heartbeat. Otherwise, he didn't come to my 1st routine appt as there wasn't really any need for him and it was more about me finding out what I could and couldn't eat, the midwife taking medical histories, etc. Also, the in-between appts are pretty boring and quick -- pee, blood pressure, weight, ask any questions and that's about it. He's in the Navy so we're hoping he'll be around for the 20 week u/s, but we'll see. I do think it's important for husbands to get the opportunity to go to appts and "bond" with the baby since they have less opportunities than us to do so, but there really isn't much going on at the in-between appts that don't include an u/s or doppler.

krogers0905 · March 2010

I was lurking from the 2nd trimester but I thought I'd chime in. My DH has been to each appointment thus far and plans to attend as many as his work schedule will permit. Each appointment is a little different (1st appt U/S, 2nd blood work, 3rd fetal heart tones etc etc) plus he may remember to ask things that you don't due to pregnancy brain

lalax · March 2010

Thanks for all the input - he definitely wants to be there (and I want him there) and I think being first timers we wanted to be sure we wouldn't be looked at funny when he comes in and they pull out the stirrups. Glad to see everyone's DH is as involved as they are!

bstrangely · March 2010

mine came with me... it's totally normal. i think he had a good time and was really excited over the heartbeat.

i had my nt yesterday, and i wished i'd thought to bring him to that. i don't know why i didn't think of it, but it's a nice long ultrasound with a much further along fetus. he/she was jumping the whole time and the pictures really didn't come out looking like anything. i'm sorry he missed it.

joolz425 · March 2010

My DH has come to all of my appts so far and I think I've had 3 so far.

nopegoat · March 2010

My DF has come to all of them so far and will continue to do so! I love it when he comes and honestly he really enjoys it and finds it fascinating to watch our LO move around in there and see the heartbeat and all!

nickeyPeaches23 · March 2010

My DH came to my first appt, and will prob come for as many appts as he can. I know for sure he will be there for the ultrasound ones. Having him there allows him to ask his own questions and hear what the dr has to say.

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