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supporting stay at home moms (or dads)

Maine333Maine333
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I am a working Mom but my husband is a stay at home Dad right now.  I went back to work last week so this is his second week on the job.  He is doing great.  I am looking for some ideas on how to support him.  What are some things your SOs do for you that make you feel appreciated/supported or some things they do that really help make your job easier?

Thanks ladies!  

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  • dionnemd10dionnemd10 member
    on weekends my hubby gets up with the kids in the mornings so i can rest a bit longer.   he'll do laundry or cook supper on the weekends.  those things really help out.   just saying he likes the supper i made helps too.
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  • SammysuSammysu
    I have learned that a simple "THANK YOU" and "I appreciate you" goes a long way!!
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  • TelycoTelyco
    DH never pressures me to clean more, always asks if I got a nap in..and tells me to try. Like pp's he always appreciates any meals I cook and gets up with DS on the weekends to let me sleep in (if DD is sleeping in too). He also always tries to get me out of the house - grab coffee and shop by myself for a while. He always makes it seem like it's no big deal to care for 2u2 while I'm gone...but constantly says I don't know how you do it and you're doing a good job.
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  • EnglishMajor03EnglishMajor03 member

    Listening is a big thing for me.  DH sometimes comes home so preoccupied from work that it's like talking to the LO's.  After all day of baby talk and lack of adult stimulation, be sure you're ready to hear every little thing he has to say!

    It might be hard for him to SAH too as it's never quite what we expected.  Keep the lines of communication open.  Honesty and civility are the best way to make the first grueling year work.

     

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  • jacksjerseygirljacksjerseygirl member

    Compared to stories I have read on here about other people's interactions with their DH - I can say that I thankful that ..

    ... my DH realized that my day is just as exhausting (if not more so) than his and therefore, doesn't treat me like the 24/7 always-on-call parent.

    ... my DH realizes that even though he does work hard all day that he is also missing out on the bonding time that I get with our son - so he has to play 'catch-up' in some regards. So when he comes home, he immediately takes over with our son and puts him to bed. He also gets up with our son in the morning - dresses - and gets breakfast going for DS, and lets me sleep a little longer (15 minutes is 15 minutes) before he has to leave for work.

    ... on the weekend he takes over the 'primary' parenting role/responsibility such as taking care of naps, feedings and he and DS play a lot together while I do other tasks or errands.

    So for me, those above mentioned things are things that I greatly appreciate and realize that I am fortunate that that is the type of father/husband/partner that he is.

    Good luck!

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