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I cannot take it

I posted a few weeks ago about tips for napping.

DS WILL NOT NAP.

I have spent the past hour going back in to his room tp put his paci in, shh him, hold him, pat him, etc. He's tired - his eyes will be closed and he will appear to be "out" - but he screams 1 minute after I leave.

He ONLY sleeps if I hold him. I can't get a thing done, and he gets completely out of whack and becomes a disaster when he doesn't sleep. I end up giving in and holding him so that he can at least nap for 30-45 minutes, but we can't do this forever. OMG. I am out of tricks.

Just a vent, I guess, as nothing has ever helped Crying


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Re: I cannot take it

  • I'm so sorry, that is really tough! I can't imagine not having naptime.

    I'm not sure if I saw your other thread, but do you swaddle at all? If you're able to swaddle him, that might be soothing. Also, do you have a swing? Charlie still takes all of his naps in the swing. 

    White noise maybe? We use that at night and it really seems to calm him. 

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  • I don't have much advice but I just want to say I'm sorry you are going through this.  The last few days my DS hasn't done much good napping and I've basically cried every day out of frustration so I totally know how you feel.  We are still trying everything in our book too.  I've seen some people suggest a sling, that way your hands will be free and he will still be near you.  Good luck!
  • max has days like that...i'm currently typing one handed as i hold a sleeping baby:)  i use his sling when it gets bad...that way at least i have both hands!
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  • t was similiar. we swaddled her as long as we could, then i wore her around the house. sorry, not much help :(
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    I'm holding him now. Ugh.

    We swaddle, have white noise, it's nice and dark in the nursery... I thought at first that it may be that he was cool (i.e. wanted to sleep on me bc it was warm) but use a fleece sleep sack and that hasn't helped either.

    Thanks for the thoughts!

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    imagenaijawife:
    If you hold him and he falls asleep could you put him down once he's in a deeper sleep? Just asking but you probably already tried that.

    That is the one thing that sometimes works, but still takes 30 minutes or so and he usually wakes back up! Meh.


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  • What if you lay down with him on your bed?  I would wait for Layna to fall asleep then sneak out.

    Having them sleep in my bed is never my first choice...but sometimes you do what you gotta do.

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  • Have you tired putting him on his tummy?  He's about the age where he'll start rolling (if he hasn't already) and should have excellent head and neck control by now.  I know it's not as safe as his back, but baby needs to sleep.  :) 
  • Ugh!  Sorry you're going through this!  I totally feel your pain though.  C has never been a good napper - he only takes short 30-minute naps.  However, in a blue moon we will get a 1.5 hour nap (it's usually when we have to be somewhere ;-)
    Sounds like you have tried all the tricks so I don't really have anything to add.  Just know that 'this too shall pass'!
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  • I think I wrote this EXACT post when A was about the same age as W is!  At that point, A was still able to nap in the swing.  I'd nurse her to sleep then pop her off and put her in the swing.  She'd usually nap a good hour at least. 

    When that stopped working, we went through HELL for about 3-4 weeks and then I gave up and just started wearing her around for her naps.  I got a Beco carrier for this exact purpose, because it was easy to wear her in a back carry and it allowed me to continue to do stuff around the house while she napped "on" me.  In fact, she's napping on my back as we speak!  It's pretty much the only thing that works now; that, and nursing her to sleep in our bed and staying with her while she naps. unfortunately I can't sneak away; she wakes up in 20 min if I do. :(

    What also helped us a TON was not allowing more than about 2-3 hours of awake time before getting her to sleep for a nap.  I figured out finally that she wasn't napping well because she was actually OVER tired.  I started to REALLY watch for sleep cues (eye rub, fussing) and if it had been more than 2 hours since the last sleep, I strapped her on to me or lay down in bed with her and put her to sleep.  That has worked a lot better, and now she naps really well multiple times a day.  It's heaven.

    Next step - getting her to nap in her crib! Tongue Tied  We're slowly getting there.  I hope some of these tips help you!  I know exactly how you feel and it sucks.  But it won't last forever!

     

  • So sorry!  I know that's hard.

    E always napped in his swing with a blanket tucked around him and a paci in his mouth.  He did this for a lot longer than he probably should have, but it meant he napped pretty well.

    Hang in there, and vent away whenever you need to! 

  • imageCollieJade:

    What also helped us a TON was not allowing more than about 2-3 hours of awake time before getting her to sleep for a nap.  I figured out finally that she wasn't napping well because she was actually OVER tired.  I started to REALLY watch for sleep cues (eye rub, fussing) and if it had been more than 2 hours since the last sleep, I strapped her on to me or lay down in bed with her and put her to sleep.  That has worked a lot better, and now she naps really well multiple times a day.  It's heaven!

    This is what I was going to suggest. Perhaps he's getting too tired? A always sleeps worse when she's overtired--she fights going down and stays asleep for shorter amounts of time. I've read that by the time they are yawning and rubbing their eyes, they are already on the brink of being overtired. 

    Having A on a regular schedule REALLY helps us. When it's naptime, it's naptime...and that's about 2 hours after she woke up. We go through an abbreviated sleep routine (change diaper, sing song, read book, shush and rock a bit) so that she has all the "it's time to sleep" cues. It never ceases to amaze me that it's the times I haven't seen her yawn ONCE and I'm worried that she's just not tired yet that she goes to sleep the easiest.

    I'm sorry you're struggling with this--hopefully he'll get it worked out soon!

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  • I haven't read through all the other posts, but have you tried the Moby Wrap? Will was the same way - wouldn't sleep unless he was touching me. He would sleep in the Moby wrap though, and I could get something done to keep me sane.

  • imagebrideonjuly8:
    Have you tired putting him on his tummy?  He's about the age where he'll start rolling (if he hasn't already) and should have excellent head and neck control by now.  I know it's not as safe as his back, but baby needs to sleep.  :) 

    This. 

    We let DD sleep on her tummy starting at about 2 1/2 months.  But we only did it for naps where I could check on her regularly.  (At night she was on her back and slept fine.)  It was seriously the only way she would nap!

    Good luck! 

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  • we do the moby for naps too (for ds3). he'll barely sleep 15-20 min on his own w/all the tricks, and he'll do 1-2hr in the moby, so that's what we do for now. my others were like this too and they both started sleeping on their own for longer stretches around 4 mos. hope it gets better!
  • imageEMTX:

    I posted a few weeks ago about tips for napping.

    DS WILL NOT NAP.

    I have spent the past hour going back in to his room tp put his paci in, shh him, hold him, pat him, etc. He's tired - his eyes will be closed and he will appear to be "out" - but he screams 1 minute after I leave.

    He ONLY sleeps if I hold him. I can't get a thing done, and he gets completely out of whack and becomes a disaster when he doesn't sleep. I end up giving in and holding him so that he can at least nap for 30-45 minutes, but we can't do this forever. OMG. I am out of tricks.

    Just a vent, I guess, as nothing has ever helped Crying

     Try going to mass, it works for the adults and kids on Sunday. Stick out tongue

    Sorry I don't have any advise (no kids yet) but something the priest does seems to work.

    Good luck and I'll send a little dust your way.

    Amy

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