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Moms of Toddlers then Twins

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If you had a singleton and then twins, when were you unable to really care for your singleton?  I am fine now but worry that I will struggle with lifting DS out of the crib or even getting down on the floor to play with him.  It makes me sad, especially because he's going to be too young to understand why things are different with his mom. 
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  • MrsMommyLoMrsMommyLo
    I am no help at all, but I have been wondering the same thing.  My OB told me to avoid carrying/picking-up DS.  He is one needy boy who loves his mommy, and we have experienced lots of screaming lately.
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  • Dec31stBrideDec31stBride
    I'm really trying to minimize the picking up these days, but its still tough to avoid completely. 
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  • MickschickMickschick

    I had the twins first but they were toddlers when I had Logan and I had a repeat c-section for him. I gave birth to Logan on a Thursday and I was alone with all 3 kids by Monday afternoon.

    They were already in toddler beds at 18 months though b/c they learned how to climb out of their cribs and we thought it would be best to have them in toddler beds. It would be less of a fall for them to fall out of the toddler bed than the top of the rail when they were climbing out of their cribs. So when I had to put them in their beds (when they wouldn't climb in themselves) I didn't have to pick them up very far.

    When I had to change them I would just change them on the couch. They could climb up there on their own so that made it easier for me. Again- it wasn't that far to pick them up if I had to lift them when they were being un-cooperative.

    Getting down on the floor wasn't that difficult either. I was a little sore so I just took my time- but all in all I did have really easy recoveries from my sections. I will tell you though that I did have much more PP bleeding with Logan than I did with twins- and that's b/c I was much more active after I had Logan b/c I was also dealing with the twins- so be prepared for that.

    Good luck!!!

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  • MickschickMickschick
    Sorry- I thought you were talking about AFTER you had the twins- not while you were pg with them. However; maybe you could change him on the couch so that it would be easier for you to not have to lift him as far?
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  • Temp6313048411121614Temp6313048411121614 member
    I would say around 25-28 weeks or so is when it was getting harder to get down on the floor with him (though I was still able to lift him easily).  I was order to "take it easy" around 28w and went into the hospital (followed by bedrest) at 32w.  It did make me very sad, but it was short lived.
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  • Temp159135562506975Temp159135562506975 member

    I was able (and allowed) to lift Griffin right up until the end. I never had complications with my twin pg (i did with my singleton pg, though! go figure!).... and my doc said as long as I felt OK doing it- i could still lift Griffin.

    I really tried NOT to lift him unless needed-  which I did every night when putting him to bed... that was really the only time i HAD to do it.  When recovering from my c/s DH would come back in after Griffin and i did our prayer/song routine and he'd lift him into bed, though.

    as for getting down and playing - we kept Griffin in full time daycare my whole pregnancy and maternity leave - so he wasn't really home with me alone much --- so DH did most of the playing on the floor.  Occasionally I'd sit down there- but not often... Griffin knew that mommy had a hard time getting down on the floor- and would bring toys over to the couch to play with me.  Same thing after i had the boys and was recovering from my c/s. He got very used to it.

    i don't recall when it was really hard to do things- i do know i hit a wall around 27w, which is when many twin mommies do... If you have a complication-free pregnancy you can really do anything- it just isn't as comfortable :)  I did try to really take it easy, though, as I was worried about PTL the whole time.

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  • jacobandcrystaljacobandcrystal member

    I'm a SAHM and I was still taking care of our younger son almost right up until the end of my pregnancy (he was 16 months when the twins were born).  Hubby worked from home for the last week of my pregnancy and half days the week before that.

    I was still lifting our son in and out of his crib and highchair and carrying him down stairs.  I definitely was not playing on the floor for at least several weeks though.  I had very bad pelvic/hip pain from 28 weeks on so it was difficult to walk and get dressed, but lifting wasn't too bad.  It really just depends on you and where your aches and pains are! : )

    Addition:  I did change diapers on our couch... and it got a little difficult toward the end to reach around my belly, but it wasn't impossible.

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  • mlgdmlgd
    I basically cared for DS #1 up until the very end of my pregnancy, but I was ordered to take it easy right around 28 weeks.  As a SAHM, certain things were unavoidable and my OB understood that. So while I'd still lift DS in and out of his crib and do certain things for and with him, I cut back on things like vacuuming and other more strenuous chores (which was fine with me!!)  As your pregnancy progresses, you'll get a better sense of your own comfort level and when you need to cut back.  But you should talk to your OB about your concerns too and take to her/his advice. Good luck!
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  • DESXFDESXF

    I got to the point where I was uncomfy lifting him around 34 weeks, but I was still taking care of him full time until my C/S at 37 weeks.  It was completely exhausting, but it was do-able.  I also had a very uneventful pg up until the end.  I just made sure not to over-do it, and if I was feeling tired or worn out, I just had to sit and rest.

    The part that was hardest for me was not being able to cuddle with him because of my big belly :(  But I am really enjoying catching up with it now!

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  • franciscazfranciscaz member
    For me I would have a plan that if you are unable to really care for your DC you have the help.  Many moms here are put on bedrest and need help during the day.  I was worse.  I was hospitilized at 24 wks and stayed there until I delivered at 32 wks.  My mom had to care for my son so DH could stay with me in the hospital.  I wish I had at least a bedrest plan ahead of time and had taken it easier (not lifting my tot as much) before I was hospitilized.
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  • mnmplusthreemnmplusthree member
    Until I delivered, I could still do things with DS. I wasn't supposed to pick him up at all, but I reduced it to only putting him in and taking him out of his crib. I changed him on the floor so I didn't have to worry about putting him on the changing table. Getting on the floor was the easiest when I was far along. It took a minute to get up, but we could do more on the floor. Good luck and if you need any more advice, just let me know!
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