In August when I have the baby, I currently don't have anyone to watch Evie while we are at the hospital. Which would be anywhere from 2-5 days depending on if I VBAC or not.
Initially, my best friend was going to take Evie, but at this point, I feel like her daughter is too much of a bully and I feel like if I'm not there, Evie will just get bullied and no one will do anything about it. That is my biggest worry with that.
We then talked about asking my SIL (my brothers wife) to fly down and stay with Evie. She was up for that and we've gone back and forth with some ideas. The biggest problem being when to buy a ticket for her if we don't know when we actually need her. I think I can just buy travel insurance so we can change the ticket though. They also talked about the whole family coming (brother, SIL, niece) and taking the camper down here. I would pay for gas and tolls and I can't even fathom how much a truck and camper gas would cost. Although, probably in line with a flight from BOS to ATL. So far, flights I've looked at have not been cheap.
But the thing is, now I'm starting to feel like I'm putting them out. They casually mentioned how they are going to skip their usual Maine camping trip to come down. And Marrianne asked me when we need her so they can request time off from work. Well, I thought I had made it clear I have no idea. My due date is Aug 21, but that means pretty much nothing. Also, they would need 2 days of driving time on each end. And I have no idea how many days I need them for.
I'm starting to think of scraping the idea of having them come.
Most normal people have grandparents who they trust to come stay with their kids, who are retired and no one worries about time off. But my IL's don't even hold Evie, never mind change a diaper. Plus they could potentially do something crazy like take her to get her ears pierced. (or, God forbid, worse!) Also, they are horrid drivers so I would never let Evie in a car that one of them was behind the wheel of.
Then there's my mom. I would need a baby sitter for my mom, never mind Evie. And forget my dad. In Evie's entire life, he's spent about 3 hours with her. (About an hour each time we visit.)
I don't know what to do. What would you do? Let E stay with friend who may let my kid get beat up? There's also the other idea in my head that Evie would be secondary and since she is not going to be an only child at the end of it, I kind of don't want her to be sharing the spotlight for how ever many days I'm gone, you know? I wanted her to have one on one attention and also stay at her own house.
Or would you ask your family to be inconvenienced.
Or should I just stay at the hospital by myself and have Nico stay at home with Evie.
I have another sister who lives in Greenville and a 16 year old niece. I asked if she could come down and Melinda never answered me, which is annoying.
Sorry this is so long. My mind is constantly racing with this.