Do you recommend it?

souledoutgirl · February 2010

DH and I are thinking about TTC in June, which would put our LO's 15 mos. apart (if I got pg. right away, that is). So...do you recommend it? Did you have any complications with the 2nd pregnancy? What don't you like about it?

macchiatto · February 2010

A woman's body should ideally have two years between pregnancies in order to recover. Having two LOs 15 months apart is not really healthy for you. (Obviously it can be done, you can make it work, etc. But I wouldn't be eager to have two that close together unless there was a really pressing reason to do so.)

bacala1 · March 2010

my doctor said to wait a year. I've heard of many womaen having miscarriages who got pregnant too close together. Your body is not healed yet.

CaitlinJ22 · March 2010

many people do it and are fine. Mine will be 18 months apart and I have to say its tiring, but I would be tired if ds was 3, so its a matter of opinion. It is hard lifting him all the time, since he doesnt walk well on his own in public. The biggest hurdle was my m/s lasting til 16 wks this time. I was on zofran and it was TOUGH. I was also BFing. But I would do that part again bc its worth it. Now I dont have 2u2 yet, so I can answer about that part.

CaitlinJ22 · March 2010

souledoutgirl:
DH and I are thinking about TTC in June, which would put our LO's 15 mos. apart (if I got pg. right away, that is). So...do you recommend it? Did you have any complications with the 2nd pregnancy? What don't you like about it?

oh and I would think about how long you want to BF your LO for. It was hard BFing while pg, though it can be done. But if your LO is younger she will require more feedings and its more taxing on your body. Some woman dry up right away, so be prepared.

If I were you I would try when she is more like 9-10 months...that way if you get pg right away you can continue for a few months and make a year if you want to. just my opinion.

mc0226 · March 2010

Ours are 13 months apart. It is quite hectic sometimes but sometimes it goes very smoothly. The only issue I went into labor 5 weeks early this time. My Dr thought it was maybe due to the fact I had a c-section the first time and the pregnancies were so close together. There are pros and cons to having siblings close and spacing them out.

Mr.&MrsS · March 2010

Mine are 16 months apart and I love it!! The first 4 months were h*ll, but I wouldnt change it for the world. I think newborns are hard no matter what. So to me, it would have been hard if my first was 3, 5, or 10 when the next one was born. Now they are starting to interact with eachother and it is the cutest thing I have ever seen! Yeah, we have some hectic days, some great days, and some downright terrible days. But it is all to be expected. I think if you go into it knowing that it wont be a walk in the park and expect some bumps in the road you will be fine.

And I know people say getting pregnant close together is bad for your body...but I needed medical help to get pregnant both times. I had a doctor "let" me start treatments again to have another baby when DS1 was only 4 months old. I didnt have any medical issues with my pregnancies being so close together.

HappyTXChick · March 2010

Hmm, I've never heard of increased chance of m/c or your body needing 1 year to "heal" after having a baby. My doctor was totally on board with our plan to start TTC in 6 mos from delivering DS, and I even had a c-sec.

Anyways, we love it! We always knew we wanted 2 kids only, and we watned them close in age. It has it's challenges, but we know that the rewards will be so much greater when we have two independent kids that we can take camping, and other fun vacations. I admit that I am not totally crazy about the baby phase so I had no desire to get one child completely through the baby phase and then start over. I like that we are facing our tougher times at once, and then we will be finished with diapers, baby food, bottles and all baby gear for good!

My DH is very involved with the children. I would say we 50-50 cook dinner, bathe kids, do laundry, etc. so with that being the case it has been totally manageable. If I were left to do most of the chores and child rearing by myself I might have a totally different opinion.

Good luck with your decision! And talk to your OB about whether it is bad for your body. I honestly think that b/c I had just had a baby it helped me to get pg and hold on to this baby easier than before. It took me 1 year and 1 m/c to get pg with DS. The second time it was much easier!

userdeleted · March 2010

You know, it's such a personal choice. It really depends on what kind of family you want. If you want kids close in age, go for it!

The only thing that I wish was different is that I wish we had family around. I think it would be a lot easier if the grandparents could give us a break every now and then. However, it's tough, but doable, either way.

LDQAM516 · March 2010

YES! Ours are 21 months apart...we started trying to conceive when DS was one year...I would definitely say that pregnancy #2 was A LOT harder on my body...and not just because I already had a baby to take care off...getting pregnant that close together definitely hurts a lot more! I had pains I never experienced with my first pregnancy...so that is probably the only reason why I would have waited longer....other than that...it is not that difficult!

lisaroo · March 2010

The answers in this thread alone really tell you how much it depends on the person. I got pg when DD was 10 months old and my pregnancies have been almost identical. This one hasn't been harder at all, other than having DD to take care of when I wish I could nap

I don't think my body is any worse for the wear having them so close. But of course, that's just me.

iowagirl73 · March 2010

My boys are 16.5mos apart. Some days are hard while others are ok - but I think you'll have that no matter what the age gap.

Yes I had a complication with my 2nd pg. He was born via emergency c/s at 35wk, 5d due to lack of fetal movement. Turns out there was a clot where the umbilical cord and the placenta met. Other then that, my 2nd pg was very similar to my first.

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