Baby Showers
Options
Husband's friends' wives
I am trying to decide if I should invite my husband's friends' wives to the shower. Two of the wives were invited to my bridal shower less than a year ago because their husbands were in the wedding, but I am definitely not close with them at all. One wife I feel a little bit closer to but we only do things together with husbands and don't contact each other individually. I am inclined not to invite. What are your thoughts? These are three of my husband's best friends' wives, but I should mention that I am inviting fewer than 20 friends/family of mine so I am keeping it pretty intimate -- close friends only.
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Husband's friends' wives
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I would not invite them unless you consider them friends. Considering your husbands are obviously close and you ladies are not, I have to believe there's a reason. To invite them would seem gift-grabby, but I'm very inclined to believe you should only invite people you talk to regularly (with the exception of family). If they, DH or their husbands ask why they weren't invited, simply state, "I'm having a small, intimate shower with family and a few very close friends. As much as I wanted to invite Jane, I wanted to keep it intimate."
I think that it is fine to invite them if you want to, it is always nice to feel included.
I received an invite last year from a woman and I had no idea who she was. I called around our group of friends and no one had any idea who she was (but they had received invites too). I finally questioned my husband who said this girl's husband was in his fantasy football group thing (I have no idea what they call the people they play with). He had met him once before at their draft, and the husband asked everyone for their addresses. They didn't know why at the time, but we figured it out. Now to me THAT is reaching. BTW, I didn't go.
I'm currently in the same boat you are in, but with my boyfriend's girl friends... there's like 5 of them that are really close in our group, but unless it's a whole group (so the 15 of us almost) then i don't see them. I was going to keep mine pretty intimate too, but thinking of extending the invitation to them, they can choose if they want to come or not, but at least giving them the opportunity to share with the family too.
I wouldn't invite them and then later, if they ask, just say that it was just a shower for family only.
after anovulatory diagnosis and TTC for 1 1/2yrs with several medicated cycles and one chemical pregnancy, we have our first bundle of joy!
IT'S A GIRL!
#2 EDD 2/5/13 dx with anti-BIG E antibody, seeing a MFM
I don't take one single minute for granted.
I think that it really depends on your situation. DH's group of friends have been friends since hs/college. Since DH and I met later in life, I'm comming in late in the picture. I enjoy DH's friends and their wives and would love to do more with them. My main point is that for my situation, I would have loved to have been invited, so my vote is to invite them. But, it depends on your situation: do you want them to be close friends of yours?
Its always nice to remain cordial with your husband's friend's wives. After all, if they aren't happy then they will nag your husband's friends. Then his friends will complain to him and you will hear about it.
But seriously, if you don't feel that close to them then don't invite them.