Anyone else not having sex?

beachgirl1977 · February 2010

I sadly admit it has been close to 8 weeks

. I was sick and tired at the beginning and he travels a lot, Now it's been so long I'm a little scared it will hurt or cause bleeding. After teaching all day and taking care of our toddler, I'm tired and cranky by 8:00. Morning sex is tricky because dh isn't a morning person and ds gets up early.

Oriana.Ocampo · February 2010

Ever since BFP we've probably done it 3x.. He got a BJ this morning though. lol

ericndarcy2009 · February 2010

yeah its been over 4 weeks for us. and definitely less than 10 times since we found out we were pregnant. I'm just not in the mood!

Laura0575 · February 2010

I think it's been 3x for us since the BFP. My hips hurt too much now. And everything feels all swollen and gross.

ncr279 · February 2010

GOOD! I am glad I am not the only one! I think it has been 3 times for us as well since BFP. He has gotten numerous bj's to tide him over, but I just dont feel like sex

meghan_marie · February 2010

Last time I had sex I got preggo.

kg_08 · February 2010

Wow... it's been about 8 hours for us? lol. It's not as often as before BFP, but still 3 ish times a week.

grace416 · February 2010

It goes in waves. Not a lot at the beginning I was really sick. Then there were weeks where I had bad RLP and was not in the mood. I would say right now its once a week , and sometimes its 3-4 times a week. I want sex I just have no energy to initiate it, and DH feels I don't want it, so he doesn't initiate . Before BFP it was basically everyday every other day.

sweet1600s · February 2010

meghan_marie:
Last time I had sex I got preggo.

Same here!

ToBeMcInerney · February 2010

This morning was the first time in almost 4 weeks. I feel real bad but thankfully he is patient.

jeune_mariee · February 2010

sweet1600s:
meghan_marie:
Last time I had sex I got preggo.

Same here!

Wow. This post makes me feel better. I count count on one hand (um, more like half a hand) how many times we've done it since then. The crazy graphic sex dreams I've been having (complete with an orgasm once in a while!) seem to be my body's way of making up for it.

landes_katie@yahoo.com · February 2010

it hasnt been 8 weeks for me but Im usually not excited about it these days, and only do it usually when my SO complains enough (every few days or so)

Azrayla · February 2010

I think it's been about three weeks..and when we do have sex its once then not again for another couple weeks..SO wears himself out at work and sometimes I'm just not feeling it and recently I havent been feeling it because he's been kind of selfish and instead of trying to work around me being uncomfortable due to being pregnant he gets what he wants and the end so I told him no sex till he fixes that..We'll see when he gets over his cold

melzer14 · February 2010

I really wish I was more into it but I just don't feel like it! I was sick as a dog for the first 16 weeks and now i'm just eh. Thank god my boyfriend is understand, I feel so bad for him. I don't get why I am like this, I used to be worse than him before we got pregnant...haha wellllll that's how we got pregnant in the first place!

yecal262 · February 2010

Ya its been awhile for us too! But not because of lack of interest by either one of us. We have been told we are not allowed to by our doctor...and let me tell you it really really sucks when you got from TTC and having it like everyday...to now where we arent allowed to! It sucks!

juietbride · February 2010

It's been a few days and I'm hoping to change that today. I'm thankful that we still are a three times a week couple.

nm32216t · February 2010

its been almost three months i think. i feel bad too. doc told us not to in our first tri. OB just gave us green light but to be honest, i have no desire whatsoever. scared to death about spotting etc especially since spotting has been a huge issue since my BFP. we'll see.....b

PubStar09 · February 2010

Damn. It's been about 8 weeks here... but because of no fault of my own.

I never really lost my drive, but DH has been having some self esteem issues lately, and just never feels like it. It's about to drive me crazy.

grace416 · February 2010

meghan_marie:
Last time I had sex I got preggo.

NO!?!?!?! Im sending you a toy ASAP! Stick out tongue

babya2010 · February 2010

I can't remember the last time...
We did 'try' about a week ago but it was way uncomfortable for me. Not to mention I worry about cervix issues seeing as I'm carrying multiples. (My doctor actually advised against it during my 8wk appt - I keep trying to remind DH that!)

teelaman · February 2010

The first three months I was so sick I didn't do anything...then we started up again, up until about two weeks ago. It was physically painful for me. I got all upset and started crying when I was explaining to DH that it hurt. (I felt bad basically telling him it was going to be a no go for quite a while because of the pain.) Sweet ole DH hugged me and told me he completely understood and loved me anyway. What a good guy.

jhanse01 · February 2010

Thank you for making me feel normal!! My husband and I have had sex probably 5 times since I got pregnant. I have absolutely no desire to have sex, I am not comfortable with the way I look so I don't feel very sexy and I especially don't want to parade around naked. My poor husband has been extremely understanding, but I feel so guilty!

PlainandTall · February 2010

meghan_marie:
Last time I had sex I got preggo.

That's me too. I'm having a really hard time getting over a bunch of anger and resentment...as well as depression and what the meds have done to me. I was in a major depression last fall because of a lot of probs we were having - which caused a lack of sex (I can't really get in the mood when your partner won't stop fighting with me enough for me to wash my hair)... he was keeping score about how long it had been. (How about keeping track of how many days have gone by you haven't picked a fight with me?) Well- I did manage to do it once, and I remember it because I had to hide the fact that I was crying through the whole thing (because I get in just as much trouble if I get caught crying as I do if I try to avoid sex)... I guess it didn't make much of an impression on him because he didn't reset the counter on how long it had been... then like a month later I was pinned in the corner with another fifth degree about the alleged two months it had been... well- at that point I was already pregnant from the one time he hadn't "counted" only I didn't know it yet. So I managed to get knocked up on the one time I did have sex in a really bad point in our sex/married life that he hadn't even given me credit for. Made me feel like I was/am totally out of control and unappreciated and my whole life just went crap so he could have a few minutes of pleasure out of me that he didn't even acknowledge. This, has not made me feel very positive about ever having sex ever again. And now, I'm on meds that killed any shred left of my sex drive. Makes pelvic rest feel like a walk in the park.

loveindiana · February 2010

I totally understand. We might have sex once a month, but last night was the first time in a couple months even. I've just not been in the mood. Luckily my DH has been pretty great about it and not pressured me or made me feel guilty or anything.

mrs.mulrine · February 2010

meghan_marie:
Last time I had sex I got preggo.

Me too! Nadda since!

danie07 · February 2010

meghan_marie:
Last time I had sex I got preggo.

lol this

evadizzle · February 2010

go to a sex shop together and buy some good lube. I bled one time and got freaked out but the doctor said lube will fix it. 8 weeks is a long time... I've had a bad libido but it's only gone a week at the most. Hope it works out for you

PubStar09 · February 2010

Here we go, ladies... Maybe this will make us all feel better.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YwNVE37BGVE

Enjoy!

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