Community› The Bump Message Boards› Baby Showers
Baby Showers
New Discussion

RSVP or Regrets Only

krissyh21krissyh21 member
in Baby Showers

Is one more likely to actually respond to an RSVP or a Regrets Only?

What do you think?

A lot of years and a million tears finally led me to you.
After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
<a href="http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v705/arriinthere/PJ/?action=view
Report Reply to Post

Re: RSVP or Regrets Only

  • megdrew1218megdrew1218 member

    I think if I were throwing a shower, to put one or the other depends on 1 - how many people you are inviting and 2 - how well you know them (do you know if they'll actually call to rsvp or call for a regret?). I have some cousins I'm sure wouldn't do either.

    For a small shower, it's easiest to say RSVP that way if you have to track down people at the last minute, you can easily get ahold of them. But if you're inviting 50 people to the shower, it's more dificult to track them all down again.

    I also appreciate a phone number AND email to RSVP or regret to. I'd rather email.

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker BabyFruit Ticker
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • K.a.T.eK.a.T.e member

    Sadly in this day and age - neither.

    I've been going with "regrets only" on my recent invites

    Report Reply
  • MCC1010MCC1010 member

    Putting an email address as well as a phone number is a great idea. Although you might have to make phone calls anyway.

    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • mysticportermysticporter
    Neither is more likely to get a response, unfortunately.  If you need to know the number pretty accurately, go with RSVP, and check directly with the people you don't hear from.  If it's Regrets Only you have no way of knowing if the people who don't respond are coming or are slackers, and it would be irritating to the people who are planning on coming to be hunted down when they were following directions.

    image
    Report Reply
  • KSME924KSME924

    imagemysticporter:
    Neither is more likely to get a response, unfortunately.  If you need to know the number pretty accurately, go with RSVP, and check directly with the people you don't hear from.  If it's Regrets Only you have no way of knowing if the people who don't respond are coming or are slackers, and it would be irritating to the people who are planning on coming to be hunted down when they were following directions.

    Ditto.  I did 'regrets only'  one time.  NEVER AGAIN.   But, maybe your family and friends aren't like mine and everyone RSVPs every time, on time, with out fail?

    Report Reply
  • melodramatic26melodramatic26 member
    I have had much more luck doing Regrets Only. I have found that having 4-5 people call to cancel gave me a much more accurate number attending than waiting for 25-30 people to say that they were for sure going to be there.
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • gringa78gringa78
    Regrets only with an email address.
    PCOS, lupus anticoagulant, MTHFR (A1298C, one copy) 2 IUIs & 1 IVF = BFN FET#1 = It's a girl! Born 7.1.10 FET#2 = c/p FET#3 = Twin girls! Born on 3.16.12 at 33w2d due to severe pre-E. After 4 weeks in the NICU they are home! Lilypie Third Birthday tickers
    Lilypie Premature Baby tickers
    Report Reply
  • yourmom5309yourmom5309 member
    Regrets Only.  People are so bad about responding either way.  In my experience, I have gotten a more accurate head count with Regrets rather than RSVP's.
    Image and video hosting by TinyPic Pregnancy Ticker
    Report Reply
  • lindsaynjasonlindsaynjason
    I've started going with Regrets Only when sending out invites.  I do agree with everyone else though, most people would prefer to email versus call.
    image
    Report Reply
  • MWoodsideMWoodside member
    I always do RSVP b/c no one responds either way when it's regrets only.

    DD1 born 5/24/10.

    Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.

    DD2 born 5/14/13.

    Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.

    Expecting someone new 4/17/17.
    Report Reply
  • hopefulmomhopefulmom member
    I don't think people respond to either like they should.  I would put RSVP because even if you put Regrets Only there will be those that just don't "bother" to respond AT ALL.  Then you might plan for 50 people when only 35 show up.  That is a lot of wasted food, favors, party supplies, etc.  At least with RSVP's it is OK to call them and ask if they are coming or not.
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"