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caseybuchda · February 2010

Will/do you make your kids do daily chores? What about a weekly allowance?

We had chores to do everyday (farm chores) and not doing them was not an option. We didn't really get a weekly allowance, just money for certain things when we needed it depending on what it was.

ETA- We decided that we would give LO a daily chore once she's old enough but we can't agree on the weekly/monthly allowance.

mrsadamc 05 · February 2010

My chores (when I was older and remember them) were to keep my room tidy (we had a cleaning lady to clean) and help my mom with things like loading/unloading the dishwasher.

I got a few bucks a week.

We will do the same things with our children.

robinsokj · February 2010

Yes they will have chores, but not to the extent that DH had them. His parents did NOTHING around the house from what I can figure. Also, his sister was given a car and college tuition, but he paid for his own car and college. I will do nothing remotely similar to that either

two-pink-shoes · February 2010

They'll definitely have chores (maybe not daily, but things they have to do every week), but I'm torn about allowance. Part of me likes the idea of paying them to do specific tasks but I also like the "you help b/c you're part of the family and we give you money for things you want b/c you're part of the family" mindset. I don't necessarily like the chores for money idea b/c I want them to know they're expected to help when we ask, not just do the things on their list.

armandos_girl · February 2010

Yes, they will have daily chores, and it will involve both their stuff (keeping room clean etc) and family stuff (setting the table or unloading the dishwasher). DH and I are still on the fence about whether chores will be tied to allowance. I don't have a problem with it, but DH feels like they should do the chores without expecting something in return.

preppynewlywed · February 2010

We never had "chores."

My parents just had certain expectations: beds had to be made before we came out of our rooms, we had to pick up after ourselves.

There was never a chore list or any sort of organized way about it. They were more rules than chores.

I plan on doing the same thing. I'm of the mind that a kid shouldn't be dusting when they can be outside playing. That was my parents' thought as well.

We did not have allowances either. If we asked for movie money, we would sometimes get it, but we were told no as well.

I still helped around the house, but it was all voluntary.

Melaneigh1 · February 2010

I like the idea of allowance, a few bucks a week sounds good.

My dad tried to give us an allowance once. He gave me and my sister fifty cents a week for taking back the garbage cans. Fifty cents a week was not enough to motivate me even at such a young age (5 or 6).

danlexi04 · February 2010

I had chores growing up but I didn't get an allowance. According to my mother the animals weren't just hers and I needed to help take care of them without being paid.

I was also not paid for getting good grades and wasn't punished for poor ones. My mother believed the grade was the payment/punishment.

DD has chores and doesn't recieve an allowance. We throw her singles (oh that sounds bad) every now and then for her piggy bank. She's only 6 though. MH and I haven't discussed giving her an allowance when she's older.

Jenandtonica · February 2010

I'll try, but I think we're doomed at being able to make it work. I had my head in the clouds, was forgetful, whatnot and was terrible about doing my chores. TERRIBLE. I don't think DH had any. MIL was still doing his laundry when he moved out.

Howevs, DH is a neatfreak and probably won't let kids clean bc they won't clean well enough.

CinemaGoddess · February 2010

Yes. I want my kids to know how to cook a meal, clean up after themselves and do laundry before they go to college. They will also have an TBD amount in allowance a week. I want to teach them how to live on a budget and not go running to the Bank of Mom and Dad when they run out of money.

I plan to start them with simple chores around 5 (picking up their room, helping to set the dinner table, dusting) and slowly start adding more complex or heavy-duty tasks as they get older.

capinjen152 · February 2010

Growing up my brother, sister, and I each had chores every day. It rotated between us (setting table, loading or unloading the dishwasher, clearing the table, sweeping, etc). We also had a list on the weekends which rotated (bathroom, washing the floors, vacuuming, etc).

We got a weekly allowance and also were paid a little bit for raking or mowing the yard. Our parents also paid us for our grades in school (As- $10, Bs- $5 and if you got all As your total was doubled).

buckin · February 2010

I don't remember getting an allowance but I do remember getting money for special chores as an incentive to constantly ask to help out I think.

We didn't have daily chores but we were told to do certain things during the week, not always the same things.

mmkaye · February 2010

I never had set chores growing up. My parents just told me what I had to do when they wanted me to do it. I did get allowance though.

I plan on having set chores for my kids. Heck, I can't wait to have little minions to do all my cleaning. JK

I also imagine I will give them allowance or just give them money for things they need, want to do based on how well they are doing their chores.

caseybuchda · February 2010

danlexi04:
DD has chores and doesn't recieve an allowance. We throw her singles (oh that sounds bad) every now and then for her piggy bank. She's only 6 though.

LMAO

amy0105 · February 2010

My parents used the rule of a dollar per year (age) per week...but, that stopped in high school when we got jobs.

As for chores - ours will have them - but, as Preppy said hers were, they'll be more like rules than jobs...it's weird for me - my DH was raised in South Africa with 2 or more maids all of the time - he didn't know how to do his own laundry or cook until college (really after)

I never had to really clean (which makes it harder now) but, I did help around the house...my parents were pushovers though and I got my allowance regardless of how neat my room was...

fabbate13 · February 2010

I had to do chores, so yes my child will too. I never got an allowance and neither did DH so I'm guessing we won't do that either. I think I'll stick to how I was raised....I like how I turned out.

aerotigergirl · February 2010

There was one time that my mom made a "chore chart" for us, which sort of only worked for a little while. After a few weeks, the novelty of putting a little star sticker up for each completed chore wore off and the whole idea kindof died out.

However, I do remember helping out around the house. I was nearly 5 years older than my brother, so I liked doing things to help my mom with him when he was really little. I was never paid a set "allowance" for doing chores or for getting good grades. It seemed more like my parents had the expectation that I would get good grades and I would help out around the house, and my reward for doing those things was that I made my parents proud of me because I'd done what they expected me to do. I'm not sure this is the best way... it seems to have skewed my relationship with my parents a little.

My parents also didn't say "no" to either my brother or me very often. When we wanted/needed something, we generally got it, and sometimes to excess. Like, I had about 10 cabbage patch kids back when they were all the rage. I remember riding with my mom to distant cities to buy them because they were so scarce. Looking back, they probably should have said no more often. Saying "no" is something we plan to do with our kids.

I like an allowance because it seems to help teach kids about money, saving and how hard it is to get the things you want sometimes. I'm not sure how I feel about it being attached to chores, though.

aerotigergirl · February 2010

Jeesh. I don't mean to make my parents sound like they did a bad job. They were good parents who were doing the best that they could. Yes, they definitely made some mistakes, but I figure everyone does.

Sorry, I just re-read my last post and it really sounded like I was railing on my parents for doing a crap job of raising us. That isn't the case. They did a good job.

Dr.Loretta · February 2010

Yes and yes, but they will not be connected ("eg, do your chores and you'll get your dollar").

dmogmo · February 2010

two-pink-shoes:
They'll definitely have chores (maybe not daily, but things they have to do every week), but I'm torn about allowance. Part of me likes the idea of paying them to do specific tasks but I also like the "you help b/c you're part of the family and we give you money for things you want b/c you're part of the family" mindset. I don't necessarily like the chores for money idea b/c I want them to know they're expected to help when we ask, not just do the things on their list.

Ditto

roshybride · February 2010

What my parents did is that we had a set list of chores that were just because we were part of the family. We did not get an allowance for those. Then my mom had other 'jobs' that were voluntary and we would get paid for those. So if we wanted to earn money, we could do extra jobs around the house. We also got paid for grades (but like $1 for As, 50 cents for Bs, I wish $10 and $5!)

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