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3rd Trimester
What bothers you? (vent, maybe)
Is there something that someone may say to you about your pregnancy that you really wish they would keep to themselves? Some type of advice that you didn't ask for. What bothers me is when men tell me what I will be feeling or giving advice.
The male CW will always remind me that the due date is just a date and that it could be a week later when the baby comes. Umm, duh! He has told me that I should get an epi b/c his wife did. He tells me that there is a small percentage of women that experience their waterbreaking.
DH's best friend has discussed with me about BF. I wasn't sure if I wanted to hear this conversation or knew that we were on that level. He looked at my registry a few weeks ago and noticed that I had a breast pump on it. He told me that his wife tried to BF, but couldn't do it and that it was difficult to BF. He also told me that I would be experiencing BH soon.
I don't know. Getting unwanted advice/comments from men is just weird.
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Re: What bothers you? (vent, maybe)
I hate it when someone looks at me and says that I'm gonna be huge. I know I'm gonna be huge. You don't have to remind me.
I also hate it when people say things like "you'll have to stop those vacations/shopping/whatever else when that baby gets here". Why? Just take the kid on vacation with us, and budget a little differently and I don't see why it has to change that much.
I get this alot too! At my last blood test the tech asked how far I was and when I told her she asked me if I was sure and when I told her I was I got lectured about how unhealthy it was for me to be so small at this point. I promptly pointed out to her that she had no idea what size I was to start with and asked for her supervisor to draw my blood.
I have a male coworker who has two kids. He's insistent that castor oil is the best way to induce labor and it will work with no horrible side effects. He also told me the other day that all women poo on the table
. Then, he started joking around with another male coworker saying they'll take bets if that happens to me. I told them to go right ahead but it would be pointless because I'm not reporting back on it.
I was told by two coworkers today that it looks like I'm carrying high and the baby better hurry up and drop. Well, he is dropped and engaged, no question at all about it, was just checked yesterday by my OB. When I told them that one said "well, he needs to drop again then!". WTF? That doesn't even make sense.
I get told I'm big for my GA all the time. Then people always say "are you sure your dates are right?" Yes. "Are you sure there's only one in there?" Yes. Stop asking.
LMAO! Drop again to where? There's only so far he can drop before dropping out! Some people are such morons!
THIS THIS THIS! And always followed by, "well, I guess you're just lucky." Ummmm...no. 9 months of horrible nausea, no appetite, and dizziness (with fainting) is NOT lucky. Worrying about your baby is NOT lucky. Sheesh.
It actually bothers me when someone asks..."How's Adam?!" Hell...I really don't know. I would suppose he's a-ok since he's still wiggling around in there?
I also hate it when someone asks if I'm getting an epidural. They expect to hear "yes" and when I very seriously say "no"...they freak out and it's annoying!
I'm a medical student and literally CANNOT ride the elevator without someone commenting. They tell me how big i am, how i look like i'm about to pop, am i having twins etc. i just want an elevator ride IN PEACE!!
Yesterday an ~450 lb woman told me i looked like i'm about to pop. I wanted to say... "have you looked in the mirror recently?"
even if i'm just walking through the nurses station, nurses or techs will just say "how far along are you" and "are you still sleeping".... i feel like i'm being cat called or something....
just because we're pregnant doesn't mean we are public property to be commented on! i'm sooooooo SICK of it!
When someone tells me "oh it's just the hormones" NO it is not always the hormones. Am I allowed to feel sad about anything while pregnant and it NOT BE THE HORMONES???? My mom even said to me the other day "You need to not be so tender about things and try to remember it is just the hormones speaking!" So what is it when you throat punch someone? The hormones or your violent streak???? (I don't have a violent streak, don't be scared for my children, I just have a mother that makes me insane beyond words)
When people tell me how horrible its going to be having two.... I think its crappy of them to say their own lives are "horrible" because they have two children.... I don't think it will be sunshine and lollypops...but I don't think its gonna near the level of Horrible!
Also, when people comment about how I'm SOOOOO not gonna make it to my c/s date. Yes I am 3cm.... yes I still have 2 weeks....STFU I could very well stay this way the whole time! I don't need someone breathing down my neck trying to guess when Im going to go into labor (my whole family thinks by Sunday i'll be in the hospital!)
"If you buy everything for yourself; what will people get you for your shower?"
Followed by
"We didn't like anything you registered for. What do you REALLY want?"
For realz? I love that you want to buy me stuff, but it's not my personal project to find an 'extra special gift' that I didn't tell anyone about but you. And if I have to go out and buy all my registry items full price a week before baby is here because YOU didn't want me to buy anything ahead of time, I'm gonna be Pi$$ed.
"For you to buy off my registry!"