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Bigger momma's ?s and comments

tkobelletkobelle
in 3rd Trimester

Ok I admit I'm not a toothpick and I never will be and I love that. But as with a large majority of pregnancies (aka all haha) I have a hormonal reaction to weight comments now more than I ever have! With 11 weeks left to go I was expecting to be getting stranger comments about my pregnancy or weight gain but I didn't expect this one.

Last night at DH's bowling league I was in the restroom talking with another wife of a fellow bowler and she asked how much longer it was till I was full term. When I said 11 more weeks a woman who had just entered the restroom turned to me and said "Oh my! You're that far along. You don't look 29 weeks. You just look overweight! I would have never assumed you were pregnant. Just fat. HAHAA."  Angry I have a bump for crying out loud! It's there. DH notices it everyday! Strangers suck sometimes.

Anyone else getting tired of people thinking that you are just overweight?

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  • willowcormarwillowcormar member
    Wow. I would of cried....or hit her. Sorry you had to hear that.
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  • ParadisePrincessParadisePrincess
    I kind of wish people would just think I was fat because then I wouldn't get all the annoying "oh it's TWINS!" comments. I'm sure you look wonderful darling and that woman deserved a throat punch.
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  • october252008october252008
    How rude!  Seriously, what makes someone say they can say that to anyone?  Especially a pregnant lady!  So sorry you had to hear that.  You look great in your picture.
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  • katie.i.dokatie.i.do
    that was incredibly bitchy of her to not only say that to your face, but to keep going on about it. criminey.
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  • sadiwestsadiwest

    I'd have punched her in the nose.

    But seriously...I can't understand why some people think it's OK to make comments to complete strangers about their weight. I've dealt with it all of my life and it makes me angry.

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  • rmaximrmaxim
    That's pretty rude. Maybe she meant it nicely, but people should know that telling a pregnant woman that she "doesn't look pregnant" isn't a "nice" thing to say and it won't be well-received. IMO everyone should learn this line:  "The only part of you that looks pregnant is your belly!"
    Jude Wayne - Born 4/23/10 Violet Patricia - Born 12/5/12 Breastfeeding, baby-wearing work-at-home mom of 2 living in Rockville, MD
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  • kelcatkelcat
    I try not to think what strangers think.  I know that when someone looks at me they just think I'm fat.  I didn't even begin to "look" pregnant until a few weeks ago.  DH will tell you he noticed everything from the beginning, and a few close friends.  I did have a mini break down around 25 weeks when I was talking to my mom and told her how it was not fair that I do not look pregnant.  She told me the same thing happened to her.  It made me feel better that she understood where I was coming from.  My friend who is 11 weeks behind me looks as big as I do.  I got my first stranger comment yesterday at the drs office.  But I think that was only because I was massage my belly where I had some discomfort from LO.  You are not alone in missing the stranger comments, but at the same time it is nice after hearing what some of these strangers say to the skinnier girls on here.
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  • amelianguyamelianguy
    Yep, someone at work told me something very similar to this a few weeks ago and I cried about it through my lunch break. I have a bump too, and I've only gained 3 pounds my whole pregnancy! I just don't understand why people think that just because you're pregnant, they have the right to comment on your weight.

    People are a**holes.
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  • lolagrinninlolagrinnin
    A coworker told me today that I don't look pg at all. I'm pretty sure this was meant to be nice, but honestly - I've gained plenty of weight and can't wear 90% of my pre-pg clothes. My belly sticks out further than my boobs by a good few inches. I think maybe we're just extra good at wearing flattering clothes. ;)
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  • Mrs. GizzlesMrs. Gizzles
    People suck! Hold your head high!  You look fantastic in your siggy pic.  If it makes you feel better, waiters keep offering me cocktails.  Hello, I'm 9 months pregnant, I really don't think I should be drinking! On the up side, I don't have that miserable grape on a popsicle stick look :-)
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  • HCA2010HCA2010

    What an insensitive biotch.

    I cannot stand rude people like that.  

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  • anna1387anna1387 member

    Wow.. I'm sorry that happend. I feel your pain. I work with four overly-weight obsessed people and I already dispise thier commentis about ppl who's thigh's touch...ugh! I'm a real women. I'm sorry that everyone I work with has issues but don't make me feel bad about mine ESPECIALLY when I'm pregnant. It really doesn't make me feel any better. :)

     With the whole stranger thing... I mean I hardly even get a comment about being pregnant. That kinda makes me mad. . . oh well .

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