would you take your LO to visit someone in a hospital?

angelynn8411 · February 2010

my friend is in the hospital for the millionth time this yr (she has crohn's and is seriously there 50% of the time) and she is really down. I know she is tired of being sick and not having answers, and her new meds make her really cranky.

She mentioned on FB i should come visit her and i told her i would if i could find someone to watch DD. I told her to call me & we'd work something out. She never did call me. Instead, she commented to someone else about how she is sooooo glad they came to visit her and realize how much it means to her etc etc, and how they don't "make excuses" like everyone else.

I think not wanting my LO to catch RSV or something isn't an excuse. It's a legitimate concern. Had she called me, I would have had DH watch DD and go visit her but now I feel like her crummy attitude isn't worth the trouble.

MegGary · February 2010

No I wouldn't. When our friends had their baby in October I wouldn't go because we didn't have a sitter for DD.

Sounds like your friend is feeling sorry for herself with that kind of FB comment. I'd feel the same way as you. However, I'd probably ask her if she means you. Cause, sorry, kids are not an excuse. They are a reason.

anna7602 · February 2010

Yes, I have taken DD to visit her great-grandmother in the hospital. I was a little freaked out because ggma was there for pneumonia, but she was so happy to see DD.

byrne15 · February 2010

we brought ds to the hospital when he was 7 months to visit and again at 12 months. i wouldnt bring him now since he doesnt sit in the stroller anymore...

anna7602 · February 2010

Also, Crohn's is not contagious at all, so your child should be fine around your friend. You could ask what other illnesses are on the same floor of the hospital if you're worried about viruses, etc.

angelynn8411 · February 2010

anna7602:

Yes, I have taken DD to visit her great-grandmother in the hospital. I was a little freaked out because ggma was there for pneumonia, but she was so happy to see DD.

i guess it's different if it's a family member. I still don't know that I would, but i think the situation is a little different.

Brookie-Cookie · February 2010

Yes.

Brougham7-15-06 · February 2010

depending on the time of the year and the reason for the hospitlization and who it is.....maybe i would take them. At this time I would not. You might not even be able to, a lot of hospitals are still following the flu restrictions until spring

angelynn8411 · February 2010

anna7602:
Also, Crohn's is not contagious at all, so your child should be fine around your friend. You could ask what other illnesses are on the same floor of the hospital if you're worried about viruses, etc.

she is always in ICU so it could be a # of things. The reason I say RSV in particular is b/c her DD has gotten RSV, pneumonia, bronchitis, etc. I assume they are all from visiting her in the hospital, since she's not around other sick people otherwise.

Geekchick921 · February 2010

Check with the hospital. Right now, because of the flu season, they don't want children visiting patients at all (I find this oddly strict, but whatev).

houndbaby · February 2010

are children allowed to visit at the hospital she's at? FIL was in the hospital a few weeks ago, I would have taken ds to see him, but the hospital said they wouldn't allow any visitors under 12 because of swine flu

angelynn8411 · February 2010

houndbaby:
are children allowed to visit at the hospital she's at? FIL was in the hospital a few weeks ago, I would have taken ds to see him, but the hospital said they wouldn't allow any visitors under 12 because of swine flu

see, this too.

UGH she is making me sound like a horrible friend.

miss67c · February 2010

I would take LO to visit, but now local hospital rules have changed. Anyone underage is not allowed to visit. (this is due to the swine flu stuff)

Brougham7-15-06 · February 2010

angelynn8411:

anna7602:
Also, Crohn's is not contagious at all, so your child should be fine around your friend. You could ask what other illnesses are on the same floor of the hospital if you're worried about viruses, etc.

she is always in ICU so it could be a # of things. The reason I say RSV in particular is b/c her DD has gotten RSV, pneumonia, bronchitis, etc. I assume they are all from visiting her in the hospital, since she's not around other sick people otherwise.

I don't know where you are from, but around here most ICUs do not allow young children unless it is an extenuating circumstance and it is family.

LawLove08 · February 2010

No, I wouldn't. ?But I do think that: (1) you shouldn't assume that her FB comment is directed at you; and (2) you should call her to set up a time to come visit. ?If she's depressed or having a difficult time, and she's a good friend, you should put your hurt feelings aside.

Cec07 · February 2010

Nope, I wouldn't take my lo into the hospital. The hospital where I go to school actually doesn't allow anyone under 16 to visit. Hospitals are gross, germy places.

WestCoastMommy · February 2010

I took DS to see a good friend after she gave birth and also to see my mom after she had knee surgery. With that said a nurse came up to me and told me it's not a good idea to bring DS to hospitals and that they discourage it.

lite-bright · February 2010

Unless it was a family member, probably not.

DD doesn't even do well when she's in the room at my OB appointments, so DH usually has to come watch her in the waiting area. She just gets very nervous and easily upset in a medical environment.

And even if she did okay, there's the running around aspect. It's not going to be a fun visit for anybody if I'm constantly chasing down my toddler or telling her, "Don't do x! Don't touch!", etc. instead of giving my attention to the person that I came to visit.

lanie30 · February 2010

Cec07:
Nope, I wouldn't take my lo into the hospital. The hospital where I go to school actually doesn't allow anyone under 16 to visit. Hospitals are gross, germy places.

I took Josephine every day for months when my Dad was dying. It's possible to do it safely. It's up to you, but check with the hospital.

LilMissLadybug · February 2010

Some hospitals are really strict. If you have any sort of runny nose or cold symptom you are not allowed to visit. My niece was born in January and I took DD with me to visit but I had to sign a form stating that we have not had any cold symptoms or been around anyone with a cold (to our knowledge) in the last 7days.

danandkelly · February 2010

I have. When Dh's grandmother was hospitalized (multiple times) we took DD with us to visit her...but in our defense she said "don't come unless you bring the baby".

In this situation, where it's a friend and not a family member, I would try to find someone to watch DD rather than take her.

ChelseaBelle · February 2010

We took my DD to visit my dad after he got life-flighted to the hospital and was in the ICU. He has congestive heart failure and was also diagnosed with colon cancer and they didn't think he was going to make it. My parents watch DD in their house while DH and I work so she is really close to my dad so I wanted her to see him and him to see her just in case. She ended up scared and crying which made him upset so it was awful anyway. Luckily dad is fine, but it was hard trying to decide what to do.

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