Crying hurting the baby?

VampyGirl · February 2010

I know i've posted alot. I'm sorry =[

But I just really need help, As I cant call my doc until morning and I dont want them to think i'm crazy either lol.

But I've been dealing with ALOT of stress at home with moving and etc. Its all very bad right now. And this weekend/today i have been doing almost non stop hardcore crying...I heard the baby heartbeat and it was fine last week...But..I'm so scared that all my crying is hurting her badly...I'm tempted to just spend another 60 dollers to get an ultrasound just so i feel shes okay. But we really dont have that kinda money.

Could crying this much and this hard be harmful to the baby?

I already feel like such a bad mom, I cant stop as much as i try telling myself i'm hurting her. =[

Anyone have any ideas on what i can do? Thanks.

Chickpea2010 · February 2010

There was a Sunday recently where I swear I cried ALL DAY - we're talking sobbing, hysterical, not just weepy. I was so worried, but I had an appt the next day and everything is fine.

I'm not sure of the exact science, but crying actually releases stress. So, I would say it's much better for the baby than holding it in!

Sorry you're going through a hard time!

CamFam · February 2010

No. Crying releases endorphines to help you feel better, so let it out! Stress can be negative to the baby... so take a step back and look at everything that is stressing you out right now.

Make a list, write in a journal, call a friend, or post like you are doing! Try to eliminate as much stress as you can and remember that some things are just out of your control. Take each moment as it occurs and try not to look to far ahead. Feel better! Big Smile

ETA: Can you take an hour to do something that relaxes you, right now? I find that yoga helps me because it forces me to focus on breathing.

On a side note: I tell my kindergarteners when they are crying hysterically to "look up". Literally. Look at the ceiling. You can't cry when you are looking up.

KathrynBurkart · February 2010

I know our emotions can affect the baby, such as stress. I was under a lot of stress earlier in the pregnancy and somehow the ob knew it. He said try to find a way to relax each day. I know it's easier said than done, but it's worth the try. And then also talk to you doctor the next time you see him/her. I wouldn't run out and pay for a $60 U/S unless you've had bad cramping & bleeding. But at that rate you can go to the ER or emergency appt at the dr office. My best advice is to try to find a way to relax even if it's some yoga poses you can find online and focus on breathing.

SomeChurchillQuote · February 2010

I felt the same way when I've been crying non-stop due to stress. When I do stop, instead of focusing on the fact that i shouldn't be stressing, I try to tell myself that stressing over stress will not help. Does that make sense? Too much stress can be bad, but I'm sure baby is fine.

AnissaMarie · February 2010

I'm sorry you feel so bad. The only bit of knowledge I can say comes from a professor I had 8 years ago in a Human Development course in college. She said that stress can be as damaging to a fetus as smoking. I don't know how accurate it is, but it has made me try my hardest to not stress about the little things until the baby is here! I don't have advice on how not to cry or force yourself to be happy. Life can be tough! And never feel bad about calling your doctor. Better safe than sorry! Good luck! Sorry I can't be of more help.

Qmommy · February 2010

Crying will NOT hurt your baby. You are releasing built up stress that needed to get out. If you feel like crying... do it! It will make you and your baby feel better.

VampyGirl · February 2010

Thanks you guys. I feel SO much better. Now when i have to cry I wont sit here telling her sorry for crying lol

JnC09 · February 2010

I was so depressed, stressed and crying quite often at the beginning of my pregnancy. While my doctor said it wasn't harming the baby but that I needed to try and control it, I had my mother on the other end (Queen Superstitious) telling me how the baby would be born with all those emotions and I was harming the baby etc etc. I still cry because i'm a cry baby and i'm super emotional sometimes but I don't think it's as bad. Sometimes I talk to the baby and rub my belly when I feel better apologizing to her for putting her through that. My mom kinda scared the crap out of me even though I don't believe in some of her superstitions.

PlainandTall · February 2010

There is an interesting book by Thomas Verney called "The Secret Life of the Unborn Child" and it deals a lot with how your mood and enviornment can effect the baby's sense... I guess... of well being. The book is kind of dated so I would not take it as cold science- but it is interesting food for thought. I don't think it's actual tears or crying that's the problem- but stress... if you are under a huge amount of stress or are unhappy- no amount of "controling your emotions" is going to reduce that until you are able to actually control the stress that's causing you to feel so bad... and like others said- if you just need to cry for the emotional release- I think that's a lot better to do than to bottle it up!

Big hugs! I hope you are feeling better soon!

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