I know i've posted alot. I'm sorry =[
But I just really need help, As I cant call my doc until morning and I dont want them to think i'm crazy either lol.
But I've been dealing with ALOT of stress at home with moving and etc. Its all very bad right now. And this weekend/today i have been doing almost non stop hardcore crying...I heard the baby heartbeat and it was fine last week...But..I'm so scared that all my crying is hurting her badly...I'm tempted to just spend another 60 dollers to get an ultrasound just so i feel shes okay. But we really dont have that kinda money.
Could crying this much and this hard be harmful to the baby?
I already feel like such a bad mom, I cant stop as much as i try telling myself i'm hurting her. =[
Anyone have any ideas on what i can do? Thanks.
Re: Crying hurting the baby?
There was a Sunday recently where I swear I cried ALL DAY - we're talking sobbing, hysterical, not just weepy. I was so worried, but I had an appt the next day and everything is fine.
I'm not sure of the exact science, but crying actually releases stress. So, I would say it's much better for the baby than holding it in!
Sorry you're going through a hard time!
No. Crying releases endorphines to help you feel better, so let it out! Stress can be negative to the baby... so take a step back and look at everything that is stressing you out right now.
Make a list, write in a journal, call a friend, or post like you are doing! Try to eliminate as much stress as you can and remember that some things are just out of your control. Take each moment as it occurs and try not to look to far ahead. Feel better!
ETA: Can you take an hour to do something that relaxes you, right now? I find that yoga helps me because it forces me to focus on breathing.
On a side note: I tell my kindergarteners when they are crying hysterically to "look up". Literally. Look at the ceiling. You can't cry when you are looking up.
There is an interesting book by Thomas Verney called "The Secret Life of the Unborn Child" and it deals a lot with how your mood and enviornment can effect the baby's sense... I guess... of well being. The book is kind of dated so I would not take it as cold science- but it is interesting food for thought. I don't think it's actual tears or crying that's the problem- but stress... if you are under a huge amount of stress or are unhappy- no amount of "controling your emotions" is going to reduce that until you are able to actually control the stress that's causing you to feel so bad... and like others said- if you just need to cry for the emotional release- I think that's a lot better to do than to bottle it up!
Big hugs! I hope you are feeling better soon!