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pregnancy after losing twins?
I recently had my identical twin girls that were stillborn due to the fact that they had ttts(or thats what they think so far). I was 29 weeks and I am so confused about that whole situation. I never realized it could happen so fast. I went in on Wed feb 3rd for a normal growth scan and everything was fine. I went in on monday feb 8th and there were no heartbeats. I guess i never thought ttts could happen so fast.
I guess my question is what do you think the chances of me having twins again is? I am heartbroken looking at 2 cribs, a double stroller and 2 of everything that we have and I don't know what to do with it all. I was in shock when i found out i was having twins and now i am obsessed with having twins. Also, how long do you think i should wait before trying to conceive again?
thanks in advance...
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Re: pregnancy after losing twins?
I to have no answers for you, but wanted to let you know that I am so sorry for your loss.
Have you tried posting this question on the loss board, there maybe women who are going through this exact thing there.
You and your family are in my prayers.
I am so sorry for your loss. I am heartbroken for you.
I also have no answers but I hope you find some comfort.
I'm so very sorry for your losses. How heart-breaking!
Have you asked your OB these questions? I'd think your history would be important to knowing the answers. (((HUGS)))
It's good to see you here - i'm glad you came to look for support here because you ARE a twin mommy.
A good friend of me lost her twins at 23 weeks. they survived 4 and 5 days. She actually just had a baby girl one month ago. It was rough for her- the worry of her next pregnancy was HUGE but she kept praying and she got there. Her little girl is healthy and was born at term.
another good friend of mine lost her baby boy - the day before her due date there was no heartbeat....And then got pregnant 3 months later (when her doctor told her she could start trying again) - it was rough for her because she had almost the same due date - being pg the same time of year, etc - made her extra freaked out. So you might want to wait longer than 3 months because if you did get pg right away- that would be the case.
Another friend of mine who lost her baby the day before her induction is also in your shoes- she is about to start trying again - but it's hard.
Sorry for the sad stories- but i wanted you to know you are NOT alone - many women have gone through what you have been through - and they end up doing OK. You'll always have a broken heart- but happy times will come to you soon.
As far as having twins again- they say ID's are a fluke... but you just never know.
have you gone on TTC after a loss board? I'm sure you'll get tons of support there... or PG after a loss - might be able to get some insight from the women there about what they decided to do and why. I think talking with other women who have been through what you have would really help you. I know all my friends who dealt with that did support groups of some sort (some online, some IRL) that helped a lot.
(((HUGS))). I think of you often and pray that you can find some peace in your heart... and soon a baby or two in your belly again.
My story is different than yours.. I went into early labor at 26 weeks, and lost one of my identical twins four days after birth. My other little guy is still in the NICU (day 94!) and we're hoping he might actually come home in the next few weeks.
I also have two cribs. My son's clothes hang in sets of two. I have a side by side stroller. We returned the two carseats and bought a single travel system. It's hard. Really, really hard.
We're going to try again at the end of the year. My husband and I both hope to conceive twins again, as we had gotten over the shock of it and felt really blessed to be part of the multiples 'club.' All of that build-up, and to deal with loss instead.. I feel your pain.
There were a couple days where we thought we'd lose both of our boys, and we're so grateful for how well Hunter has been doing lately.
I found that the Parenting after a Loss and TTCAL seemed to be more geared to ladies who experienced miscarriages early on, moreso than stillborn or early infant death. But I didn't lurk much.
I wish I could tell you more, but I think for us, to conceive another set of spontaneous identical twins would truly be a fluke of nature. *hugs* Best of luck for a healthy pregnancy, no matter how many little ones you do conceive.
First off, I'm very sorry for your loss!
I dont usually post on here, just lurk every once in a while. I was pg with identical twins, but lost them at the end of my 1st tri. I asked my doctor what the chances were to become pregnant with identicals again and he said it would be the same as everyone else (I think like 2-3%) I would think the only way your chances would go up would be if you did any medical intervention (clomid, IUI, IVF) and that would probably be fraternal twins, not identical. I am pregnant again, but only with one baby this time.
As for when you should start trying again, I would ask your doctor since they might make you wait a few months for your uterus to go back to regular size (thats what my doctor told me to do), or they might just tell you to start trying when YOU feel ready.