I wanna be pregnant again! BOO HOO!

cbjpl31 · February 2010

We agreed on August...but I'm not on b/c. Do you think it would be wrong to get PG again before Aug? I know my schedule and cycle...he doesn't...but if I'm not on b/c then he could expect me to be PG again anytime? I don't know...I'm torn...

To give a lil background...my guy is about 150 lbs overweight and I worry he won't be around for us...so I wanna get my kids ASAP so if something were to happen, we have our family for me to raise...

I dunno...what do I do?

burgle · February 2010

I don't know...personally I don't know if I would want to raise multiple kids without DH there. But on the other hand, if you know you want to, you might want to start "trying" now, since overweight guys can have trouble with their little men. That is so a decision and you have to make yourself, and I hope no one flames you for this, we all make our own choices and no one deserves to be ripped to pieces for it.

HisMrs07 · February 2010

If thats how you feel you should talk to him and see if he will agree to start earlier. I think being sneaky about it is not fair since you both agreed to wait. just my opinion.

cbjpl31 · February 2010

burgle:
I don't know...personally I don't know if I would want to raise multiple kids without DH there. But on the other hand, if you know you want to, you might want to start "trying" now, since overweight guys can have trouble with their little men. That is so a decision and you have to make yourself, and I hope no one flames you for this, we all make our own choices and no one deserves to be ripped to pieces for it.

I expect to be flamed...that's what we do here best...lol

I love my guy but he has serious food issues. He wants lapband surgery but he has no insurance so it's a dilema. I have his family and mine...I'd never be "alone" If he happens to pass before his time I know that they will take care of me so that I can raise our family. I am just scared.

burgle · February 2010

To a degree, I understand. My DH isn't in the best of health, and he is 15 years older than I am. He only has half a lung, due to asbestos from a job he had 20 years ago. Sometimes he has so much trouble breathing it is scary.

cbjpl31 · February 2010

I just asked him and he says he doesn't care when, just as long as we have healthy babies. I'm so excited.

I love my guy so much!

HisMrs07 · February 2010

cbjpl31:
I just asked him and he says he doesn't care when, just as long as we have healthy babies. I'm so excited. I love my guy so much!

aww yay Smile

jema30 · February 2010

cbjpl31:
burgle:
I don't know...personally I don't know if I would want to raise multiple kids without DH there. But on the other hand, if you know you want to, you might want to start "trying" now, since overweight guys can have trouble with their little men. That is so a decision and you have to make yourself, and I hope no one flames you for this, we all make our own choices and no one deserves to be ripped to pieces for it.
I expect to be flamed...that's what we do here best...lol
I love my guy but he has serious food issues. He wants lapband surgery but he has no insurance so it's a dilema. I have his family and mine...I'd never be "alone" If he happens to pass before his time I know that they will take care of me so that I can raise our family. I am just scared.

August isn't that far away. Maybe you could spend the rest of the time getting healthy together. If you help him take care of himself then you would both be able to raise your children together.

It won't be easy. I know how hard this is. I have personal experience with it in my own family. It's also important to try to help him. I also understand what it's like to be scared.

Also, making decisions in fear isn't always the best. I'd try to conquer that fear and make a change before I'd start expanding my family. Talk to your husband and tell him how you feel. Then tell him you don't want to do it without him.

(A side note: Lap band doesn't work unless you're willing to make a permanent change in your lifestyle and conquer your food issues. If you talk to your husband about what changes he would have to make and start living by those changes now you may find that he loses weight, starts to feel healthier and you could keep your husband around for a lot longer.)

Soap1 · February 2010

I'm glad he agreed!!!

I want 4 kids and DH wants 2, so we compromised on 3. But I told DH I wasn't going on bc after the 3rd one so if he wants to avoid a 4th he had better get the snip snip...

haha! (crap I'll probably be flamed for that... lol)

alikins7927 · February 2010

I wish I could get preg again. I havnt had my period yet after DS was born due to EBF. I dont think there is a way to do it. My DH wants 8 (we have 3 so far) so I would like to get on the ball (so to speak) but I dont know how. Dh is also a big guy, he's 6' and 350 but he is the "runt" of his family. Wish I could just start!!

Lucky428 · February 2010

cbjpl31:
I just asked him and he says he doesn't care when, just as long as we have healthy babies. I'm so excited. I love my guy so much!

That is wonderful Smile

Being sneaky is not a good way to go about it. In the mean time, I hope you can help him move toward a healthy lifestyle so he will be around for many years.

Lucky428 · February 2010

alikins7927:
My DH wants 8

Indifferent

8?? Wow!

ZAngel · February 2010

Personally, I would help DH work on his weight before bringing another child into the family. The children need their father and if there is something he can do to extend that time, it should be done. Put all of your focus on healthy eating and an exercise program. Anyways... that's what I would do. Good luck with whatever you decide.

JCGreene85 · February 2010

why doesnt your dh lose the weight? that way it isnt an issue and you dont have to "accidentally" get pg again?

ChelseaC630 · February 2010

Really not trying to flame here but don't you think instead of bringing more children into the world to raise, possibly without a father, he should focus on getting himself healthier for the kids he has now? I think if his health is really an issue, you're being irresponsible by having more children to go through the pain of losing a father.

cbjpl31 · February 2010

i do what i can to help him be healthy and lose weight but it's an uphill battle. i will never stop trying tho!

mbkohn · February 2010

ChelseaC630:
Really not trying to flame here but don't you think instead of bringing more children into the world to raise, possibly without a father, he should focus on getting himself healthier for the kids he has now? I think if his health is really an issue, you're being irresponsible by having more children to go through the pain of losing a father.

You took the words right out of my mouth.

alikins7927 · February 2010

Didnt know immortality was an option in life. Anyone could pass at any moment, does that mean that we shouldnt have kids?

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