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MIL just left me a message...

EmKo0210EmKo0210 member
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Saying she was thinking about Lilah. (Our EDD is tomorrow).  She was obviously upset and crying in her message.  I feel bad because she called me twice this week, and I haven't called her back.  She is a really caring person, but a lot of the time ends up saying things that really hurt.  I really just don't want to talk to her right now, as bad as that sounds.  I don't feel like being upset today.  I'm thinking of maybe just sending her an e-mail saying I appreciate her thinking of us, but I just don't feel like talking today.  Does that seem really b*tchy?WWYD?  Thanks, ladies.

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Re: MIL just left me a message...

  • jrhodes09jrhodes09

    no, I don't think it sounds b!tchy at all. If you don't feel like talking, you don't feel like talking. I actually think an email would be nice so she knows you aren't just "ignoring" her.

    I hope you have a relaxing weekend...hugs!!!

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  • Amanda78Amanda78 member

    First, big hugs for tomorrow.

    I think an email is fine in this case.  I don't think its bitchy at all, if she's a really caring person she should understand.

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  • Cissi64Cissi64
    Do what is right for you.  I would probably feel guilty and call her if I were you but that is me and I'm not saying you should.  I think at the least an emaill to acknowledge that she called is a good idea.
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  • hbkiseshbkises member
    is there a time that you know she'd be away that you could leave a message?  I don't think that sounds b!tchy, it's probably what I would do too.  It sounds like she really cares about you and I'm sure she'll understand
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  • ColindaPColindaP member
    No, I think that sounds fine. That's sweet of her to think of you guys, but she should take the hint. She called, expressed her love and support now the ball is in your court and if you don't want to talk, you don't have to.
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  • Kevswife05Kevswife05

    No I think it is fine to send the email, Im sure she will understand. *Hugs*

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  • mdm2137mdm2137

    No, that is not bitchy! I will be thinking of you tomorrow. ((hugs))


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  • EmKo0210EmKo0210 member
    Thanks for the advice and support. : )
    Lilah Eve---our angel in heaven: Born sleeping 12/2/09 @ 28w3d. We love you and miss you everyday, little angel.
    Isabella Faith---Born 12/17/10 via c-section.
    Abigail Marie---Born 11/16/12 via c-section
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  • weavjessweavjess
    I think a good solid email would be fine.  Maybe a text tomorrow to follow up or something.  I'm sure she'll understand too; maybe your DH can call her too.  ::hugs::
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  • KeriMacKeriMac

    Can DH call?  I am so sorry, this must be so difficult.  For days after my m/c, i refused to talk to anyone, even my own parents.  I texted everyone because I wanted them to know, but I couldn't bear to say the words out loud...  It's kind that your MIL is concerned and hurting for you, but she will understand that everyone grieves in their own way...

    (((HUGS)))) from afar!!!

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  • denise_mdenise_m

    I think that is a very mature and responsible thing to do.  I'm sure she'll understand.

     

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