Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: BACHELOR - let's discuss
Who said he picks Vienna? Is it on one of the spoiler websites? If he picks Vienna, he's more stupid than I already think he is.
He's really good looking and all but I like men who don't cry every five minutes.
However, I have faithfully watched every season and will continue doing so. I love it.
It was all over the boards...
We (Fi and I) think someone else might come back on the finale.
Vienna is a cow. With synthetic hair. Moo baby.
Team Teneley. Even if I don't know how to spell her name
Agreed - Jake cries too much.
We saw it on the spoiler website https://realitysteve.com/
(edit to fix the link!)
We know because of Reality Steve. He's been right on everything else so unfortunetly, it looks like he's going to be right with Vienna. And I agree with the previous poster about letting go Gia for Vienna.
Speaking of the last episode, did he end up sleeping with all 3 girls? I would assume so since they all got the suite but ew, how douch-ey.
TTC#2=July 2011: Surprise BFP: Chemical Pregnancy
Total d-bag move. Also agree on the Gia comments. She has a rockin bod. Money well spent!
I do not see how he and Vienna go together AT ALL. From what I hear I don't think they are engaged. Has anyone heard something different?
And thanks to realitysteve.com we know who the next Bachelorette is too. Thoughts on her?!
I don't mind Ali. But her whining dead motor noise needs to die. Yesterday.
She really likes to have her close ups on camera though eh? She milks those for all they're worth.
You know, I think that they may already be broken up, and that is why they haven't bothered with trying to make Vienna look good. They can edit anyone to look however they want, and you'd think if she was the final choice, they would try to make her look better.
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You are probably right. If they were still together they would want to make their "love story" look perfect for TV.
At least Vienna isn't the next bachelorette!
She didn't bother me until all the whining started. I just don't want her whole season to be her whining and poor me acts.
I feel like she totally came on the show looking for a career boost or to land a spot as the next Bachelorette, guess it worked out!
www.teamtravis.info
Seriously, you need to put a spoiler alert in the title of this post, I had no idea who he picked!
I think it's brutal if Ali's the next bachelorette. She is so whiny. But like I've said before, I'm sure I'll still watch it.
Totally agree! If he does end up picking Vienna that will suck - I don't see what he can like about her.
TTC#2=July 2011: Surprise BFP: Chemical Pregnancy
Agreed! I had heard it was Tenley and think she would be better than Ali, but I'll still watch even if it is Ali
Lol, me too.
TTC#2=July 2011: Surprise BFP: Chemical Pregnancy