Question for those with surprise BFPs

SeaSoul · February 2010

If you had a surprise bfp:

1) What was your Dx?

2) How much of a surprise was it? (what were the odds of this happening?)

Needless to say, a spontaneous pregnancy on our part would be a surprise beyond words, given that DH has 0 sperm! But a girl can still hope. Especially given that we never did biopsy/TESE/mTESE, so we really don't know for sure what's going on in there.

Smudges*Mom · February 2010

I have been wondering this very same thing! Thank you for posting it!

We are "one and done", but I do wonder what our chances of getting pregnant on our own are. I think that our problem, my opinion, not verified by a doctor, is with fertilization. Pregnancy seems to make getting pregnant again (without help) more likely for some diagnoses, but I think that we are not in that category.

I am very curious to see the answers to these questions!

cjsbdl · February 2010

We had a surprise BFP after three years TTC. Our diagnosis was mild MFI, but we were basically unexplained--our RE said that even given DH's MFI we should've been able to conceive on our own. And we did...eventually. But I also have MTHFR and recurrent miscarriages, so I'm glad we went through the ART process or I might never have been able to carry to term.

ETA: I should've specified, DH has low motility.

epphd · February 2010

I'm totally curious about this too. DH and I have all the "parts" and never did get an official diagnosis. By all accounts we should have no trouble conceiving on our own and yet... 4 IVFs and finally a successful donor egg IVF is what brought us Sam. I never once even got close - no chem pgs, no nothing. Seems our embryos suck.

But it's always possible there is a "golden egg" in there somewhere!

howleyshell · February 2010

1. Dx = DOR (diminished ovarian reserves).

2. First one (Jace) We were trying, I knew when I O'd and we covered the spread. RE said we had maybe a 4-5% chance of ever conceiving without meds after Dylan and maybe a 15 - 20% chance with another IVF round. We'd had only 3 eggs retrieved with my IVF cycle confirming his diagnosis that my ovaries suck.

Second one - we were not "trying" and we thought we were preventing since I knew my cycle and we used condoms during my O time. We had sex 4 days before I ovulated (give or take) and he pulled out.

Third one - same as above but it might have been closer to 3 days before ovulation.

Obviously the last 2 of the 3 didn't end well (undoubtedly egg issues) but the sperm did meet the egg which was quite a shocker considering my diagnosis and previous history.

BizEB · February 2010

My twins were a surprise. We were definitely trying but I didn't think it would work in a million years. I didn't even think I was ovulating (hadn't gotten a positive OPK in 3 months) and I only have one tube. I also have a history of pregnancy loss (1 chemical pregnancy and one ectopic) so we were further surprised when they stuck!

Not sure what my chances were. I told my RE that I was going to try on my own for awhile and he said that's "not totally crazy"- um, not exactly a confidence booster-- so we were really shocked (as was he) to see a BFP our 2nd cycle trying. And with twins

Christakim · February 2010

Ella was a break cycle baby. We were going to do IVF the next cycle, so we took the month off from meds.

We had sex twice that whole month, once 2 days before O and once on the day of O.

I have severe stage IV endo and my left tube is crumbled and had 1/2 my right ovary taken out. DH has no issues. We had a 10% chance. Now as the doc says it's closer to 3%.

marcuej · February 2010

1.) Me = PCOS, 1 blocked tube and endometriosis. DH = Low Morph

2.) HUGE, HUGE surprise! I had no idea I was pregnant when I found out. Before my IVF, we were given less than 1% chance of conceiving on our own.

FYI...I received my first AF exactly one month after I had Stella. I thought it was a fluke though. I thought I may have ovulated, but wasn't sure since I never ovulated on my own before. It happened the 2nd month too...like clockwork. I didn't have AF after that so I took a test and it was negative. I took another one a bit later and it was still negative. I figured my PCOS was back in full force and had even started Metformin again. Then I started getting really sick. I went to my family doc and she's the one who discovered I was pregnant. I never in a million years thought I'd get pregnant on my own!

InLove24 · February 2010

We have no diagnosis. We TTC for 2 years my first IVF was a BFP but had a miscarriage at 10 weeks. Then I had and FET that was a BFN. So after two years DH and I decided to take a break. I got pregnant that month. I'm hoping for another surprise BFP.

lolalillie · February 2010

I have PCOS and DH had slight MFI (basically bad motility). We did IVF to have DS. I had a miscarriage prior to DS, we lost his twin, and miraculously we got pg when he was 4 months old. I literally got a positive test one day and was bleeding by the next day.

We were planning on going back to the RE and after the third m/c we did. They discovered that I had a hyperthyroid. In June 2009 I was told that I had to wait 6 months to pursue treatments to see if my thyroid would regulate itself.

My endocrinologist and RE said if I got pg in that time, no biggie, but none of us ever thought it would happen. My periods began to get long again (they were regular after DS). In July I got a late (like CD 20) positive OPK (which I thought was faulty since it was a cheapie) but we decided to get to it

I tested on a whim on 9 dpo and found out that we were expecting! It was a total surprise to everyone!!

Alli321 · February 2010

My dx was PCOS. I hadn't had a period on my own without provera or bcp in about 10 years, and I was still nursing, so we were surprised. We were having a lot of sex hoping it would work by chance, and I ended up getting pregnant before I got a period.

JGirl2005 · February 2010

hi

1) mainly male fertility, but I have low iron (per my acupuncturist). I also think I had something wrong with me (besides my crappy cervix) becaise we tried for years on our own. I can't blame my DH completely. The reason I think this is because when I started going to acupuncture-- things started clicking.

2). We were not trying and were breastfeeding, but we got a surprise BFP before (before IVF #2). DH's count has started improving....it went from 11-14mil in early 2007 to 25mil in late 2007 and maybe went up from there... I don't think pregnancy fixed me really.

Edit: as other poster said, i'm glad I went through the ART process because the laproscopy might have cleaned stuff up. I had mild endo and some polyps, so that could have prevented us from getting pg at first.

firsttogo · February 2010

We were not "trying" but not preventing at all. I have ovulatory PCOS. We just had sex this month. The reason I kind of know about when O date was because DH jumped me like 3 times one day. Before that, We had about a week of a dry spell, and I got my BFP 8 days later.

We Have been wanting more children, and really wanted to be successful with no help, so I am not sure how much of a surprise one would call it other than we did not think it would happen so soon.

When we left my 5 week pp check, the OB said "see you in June for your pap.... well, I would actually bet I will see you sooner"

He always had faith it would happen for us unassisted, but how long or when, he was unsure. Nolan took 18 months 2 clomid cycles, and one inj. Lincoln took 9 months, and 3 inj/iuis.

I hate even saying this because it may be a bunch of crap, but I did start taking cinnamon supps to help with IR. That seemed to get things going cycle-wise with me.

I would never lose hope, After this baby we will let my ute rest, and maybe in some years, consider one or two more. I am going to be 27 when I have baby three, so I do know that I still have time.

PeachyKate · February 2010

1) Mostly unexplained with some MFI, crappy eggs, endo, and pre-menopausal issues thrown into the mix

2) I have no idea what the odds were since we could never pinpoint what exactly was wrong with us. My first clinic told us to give up after IVF #1 because they had never seen such bad eggs in a 26 year old and that I would never get pregnant again. The second clinic was a little more positive but even with them we couldn't make one decent embryo during IVF. At the end of the day I am not surprised at all that we got pregnant again, what surprises me is that at least for now I am still pregnant.

epphd · February 2010

PeachyKate:
1) Mostly unexplained with some MFI, crappy eggs, endo, and pre-menopausal issues thrown into the mix
2) I have no idea what the odds were since we could never pinpoint what exactly was wrong with us. My first clinic told us to give up after IVF #1 because they had never seen such bad eggs in a 26 year old and that I would never get pregnant again. The second clinic was a little more positive but even with them we couldn't make one decent embryo during IVF. At the end of the day I am not surprised at all that we got pregnant again, what surprises me is that at least for now I am still pregnant.

This gives me so much hope. Our embryos were incredibly sad looking - out of more than 30 embryos with 4 IVFs we had 1 7 cell and 2 6 cell embies at day 3 total. All the rest were slower and all were fragmented. All it takes is one decent egg and one decent sperm though! Oh, and sex. Wink

MyColonyNJ · February 2010

Cora was 100% a surprise. I was Dx with PCOS, wouldn't get my period for months.

In addition to the PCOS, after seeing an RE we found out about the MTHFR. With treatment, I was able to get pregnant 5 times, but lost all 5 pregnancies. Two of those were chromosome abnormalities (well, that we know of due to D&C). We thought for sure I had really crappy eggs.

After Cora, we knew we were going to start trying right away. Because I was so sick during my pregnancy, I was actually 30 pounds lighter after Cora than I was before I even got pregnant. I think that helped my cycle a bit.

I got my period VERY regular after she was born and started doing OPKs, which I got a positive each month. So, of course we "tried" each month.

So, I don't consider this pregnancy a surprise per se. But, given my history of m/c and chromosome issues, I can only pray that this pregnancy sticks around.

superned · February 2010

1) I have borderline high FSH (11.1) and stage II endo. My first surprise BFP was after 2.5 years TTC. That pregnancy was ectopic. The second was 15 months later and ended in an early m/c. I conceived this time with 100mg Clomid and was also put on progesterone as soon as I got a BFP.

2) After our initial work-up with the RE we were given a 2% chance of conceiving on our own. It seems like we "beat the odds," but really we're only slightly better than the odds, considering how many cycles we had been trying (2 pregnancies in close to 40 cycles).

CMM05 · February 2010

1) Me: PCOS DH: "decreased" morph (16%)

2) Not totally a surprise b/c I knew we could conceive on our own. We have gotten PG 3 times on our own......two were m/c's and one resulted in DS#2. I should add though that I was on 1000mg of Met when we conceived DS#2, so although it was a "surprise" BFP, I was still on meds and we were about to start treatments. This was the same situation with PG#1......was on Met and was waiting to start treatments. That PG I m/c'ed early on and then we went on to do IUI to give us DS#1. We conceived completely on our own (no meds....) when DS#1 was 9 mos......but we m/c'ed at 10.5 weeks.

GL!!!

manda429 · February 2010

1. we were undiagnosed. I have borderline high fsh, dh has borderline bad morph. Honestly, I always chose to think it was him more than me ;-)

2. we tried unsuccessfully for 21 months before. This was our 3rd month where I had a period and sex during the fertile time. This month, I was late ovulating and we didn't have sex anywhere near when I did O. I was really just enjoying how nice the fertile hormones make for having sex. Sex while BFing was really not good.

I'll be honest, I didn't use any special lube, I didn't hold my legs up for 15 minutes. I just enjoyed having sex and crossed my fingers.

itsmevkb · February 2010

1. My husband has lowish counts along with 0% morph. I am of advanced maternal age, slightly high fsh and considered to be a poor responder with diminished ovarian reserve. I also have a protein S deficiency (clotting disorder).

2. Prior to finding out about the clotting disorder we were given a 4% or less chance of getting pregnant without assistance. Not sure how the clotting disorder would change the percentage.

GuitaristsGirl · February 2010

We are completely unexplained and were given a 1% chance of getting pregnant on our own. I do have clotting disorders (see sig), but my RE doesn't think they necessarily contributed to my IF since I never had early miscarriages.

We had been ttc for almost 3 years and were just 2 weeks away from going back to the RE for our first treatment cycle after losing the twins when we conceived this one. . . on vacation Embarrassed (You will never get me to admit that again!)

ejgballerina · February 2010

If you had a surprise bfp:

1) What was your Dx? PCOS with anovulation. DH's SA showed no issues there.
2) How much of a surprise was it? (what were the odds of this happening?) Well, none of our previous treatments worked. We were on a TTC break since I had had surgery the previous month to remove half of my cervix due to precancer. At one point, I felt O pain and took an OPK and it was +...I knew this didn't mean anything since my LH levels could indicate O, but I never released an egg without a trigger. Two weeks later at 10DPO, I took a positive HPT. As far as I know, that was the only time I ever O'ed. I think it was a combination of acupuncture, Vitex, Cinnamon Bark, and maybe residual Clomid in my system that caused my ovaries to actually work. Who knows if I'll be so lucky again!

LovingLife_06 · February 2010

1) What was your Dx? Annovulation - I didn't even O on Clomid for a couple of cycles.

2) How much of a surprise was it? (what were the odds of this happening?) Our first BFP was on a break cycle, but it was a break cycle after 4 medicated in a row, so RE told us to try because the meds could still be in my system and I may O. The second one was a complete shock. I guess my system just randomly decided to "work" after DD was born. We weren't using protection because I thought there was no chance we would be able to do this on our own after it took us almost 2 years the first time.

FaithRocks · February 2010

1) DX: One blocked tube, endometriosis, MTHFR, 4 chemical pregnancies. DH also has severe MFI. We tried on our own for 2 years, did 3 IUIs and 3 rounds of IVF to conceive DS.

2). Um yeah total shock. We were NOT TRYING and I had just gotten off the pill to regulate my periods. I had recently stopped EPing as well. We have no idea when conception could have happened (but docs think it's somewhere between the 14th and 17th of December). This is a total shock to all of my doctors (and me!). When I saw 2 lines I just stood there for an hour or so with my hand over my mouth. And every single day I expect it to be taken away from me, it's an awful feeling.

futrkingsley · February 2010

SeaSoul:

If you had a surprise bfp:

1) What was your Dx? We were unexplained with possible DOR. Dh had excellent swimmers. I ovulated on my own every cycle but had pre-af spotting every single month. We had gorgeous medicated cycles with IUI, one chemical pg at cycle 16 (our second IUI).

2) How much of a surprise was it? (what were the odds of this happening?)

It was HUGE. I was so shocked I put off testing because I didn't think it was possible for us. We got pg on cycle 38 or so and it was our first spontaneous pg in all that time. I miscarried very shortly thereafter (like second beta never doubled), but the process lasted for over a month. I was still spotting in the next month when we were on vacation. Weeks after we got home from our trip, I felt funny and decided to test again. And that was the real knock me off my feet shocker. I was really pg that time (with an amazing beta that doubled like it should).

Our chances of spontaneous conception after 3 years of unexplained infertility resulting in really zero pregnancies was 1%.

yankee42 · February 2010

1) no official Dx..my GYN found my LPD, and the RE determined that I ovulate very infrequently..but my body would act as though it was going to, so i never knew when it might happen.

2) it was a pretty big surprise, BUT, my MFM had told me that my issue, which was probably caused by hormonal imbalances was one of those that can be *temporarily* "fixed" by pregnancy, and once my pp AF came, it was 28 days regular each month for the first time in my life...no spotting or anything.

laura1 · February 2010

1.) Me with blocked tube and DH with low morphology. I also had hypothyroid, but that was fixed while TTC #1 and didn't seem to help. And when I got pg with #2, my thyroid was all crazy.

2.) I don't know the odds, but it was my very first ovulation pp - I hadn't gotten a pp AF yet. We only BD'd twice that month, on the same weekend, and I guess our timing was right (like I said, I had no PPAF, so I was not charting, etc)! Neither of us really thought it would work and we had an RE appt scheduled for 2 months later. My RE didn't even really think our IUIs would work with DHs morph. I guess we proved him wrong...twice!

lindsaynjason · February 2010

If you had a surprise bfp:

1) What was your Dx? Annovulatory PCOS (with insulin resistance) and Hyperprolactinemia. I was only able to cycle with the help of BCP. Even 30mg of Provera daily for 10 days would not bring on a cycle.

2) How much of a surprise was it? (what were the odds of this happening?)
I actually got pregnant after a cycle of BCP. I needed to have a cycle so that we could get some CD3 bloodwork done. Sometimes, after a BCP induced cycle, I would get another cycle "on my own" the next month. When it didn't happen, I just figured my body was back to it's usual uncooperative self. Little did I know, I was pregnant. The fact that I actually ovulated and that we actually timed it right (without knowing) was truly a miracle as far as I'm concerned. My RE was sure we would at least need to do Clomid and TI if not injectibles and IUI/IVF.

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