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This is not even right.
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/31728599.aspx
I didn't post anything on there about that and now its being called MUD. yeah, cuz i would totally make up this. God. I'm just so irritated right now. I HATE that we decided this right after we got married. I hate that hes not here anymore. Its ridiculous and the whole situation sucks. But, I don't make up ***. I never have.
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Re: This is not even right.
To be honest, I too thought your situation was MUD at first. However, I chose to not say anything until something blatantly screamed MUD in my face. I am sorry she came at you like that, but people are mean and vicious. I wouldnt take it personally. I also understand how sometimes we try to make something work when in reality we should have let it go a long time ago. I am guilty as charged when it comes to that issue as well.
All in all just ignore the nay sayers and hang out over here. You may get flamed here by lurkers but I think in general, our group of girls are pretty reasonable and understand "expect the unexpected."
I could never make up something like this. I know it sounds like MUD. I wouldn't believe it either. But it just really hurts because I'm really going through this.
that's why this is the only board I really post on. I can't really trust the other boards with everyone else and there DH and SOs. I'm afraid to reply to their messages and say something about X or being single... I feel so out of place. And if you do the math with my situation LMP: Oct 23rd, BFP: Nov 27th, Kicked SOB out: Nov 30th... but did I really kick him out or did he leave? did he freak cuz I was prego? or did he supect cheating? .... those are the Q I'm waiting for someone to ask me (even friends and family).
FYI the answers and I kicked him out, it's his baby, I'm always 100% faithful.
But I believe your story. my BFF came with me about concerns with her marriage the day after they said "i do" mind you its a different situation and no kids involved.
Thank you. I'm probably only going to start posting here now. I don't say too much on 3-6 anyways anymore but I still adore everyone on it. They haven't said anything to me yet. But, I just couldn't believe that she did that. Guys aren't good for anything.
I should've known not to marry him. A couple hours before we got married, I was talking to my best friend about my doubts that he loved me. But, I went through with it and look where it ended me up.
Thank you for the encouragement.
I know I'll get through this but it doesn't make it hurt any less.
In all honesty your story sounded fishy, which is why I was snarky in the beginning.
I try not to be snarky in general, but for whatever reason it came out.
I do realize that life just happens and lots of times its not expected. I know I was being too judgemental, and for that I am sorry.
I will say though, that my home board is the 6-12 months and they have been nothing but encouraging towards me if I've ever posted about h leaving or being a single mom.
Thebump has had snarky people as long as I've been around, which has been a good long while. But, it is not every single person, or even every board!
Edit to add, I would have never called you out on mud. It's not as though I thought you were making it up, but there was a lot of background information missing. And of course being judgemental never gets us anywhere.
Other then my bit of snark, and the lurkers snark, we are all very supportive on this board!
I don't understand, what do you mean by background information?
I'm sure my situation sounds like MUD too. A lot of girls on this board sound like MUD. Why? Because it's all very unfortunate and something you only really see in movies. We have asshats for exes, sorry if that makes it seem like MUD.
Stick around over here. We won't call MUD on you.
I believe you.
Thank you. That comment she made just opened up a lot of hurt and anger and I flipped out. I've been holding in all this anger and pain that i want to take out on him and i cant. idk. this sucks.
"I don't understand, what do you mean by background information?"
I responded once and it didn't post, let me try this again.
For me, the back information would have been that you guys were having problems before.
In general it takes a while of being married before problems big enough to cause a divorce arise, not 3-4 days.
But, like I said I was being judgemental, and for that I'm sorry.
Well, his ex messaged him telling him she missed him. As soon as that happened I knew it was over. hes the type that goes back with his ex, back to you, back to his ex....I thought we' be okay. We had a child together. I was stupid. I wish I could take it back. I wish he would've wanted his family more than some skank with 3 kids that arent even his.
I feel for your situation. I was married once before my now H. And 10 days after we got married he started having an affair. Un-Freaking-believeable. It was a hard time for me, and having to explain to people that I was JUST married and now separated sucked.
Its ridiculous. And it hurts. I wish she would've messaged him before that so I could've avoided the whole marriage issue now.
I know that type. Do yourself and LO a favor and don't ever go back to him. My Aunt went through the same thing with her X. They were divorced and remarried 3 times because of it. Everytime she went back she had another kid with him and ended up going through her pregnancy alone and 800 miles away from him. After the baby was born of course they would get remarried and file for divorce a few months later. Unbelievable. He's now doing the same exact thing that he did to her with his girlfriend. He's cheating on her with another girl. Wow.