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DH's family making fun of our names...

So apparently DH's family hates our names and they think its hilarious. DH's grandma who is very old commented that "she hates them", so of course I laugh it off b/c its just her personality and she says things like this all the time. But now, ever since I "laughed", it apparently opened the doors for his entire family to bring it up over and over.  I guess at the latest family function we missed, they all sat around and tried to come up with new names for our girls.  And my MIL can't seem to be able to say the name "Keira" and its totally annoying. Is it really that hard to say? I need a break from them, ugh!

I am frustrated. I told DH last night that he needed to put a stop to it, it pisses me off and is totally unfair to these girls already.

BTW - our girls names are going to be Keira and Ella/Elle. 

Re: DH's family making fun of our names...

  • ugh. I am so sorry! This is why we're not telling anyone the names until they're born. Well, also we haven't decided on names yet. :)

    I love the names!

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  • How rude of them!  These are beautiful names. 

    Your post only reinforces our decision not to share names with anyone until the boys are born!

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  • First, I LOVE your names--especially Ella--it one of my favorites!  Second, I agree with you that your DH should speak to his family and put a stop to their insensitive opinions.  These babies are going to be their grandchildren for crying out loud!  They should just be happy that you and your DH are going to be blessed with them and stop putting the focus on their names.  As long as YOU and your DH love the names that's all that matters.
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  • People are so inconsiderate sometimes.  Those names are beautiful.

    DH's great aunt calls DS 'little girl' instead of her name because we named her after DH's grandmother - who his great aunt dislikes.  The grandmother died over 5 years ago - get over it already.

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  • Tell them to eff off!  Your choices; they aren't crazy.  They don't get naming rights!
  • FWIW, I love the names you chose.

    We told my side of the family our names b/c I knew they wouldn't say anything bad.  We aren't telling DH's side of the family till the girls are born.

  • Those are beautiful names! Why can't people be more considerate of others feelings? Your DH should definitely say something to them, that is not fair!
  • Weird; those are beautiful names, what's not to like? Sorry they're giving you such a hard time. That's really rude! (And why we didn't tell anyone our names before we had the boys ... of course, we didn't decide for sure on their names till right before my induction. ;) But we didn't even share what names were on our list.)
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    ugh. I am so sorry! This is why we're not telling anyone the names until they're born.

    I love the names!

    Agreed.

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  • For some reason family members feel like they have a "right" to give input.  Once the babies are here, they have the opportunity to hold them and get to know them, they'll eventually shut up about the names.  With our first, they shut up instantly, with our twins, it took a couple of months....
  • Thanks for letting me vent girls.  It still pisses me off.  I dont understand why people can be so rude.  I so wish we would have waited to share!!!
  • Wow I think those are beautiful names...both of them! I would love to use them. I'm sorry they are doing that - that is rude. I agree - I don't want to tell anyone the names until they are here and named! Just know - your daughters have beautiful and classic names and they do not need new ones!
  • I opened your posted expecting that your names might be weird, but they're not. They're great names. 


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  • Ugh.  I am so sorry.  This is why we waited to tell, as awful as it was.  My mom is a major hater and I know she would have done the same.  I think the names you chose are perfect!  The haters can FRO!

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  • i know.  so annoying.

    my DD's name was originally going to be eleanor and we were going to call her nora.  but my mom and MIL both started calling her "ellie" and so we just named her nora instead.

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  • Those are lovely names.  Sorry you have to deal with this - your DH need to put the kabosh on that right away.  Posts like these remind me not to tell anyone our name choices until we've already filled out the birth certificates!
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  • I'm sorry your DH's family is being ridiculous.  I hope that he can talk some sense into them so they understand how hurtful their behavior is.  BTW, both names are very pretty!  :)

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    i know.  so annoying.

    my DD's name was originally going to be eleanor and we were going to call her nora.  but my mom and MIL both started calling her "ellie" and so we just named her nora instead.

    Thats awesome!

  • First, I love your names. 

    Second, I would ask them if they're going to make fun of the names to your kids' faces...and if they're not, why do they think its okay to do it now? Seriously. 

  • love your names!  just ignore them.  FWIW my mother still can't pronounce my 5 year old niece's name Keira.
  • I think they are beautiful names....I would simply have your DH call his family (mom and maybe grandma) and say, you know it's come to my attention that you do not like the names WE have picked out for the girls. I'm sorry you don't like them, but they are OUR kids and we like the names.

     THIS is exactly why we never shared our names. I had a friend who had this happen. People suck. I'm so so sorry.

  • I was waiting for some horrible names & then I got to Keira & was like WTF?

    My DD's name is Keira...I adore her name & so does the rest of my family.  I hope you stick with it!  And Ella is beautiful too, why would they make fun of that.

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  • Everyone's a critic! This was exactly the reason why we waited until after they were born before introducing them & their names to everyone!

    I don't get it - your chosen names are lovely! Maybe after your family meets them & gets used to them associated with their names, they will be better?

  • In-laws like this piss me off!  and they are not even my in-laws.  Angry

    I have a friend named Keira.  It's a great name.  So is Ella/Elle.  They are beautiful names!

    I wonder what their names are?  Huh?.... your DH's grandma, sounds like my grandma, may she RIP.  I loved her so very much....but she was so, so negative about everything!!!

    Keep your names.  They are wonderful names. 

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  • This is exactly why we're not telling any family members, or friends really, our names. I don't want the feedback. Nobody's going to say anything once the babies are named, at least most wouldn't, it's when the names are still a consideration that people are very free with their opinions.

    Sorry you have to deal with that BS. I love your names btw.

  • imagesourpop:

    So apparently DH's family hates our names and they think its hilarious. DH's grandma who is very old commented that "she hates them", so of course I laugh it off b/c its just her personality and she says things like this all the time. But now, ever since I "laughed", it apparently opened the doors for his entire family to bring it up over and over.  I guess at the latest family function we missed, they all sat around and tried to come up with new names for our girls.  And my MIL can't seem to be able to say the name "Keira" and its totally annoying. Is it really that hard to say? I need a break from them, ugh!

    I am frustrated. I told DH last night that he needed to put a stop to it, it pisses me off and is totally unfair to these girls already.

    BTW - our girls names are going to be Keira and Ella/Elle. 

     

    oh my, they sound like fun.   if they aren't SUPER helpful when the girls arrive i say move far, far away ;)

    they are absolutely lovely names!

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  • Boo to them.  That's why I say don't tell family until after.  But who cares anyway... those are both beautiful names and old people are out of touch.  My family did the same thing with some of my suggestions, so I cut them out of the discussions.  RUDE!!!
  • I'm pretty judgy with names, and I was all ready to be like, "well, those are odd names..." until I read them.

    Keira? 

    That's one of my top 5 names!  DH's family sucks.  I love both your names.  Screw them!

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  • That sucks.  FWIW, I really like them!  :D  My MIL didn't come out and say she didn't like our names, but she just said, "Oh.  You know what name I think is beautiful?  Tatyana.  Isn't THAT name pretty????"  ::puke::

    I think at the next function, or when someone brings it up again, say, "You know what name I don't like??  ::insert gram's, MIL's, FIL's, etc.'s name here.::  I think Keira and Elle/Ella are much prettier, fresher names than you all realise.  And since they're not your babies to name, I don't want to hear another word about it.  Period."  And end that with a little closed mouth smile.  There's nothing more smug than a closed mouth smile.  LOL!

  • imagelnle:

    ugh. I am so sorry! This is why we're not telling anyone the names until they're born. Well, also we haven't decided on names yet. :)

    I love the names!

    This exactly.

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