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This board is pretty slow, but

bellaleannebellaleanne member
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I'm so glad it's here. I wish there was more activity, because we all need support and understanding.

I just feel like IRL, I can't talk to many people who know what it's like to go months without any "mommy time"...or really know what it's like to not have someone to help in the middle of the night, or take over bath time, or give you a shower break or what have you.

As much as nothing ever prepares you for being a parent, nothing prepares you for doing it alone. I'm happy to have my son's father out of the picture, but after seeing some people I know have a child with their SO around the same time my son was born...I really see how much easier it could possibly be.

You women are all awesome for all that you do, every single day.

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  • jenniferuedingjenniferueding member
    Thanks!  So are you!  Big Smile
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  • mommamelmomommamelmo member
    I agree. Friends with kids with a SO seem to like to rub it in that they and SO are happy and going on dates and giving mommy time to have a nice relaxing bubble bath... Makes me sick. I'm happy that they are happy but could they try a lil to understand that OUR world has fallen apart and if you were with X when you had the baby its almost like learning to become a parent again when X is gone. Its really frustrating. But I am also thankful for the wonderful ladies on here, daily reminders that I am not alone in this. Your a wonderful woman and a wonderful mom. Keep your head high. :)
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  • inbetweeninbetween

    I understand what your saying.

    But I also know that even if someone was around, theres still a chance it wouldn't be much different.

    H liked to play with dd, but he didn't do a whole lot of hands on stuff.

    So even though we were 'happily' married, or at least I was, I was still doing a lot on my own.

    I took my showers during dds naps, or if I absolutely had to, I put her bouncer in the bathroom with me. I did all but 3 of the nighttime feedings by myself. I bathed her dressed her, I did it all.

    Hopefully the next time around, if there is one, we will all have more loving, patient, involved men in our lives!!

    I hope you can get some 'mommy time' really soon! I know it can get very overwhelming!

    Hang in there :)

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  • meghan_mariemeghan_marie member
    Teenagers around the neighborhood are great for giving you some mommy time. Even if they sit in the house with you and talk to you and watch LO while you do what you have to do. That's a great way to be able to take a nice hot bath and not have to worry about LO. Or run to the store without LO having to be there screaming in the cart. I'm not saying do it all the time, but it's a good way to get away for a couple of hours and get that well deserved mommy time in.
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  • GLynn2009GLynn2009

    I promise it will get better and easier. It takes sometime to get into a routine. I was single for over ten years and I think I did much better without ex than when I had him. Ex was another child to me but he could do more damage than the other two (spend money we did not have, have affairs, mess-up things around the house).

    I am now married and we are adopting DD2 and he helps me instead of hurts me. I was in no hurry to remarry and had several offers before I took DH up on his. I needed to be whole again before I knew what I wanted.

    Hang in you all are doing great.

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  • achase123achase123
    This board is a great support system-it is actually way more active than it used to be.
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  • achase123achase123
    imageGLynn2008:

    I promise it will get better and easier. It takes sometime to get into a routine. I was single for over ten years and I think I did much better without ex than when I had him. Ex was another child to me but he could do more damage than the other two (spend money we did not have, have affairs, mess-up things around the house).

    I am now married and we are adopting DD2 and he helps me instead of hurts me. I was in no hurry to remarry and had several offers before I took DH up on his. I needed to be whole again before I knew what I wanted.

    Hang in you all are doing great.

    This is very encouraging!  Good for you!

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