i am so sad and upset

Heather & Nayt · February 2010

So DH has a half sister that has been off and on drugs all her life (we dont ever speak to her) but she has two little boys, one is 2 and the other is a month or two older then DS. CPS has been called on her more then once, and she still has the boys. Well I just added her on facebook and she has picture on there where you can see needles and other drug stuff lying around the boys, and her status today was that she brought her younger son to the hospital because he tripped over a curling iron and now has 3rd degree burns on his little bottom and tighs. I cried. I wish so badly I could just take those two little boys, but she wont give them up and we live over 10 hours away. It makes me so mad that someone so stupid can have two little boys and it breaks my heart that there isnt anything i can really do for my nephews! Crying

NorBryDE · February 2010

I've never had any experience with this, but if CPS saw pics of the children with needles in the background, that may cause some action. Since you're family, you may be able to help out and have the boys for a bit while she can get some help. Again, I don't know if this is how it works, but for the safety of the boys it may be worth putting in a call.

clipposmagnificos · February 2010

I would foward the pic to CPS and keep calling them. They have to investigate every report (well thier supposed to). Call every week if you have to

cabo_kate · February 2010

OMG, that makes me sick to my stomach. If I were you I'd send that pic to CPS and try to get those boys placed with you guys or with other family. How could anyone keep children in an environment like that?

I'm so sorry you have this sadness in your family, it's gotta be so hard to hear about.

Lesley0228 · February 2010

Call her local CPS and report that you suspect she is using drugs and unable to care for her children. Most agenices have a hotline to report allegations of abuse or neglect. You could do it anonymously, though it would be better to give them your information then if the children are removed you could be considered for a placement. I would print the picture, in case she removes it. This sort of dangerous behavior cannot be ignored. I used to do CPS investigations. These types of allegations are taken seriously, but can be difficult to prove.

jacksjerseygirl · February 2010

You have an obligation to report this. IMO Especially, if you have visual evidence/proof.

Gramyson · February 2010

jacksjerseygirl:

You have an obligation to report this. IMO Especially, if you have visual evidence/proof.

yes.

christina-marie · February 2010

Forward the FB pics to CPS, do it as an anon tipster. Done and done. Keep calling even though it seems like they aren't keeping track, believe me...they are. Sorry you're dealing with this. I know all too well the pain of stupid family members bringing children in this world they have no right to parent. Believe me I do. Left Hug

katie_cj · February 2010

jacksjerseygirl:

You have an obligation to report this. IMO Especially, if you have visual evidence/proof.

I agree. I can't imagine how frustrated it is that CPS hasn't removed the kids. But the more you document, the better case they can have. Please call, print/foward to picture.

krstokes · February 2010

This breaks my heart. Definitely make a report and try to get the pictures to CPS as proof.

Heather & Nayt · February 2010

I just tried to get the picture and she must have removed it because i cant find it, but i know that my other sister in law sent it in. I know last time this happened that they took the kids then gave them back. Thanks ladies, I will continue to keep calling it just makes me so mad/angry and i needed to vent.

MoMandA · February 2010

YGPM

sprice88 · February 2010

omg....that just broke my heart to read that!

Lesley0228 · February 2010

Heather & Nayt:
I just tried to get the picture and she must have removed it because i cant find it, but i know that my other sister in law sent it in. I know last time this happened that they took the kids then gave them back. Thanks ladies, I will continue to keep calling it just makes me so mad/angry and i needed to vent.

I know it can frustrating working with CPS, but the parents have rights to try to get their children back. They are given a case plan, monitored and if they meet all their goals the children are returned. Unfortunately, there isn't the man power for ongoing monitoring so a parent can clean up, get their life stable, get their kids back and then the same old problems come back. Unfortunately, there are also some lazy CPS workers (I had this job for 4 years, trust me, I knew plenty) who probably return the children way too fast, but that's another story. If CPS already has a history with this family, they will likely be quicker to get involved again. Even if the picture is gone, you should still report it and let them know what you saw and your concerns. They are obligated to investigate and a simple drug test would show proof that she was using.

Heather & Nayt · February 2010

MoMandA:
YGPM

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Heather & Nayt · February 2010

Lesley0228:

Heather & Nayt:
I just tried to get the picture and she must have removed it because i cant find it, but i know that my other sister in law sent it in. I know last time this happened that they took the kids then gave them back. Thanks ladies, I will continue to keep calling it just makes me so mad/angry and i needed to vent.

I know it can frustrating working with CPS, but the parents have rights to try to get their children back. They are given a case plan, monitored and if they meet all their goals the children are returned. Unfortunately, there isn't the man power for ongoing monitoring so a parent can clean up, get their life stable, get their kids back and then the same old problems come back. Unfortunately, there are also some lazy CPS workers (I had this job for 4 years, trust me, I knew plenty) who probably return the children way too fast, but that's another story. If CPS already has a history with this family, they will likely be quicker to get involved again. Even if the picture is gone, you should still report it and let them know what you saw and your concerns. They are obligated to investigate and a simple drug test would show proof that she was using.

I am praying that between DH and I, my sister in law, and the hospital things will happen this time. I pray.

TrumpetBride · February 2010

Heather, I have experience with this situation with my own sister. If you need to talk/vent/have questions please feel free to PM me and I am so, so sorry your family has to struggle with something like this. It is amazing to me how people can not realize how much their actions effect others. Sad

IncubusChic619 · February 2010

OMG those poor babies! This makes me want to vomit!

Save all of the pictures & send them to CPS. Call them every day if you have to. Do not let them sweep this under the rug. They have to do something to help those poor boys. You have proof that they are not being cared for like they should be.

Many T&P that they get the help they need.

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