When Did You Tell...

agrundman · February 2010

As I posted earlier I had my first appt. yesterday and learned that I am nine weeks along with twins. Everybody already knows that I'm pregnant and now DH and I are discussing when to tell about the twins. We told our families last night because we couldn't keep it to ourselves. I guess what's holding me back about telling everyone is being superstitious about having a vanishing twin. However, on the other hand if that does happen people will eventually find out that I had been pregnant with twins so part of me wonders, "Why wait?" Am I crazy for telling people this early?

How long did you wait to tell friends about your multiples? Thanks ahead of time for any insight or opinions.

LALASEPT05 · February 2010

It's a personal choice and you should do whatever you're comfortable with. We told immediate family right away...so basically our parents and siblings. I didn't tell work until 16 weeks and I didn't tell some friends until after our 13 week NT scan and some not until even after the 20 week anatomy scan. I probably was a little excessive with the nerves and things like that, but that's just what worked for me. Good luck - and have fun sharing your big news!

future*hockey*mom · February 2010

My closest family knew ASAP, and we told my two neighbors who just had little ones to keep their stuff for us Wink

I don't plan on telling the world until our 12/13 week scan.

SoldiersGreenBean · February 2010

I agree, it's a personal choice.

I called my mom in tears immediately after finding out at 8w (I was not happy about it, but that's another post entirely). He also called his parents that day, and we told our siblings shortly thereafter.

I told my supervisor right around 9w as well. He has twins, so I felt comfortable telling him. He understands the risks (his wife was on bedrest at 29w), and it put me at ease that he understands a multiples pregnancy.

macchiatto · February 2010

We didn't tell most people until the end of the first tri (after our 12w appt, which is when we found out we were having twins). It is a personal choice, but since i know the risk of m/c is highest in that first tri and with PCOS I had a 40% chance of m/c, I decided who to tell before then by asking myself, "Would I want this person to know if I had an m/c?" So I told family and some close friends before that u/s, and then after we gradually started telling more people.

efhoping2010 · February 2010

We told our parents right away, family and close friends at around 12 weeks, and everyone else at around 16 weeks no hiding it then anyways, lol.

DarthBaby · February 2010

I told my immediate family right away - since I needed some shoulders to talk lean on. But I wanted to wait until after the NT scan before we started telling most people. Now I tell everyone, but I wanted to make sure that we at least saw everyone in there before announcing.

volgirl123 · February 2010

We told our parents and my two best friends & sister right away.

I waited until yesterday (after NT scan) to tell work & the rest of the world. It was so much fun telling and everybody totally understood me waiting. It was so hard to keep a secret though!

carolina1178 · February 2010

we just told family and close friends this past weekend....really I can't hide it. with this being my 2nd pregnancy...I have a noticeable baby bump already so we didn't have much choice.

The way I looked at it...yes there is a chance that something may happen the 1st tri but I can't control that. And we wanted our close friends and family to be able to share in the excitement with us because twins are very exciting!!! overwhelming thought for me at times but exciting all the same!

I just pray everyday these babies are growing strong and try to stay positive!

good luck!

heathb21 · February 2010

We found out we were having twins at 6 wks. We didn't tell our p's we were pg or that it was twins until 8 wks, when we had seen both heartbeats twice. We told the rest of our family at 11 wks and our friends & work at the end of the first tri. After it taking so long to get pregnant we were nervous to tell people and didn't want to jinx it. We were nervous about the vanishing twin or miscarrying. It was also fun to tell everyone that not only were we preggers, it was twins. Most people weren't surprised we were pg, but were so surprised it was twins!

rakdanit · February 2010

We had been trying for 2 years with IVF to get pregnant and so we told those people who know that we were trying right away. For our family who did not know we waited till the 2nd trimester and I announced it to the world (would have screamed it from the roof top if I could get up there) after our 20 week scan!

You have to do what's right for you, we just had so many NO's that we wanted to be REALLY sure before we told everyone!

Good luck! Big Smile

mamam · February 2010

We told our parents same day as finding out. I guess I didn't separate the announcement of twins from the annoucement that I'm pregnant. I had to tell work early (9wks) because I have Hyperemesis and was out quite a bit until I got the Zofran pump at the right levels. I just told my close gf's at 10 wks. Everyone else will be told after my next appt. (about 12wks).

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