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**Goldie**
Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement. You said exactly what I need to hear right now. Thank you again.
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Re: **Goldie**
awe- you are so welcome.
I just feel for you.
The only time a friend's comments have ever really upset me was when i first found out it was twins and I told a friend of mine - who had gone through miscarriages, and IF treatments herself - and was pg with her baby girl at the time... She said to me "You should probably hold off telling people that it's twins because sometimes one doesn't make it and is absorbed by the body".....
I was like WHAT???? Did YOU just say that???? And then i realized she had no clue ... even though she knew the saddness of m/c and IF - she was never pg with twins - and it's SO different...
When she first got pg with her singleton if I had said to her "hold off on telling people because lots of women have miscarraiges" I would have looked like the biggest *** on earth -- but what she said is more accepted by people- b/c ... again, they don't get it.
So many people think "well, at least she'll still have one baby in there"... which is true in a way - yes, you are happy to still be pg at least- but it doesn't make the loss any easier... you will miss that baby - and always wonder what it would have been like- just like any woman who has a m/c does.
do know that a disappearing twin genearlly has no effect on the health of the surviving twin at that stage -- so you shouldn't worry any more than the average pg woman --- your other baby has just as good of a chance as any baby out there- and you are 13w so that is great. Now your LO has a guardian angel watching over for life... I suppose that might bring you some peace in your heart. (((HUGS)))