If your mother didn't like your baby name

newlywed26 · February 2010

Ok so the only girl name that dh and I both like collectively is Ava. My mom isn't a fan, and for some reason, I really want her approval. For our ds, she loved his name, so it encouraged me even more to name him that. I know that it's an ultimate decision between dh and me, but does anyone else feel that they need their mom's blessing or approval before naming their dc? I know it shouldn't be that way, but it's kind of how I feel. She likes the middle name, so I told her that she could call her by her middle name, as I will probably be doing so as well.

jess60 · February 2010

Like you said, it's your decision. It doesn't matter what your mom or anyone else but you & your DH/SO think.

If you're already planning to call her by her middle name, why not just name her that instead?

ertopp · February 2010

no way!

my mom HATES the name Kylie, but that is what DH and i have chosen and she will have to get over it! I love my mom and we are extremely close but I wont pick my childs name for her! she loves the name Lucy but I just dont love it enough to choose it! she understands and i am sure she will eventually love it!!!

i can understand why you feel this way though!

CocoP2008 · February 2010

This is why we are keeping our picks for names a secret from everyone until the baby is born. One would hope that once the baby is born, no one will tell you at that time that they don't like the name.

jturn · February 2010

It would drive me crazy if my mom didn't like the name...honestly I've told her every name we've considered it and if she doesn't like one it makes me rethink it...but my mom and I are super close and she isn't too opinionated so there aren't many names she didn't like.

niccole_e · February 2010

No but i'm head strong. My mothers, nor anyone else's opinion matter to me, esp. when it comes to naming my child. If you and your husband love the name, I wouldn't let your mothers dislike change it.

Do you think once she's born and your mother see's her she will say Oh I hate her name, nope. She'll probably say wow I actually do like this name.

Soon 2 B Mrs. Wells · February 2010

I don't necessarily need her approval, but I would like for her to like the baby's name. My mother is famous for giving babies nicknames, maybe this could be an option.

BTW, I love the name Ava.

mkanderson85 · February 2010

It's very important for me for my mother to like the name as well. We're very close and I want her approval. Thankfully, she loves the name we chose. But she told me that there was NO WAY that her granddaughter would be named Alice, so I guess if that was something that I loved, I'd be in trouble!!

Ava is quite popular, so if you're planning on going by the middle name, move that to the first name. I wanted something that wasn't super popular.

ricejl · February 2010

I am dreading tell my Mom the name we picked out for a girl. We are using my MIL's middle name as the first name and my Mom's first name as the middle name. I know she will not be happy with her name being the middle name but she will have to live with it.

KittahMama · February 2010

My mother suggested Penelope and Millicent before we even knew it was a girl- Penelope is really not my style and I think Millicent may be as ugly as naming my child Putrid. We are purposely not telling the baby names we chose because I honestly don't want to hear anyone's opinions.

And with the names my mom chose I already know she is going to hate what we picked out. Don't get me wrong, mom and I are super close, but at the end of the day we just don't have the same taste in clothes, shoes or baby names!

tiniestjohnson · February 2010

Trust me, your mom will hold her for the first time and not care in the least what her name is, and by the time she is 12 months old, she will likely say "she is SUCH an Ava!" It will be annoying for you, but I am 99.99% sure that I am right, as it happened with both parents for both H and I with our LO #1.

krissers · February 2010

My mom is really careful not to hurt anyone's feelings, so I don't think she would tell me if she didn't like one of the names I had chosen. That being said, I know we have completely different taste and the names I choose probably won't be ones she would have picked. I don't think it would make a difference in whether I used the name or not, even though my mom and I are very close.

For what it's worth, I love the name Ava. It would be my top choice if one of my good friends hadn't already given that name to her daughter.

BelhurstBride · February 2010

My mother admittedly doesn't like the girl name we have picked out, but she doesn't have the audacity to tell me that. My sister told me. Either way, we're not changing it. She'll get used to it.

synchrosally · February 2010

We are not telling family the names for this particular reason. FWIW, I love Ava!

newlywed26 · February 2010

mkanderson85:

It's very important for me for my mother to like the name as well. We're very close and I want her approval. Thankfully, she loves the name we chose. But she told me that there was NO WAY that her granddaughter would be named Alice, so I guess if that was something that I loved, I'd be in trouble!!

Ava is quite popular, so if you're planning on going by the middle name, move that to the first name. I wanted something that wasn't super popular.

Yes my mom and I are very close as well, and I actually get her approval on house items before making a final decision (let's keep that a secret from my dh ;-)) Basically, I go to her for almost every final decision. The thing we're struggling with though is Ava is the only name my dh and I both like. There are some that I like better that he doesn't like, and there are some that he likes better that I don't like, so Ava is sort of a middle ground. My mom mentioned some ideas to me on names, but I didn't like any of them.

newlywed26 · February 2010

tiniestjohnson:
Trust me, your mom will hold her for the first time and not care in the least what her name is, and by the time she is 12 months old, she will likely say "she is SUCH an Ava!" It will be annoying for you, but I am 99.99% sure that I am right, as it happened with both parents for both H and I with our LO #1.

Thanks

So your mom didn't like your name choice for your dc #1 either? Did it matter to you at all that she didn't like it? My mom said she thought it was just ok and that it sounds a little old-fashioned, but she can deal with the middle name.

KSEDmini · February 2010

The one time I mentioned the name we like (we hadn't made a final decision on it at that point) she made an ugly face and gave me a bunch of reasons why we shouldn't name him that. I said "Good thing you had 7 of your own kids to name. Now that you had your chances, this is our kid and we're naming him whatever WE want!"

MrsEmm · February 2010

most of my family, including my mom hasnt liked the names we have picked. Doesnt bother me because I know that names grow on people and Im the one that should be happy with it.

babyreid10 · February 2010

Well I do love when the mothers like the name, but if they don't and I do, I don't let it bother me. I know the decision is DH and mine. Believe me, too many opinions, can be a nightmare lol!

Lauryn216 · February 2010

My mom doesn't like our name, but we both do, so using it anyway! She said she is sure she'll like whatever we choose after the baby is born

sarah.sarah · February 2010

my mom pulled this crap. she did it to my sister's 2 kids and to my 1st. she always says "oh well you could name them blah blah and then call them blah" and i say "no, we are naming them xx and calling them xx" UGH! she is so rude!

and for MY mom, the whole telling once the baby is named just gets you the same result. when my sister told my mom her daughter's name, there was a loooooong pause and then "oh." which is why we wanted to keep it a secret but decided to tell so she didn't give us that response the day DD will be born.

it's annoying. she got to name three kids, so why can't they just be nice and lie...even if they don't like it? ughhhh

steph805 · February 2010

My parents didn't care for either of my son's names (Jayden and Gabriel). However, you'll see that once their grandchildren are here, it doesn't matter. If you name her Ava, then that's what people should call her... I wouldn't tell someone that if you don't like her name, then you can call her something else. Just my opinion. Good luck.

jamaicagal · February 2010

This is exactly why we don't share our names. I don't want anyone's opinions (and my mom is opinionated and I also have this feeling of wanting to please her), but when it comes to my own childrens names, it's up to me and DH!

katieriedel · February 2010

My mom hates the name we choose, it doesn't matter to me, she loves the baby and she will get over the name when the baby is here. She hated my Nieces name before she was born, it is now one of my moms favorite names.

She will love your LO so much that and dislike for the name will fade away when she sees the name fits your baby so well.

jenick · February 2010

I think it's time you "cut the cord" with your mom. Be a grown up and make some decisions on your own.

We will not be telling anyone the name we choose until the baby arrives. I don't need approval from anyone.

WiscoMom67 · February 2010

AmandaP2008:

This is why we are keeping our picks for names a secret from everyone until the baby is born. One would hope that once the baby is born, no one will tell you at that time that they don't like the name.

Yep... this! It's hard enough for DH and I to find something we both like without trying to please our parents, too!

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